SAY YES TO YOURSELF by Bryan Moss

I’ve noticed many people on the spiritual path don’t have an issue when it comes to helping others in need, it’s when asked if they’ve accepted and love themselves they tend to give some interesting reactions.
The most common reaction is one of being slightly annoyed, responding with an empty, “Of course I accept and love myself.”
Some people are caught off guard with that question because they never even thought about the subject.
Then some people look at you with, “What do you mean?

THE TRUTH IS many on the spiritual journey aren’t used to accepting and giving themselves love. Don’t get me wrong, most have noble intentions and mean well. However, they’re always projecting love out to others first. Like being on auto-pilot. They believe that their sole duty is to serve others, putting themselves on the back burner.

I know I’m going to catch a lot of flack for what I’m going to say next, but these are my true feelings and I wouldn’t be true to my soul if I sugar-coated what I believe just to make readers happy.

In my opinion “sacrifice” is a dirty nine-letter word. I think sacrificing oneself is the ego’s way of making someone feel like they’re special. On a “special mission” to save mankind. To be a “holy hero” among fellow souls. I’ve touched on this in different ways in my previous writings. Putting yourself on the back burner shows you don’t really care about your own well being. Think about it. What difference can you make for others when you don’t care enough to tend to your own needs? What good are you? If you don’t care of your own business first how are you going to be able to give the full, proper attention to anyone else? And I mean taking care of yourself on all levels. Emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually. Getting enough rest, enough water intake, proper nutrition, exercising on a regular basis, having a regular meditation routine, the list goes on.

Self -Love is NOT about loving yourself, it’s about learning the truth about yourself. Read that line again and let it really sink in. Self-Love is NOT about loving yourself, it’s about LEARNING THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF. And ONLY then, when you begin to learn the truth about yourself, can you begin to accept, forgive, and then love yourself FIRST. Only then can you move on and compassionately give that acceptance, forgiveness, and love to others.

It’s no big secret that you can’t accept another person’s faults until you’ve accepted similar faults within your own self. The energetic rule of thumb is, if someone is doing something that makes you angry, or hurt, or even slightly irritated, then you most likely have those same qualities in you that are unresolved. We’re all mirrors of one another. Our egos don’t want us to acknowledge this but it’s true.

The same applies to forgiveness. Have you ever been told by someone they forgive you and it seems ‘robot-like’? It’s just because ‘they’re spiritual’ and this makes them bigger than you because, after all, that’s what spiritual people do is forgive? Start taking an honest look at yourself. Notice any shame or guilt you kept stored inside you for months or most likely YEARS. The stuff you can’t seem to look at again. But do it with a soft eye and remember at that time you handled the experience the best you could. Even if you knew at the time it was a stupid mistake, then acknowledge you made a stupid choice. This is when you begin to take true responsibility for yourself. Forgive yourself for any harm you did at the time, whether it was to yourself or others. Only then can you unconditionally start forgiving others and grow during your journey.
Accepting the truth about yourself is the only way you can even begin to accept the truth about others. It’s not even about two sides of the coin, coming from Yourself vs. Them. The truth is people life is a one-sided coin. We all deal with the same experiences in different shapes and forms. The sooner you wake up to that fact the sooner you’ll begin to eliminate frustration and victimhood from your path.

Here’s another line I’ll probably get grief over: You’re wasting your time giving to others until you unconditionally give to yourself. Everything I’ve previously said applies to this fact. Be vigilant in rediscovering all of the corners in your shadow’s closet. But do it without judging yourself. Acknowledge it and move on. You don’t need permission from anyone to liberate those hidden emotions within. Let me put it this way…..you’re eventually going to do it anyway. Whether it’s now from your own honest efforts or on your death bed. Most people, out of fear, wait until circumstances appear that have them contemplating all of this for months, weeks, days, and at times..moments before they know they’re going to die. It’s only then they realize all of those ‘hidden truths’ were not that important to keep hidden. It’s only then they realize all of the wasted effort and energy it took for them NOT to be truthful with themselves. All of that effort and energy….which could’ve been utilized in more supportive and productive ways, for themselves, and then for others.

DON’T WAIT. Don’t procrastinate in taking a look at the truth of yourself. The number one dreaded enemy of procrastination is “the sooner the easier”.
Say “YES” to discovering all of the truth about yourself.
Why wait?

It’s ALL Backwards by Bryan Moss

 

 Concerning 3D life in general, everything’s backwards.
                        COLLECTIVE SOCIETY / THE MAJORITY:
 We’re raised to believe ‘blood is thicker than water’, ‘put your loved ones before yourself’, ‘only professionals can help you’, ‘plan every step into the future, that’s the only way to succeed’, ‘you need to force your way to get results’, ‘life’s goal is enlightenment’, ‘the powers to be have your best interest in mind’, ‘don’t reflect on the past, just move ahead’, ‘showing anger and sadness isn’t being spiritual’, ‘standing your own ground is being selfish’, ‘worry about what others think of you’, ‘war and violence is part of being human’, ‘your “higher power” is only “out there” somewhere’, ‘you have to prove yourself “worthy” to be loved by your “higher power”, ‘only others can give you approval’, ‘meditation is for yogas and monks’, ‘go with the crowd’, ‘ignore your past’, ‘agree to do everything’, ‘you need to figure it out’, ‘an eye for an eye is the only justice there is’, ‘everybody is out to get you’……
                      THE AWAKENED WARRIOR:
 …realizes taking care of one’s needs first, so she/he has a balanced life, is a good solid base to start with. If you put others before yourself, energetically you risk falling apart physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually because you’re all ‘spent’. Then what good are you for them, or for yourself, to begin with?  Taking time to consolidate one’s energy is the first step on one’s journey. Once that foundation is established you can then decide whom to help when and where.
 The A.W. (Awakened Warrior) has learned expending his/her energy on ‘planning ahead’ and ‘mapping out every single step’ is wasted energy. The A.W. welcomes the journey of the unknown. Knowing that life is energy in different forms and it’s always changing, the A.W. embraces the unknown knowing it is useless to try to control any outcome.
 The A.W. realizes the force that created her/him is the same force within their Hearts, thus not having to give away any power and energy to anyone or thing ‘out there’. They know that any answer required is always carried within the divinity of the Heart.
 The A.W. walks in humbleness and gratefulness knowing any power required resides within the Heart’s loving chambers. Coming from there, the A.W. is never ashamed, guilty, or afraid to shed a tear in sadness or joy. Being able to express the Truth, when it is felt that Truth needs to be expressed, becomes a habit.
 The Awakened Warrior recognizes the loving soul in everyone, no matter how f____d up they may appear to be.
 The A.W. knows that “everything is perfect the way it is” and doesn’t have to use force of any type, for the power and wisdom of the Creator’s Heart is boundless and patient.
 The A.W. realizes it isn’t about going on the journey to achieve anything (hello? does that new agey word<cough> ‘enlightenment’ ring a bell?).
 The goal ISN’T enlightenment. The goal IS the journey.
 The A.W. learns to transmute any hurt and pain into lessons of wisdom. That being said, the A.W. embraces looking into the childhood years in order to reframe those experiences, as needed, to continue to grow on the journey. For she/he knows that to ignore those childhood experiences will only continue to bring more pain in the future and prevent any further spiritual growth. The A.W. knows not to be hard on her/his self as they realize any misgivings unto others, or one’s self, they created in the past.
 The Awakened Warrior has learned that the key to true love and knowledge is meditating, feeling, and enacting from her/his Heart. When the crowd panics and starts to run, the A.W. BREATHES, remains CALM, and quietly walks the other way. Nothing to fear. Nothing to hide. Choice and actions from the Heart are effortless and clear.
The Awakened Warrior’s true sword is her/his Heart. The A.W.’s true power is stillness and reflection.
 The CON JOB: As we grow up, we’re programmed to think like the Majority/Collective Society (Matrix) via their political, economical, religious and electronic programming. It’s all designed to let us be taken care of by ‘them’. You’re expected to ask no questions. You’re expected to rely on others and slowly give away any responsibility you were created to enjoy. And before you know it you have given up any power you could of claimed your own.
 PAY ATTENTION: The Awakened Warrior comes to realize if your interested in being truly free:
 EVERYTHING Is Backwards. Think about it.