August Message of the Month: Taking Care of Self

by Shiela Reed

It’s very interesting how all the “little messages” throughout the month have been related to taking care of ourselves.  So it must mean that the full message of the month this month needs to be about pulling that all together and finding our own “take-aways” regarding – self-care.

At the beginning of the month – I officially started a new journey of following through with years of “hints” about the importance of re-connecting my physical body back with my mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric selves.  I had a very distinct inner prompting that NOW was the time to do this…  Over the years my physical body took kind of a backseat to my other efforts and for me, well, that’s just how it needed to be I suppose.  It’s funny because odd little ailments would pop up over the years and kind of “force me” to stay out of my usual “physical mode”. In the past I was very much connected to all things “physical” and while of course there are always components of all of these other areas present – often times I would  feel a bit “heavy” or “depleted” in certain areas over others. This easily happens for many of us and while I have been on my own personal journey to balance these out, I have found that the energetic work I have experienced and done has significantly supported bringing things into proper balance and most importantly – assisted me in gaining the much needed reference points for recognizing when things felt like they were going “off tract” prior to it becoming a crisis.

Of course this has taken and continues to take “practice” and regular personal “check-ins” with myself to assure that I am still functioning within my own inner awareness and thus be able to follow my inner promptings without the usual layers of doubt our minds like to throw in the mix… as I’ve said before, it really is a place we just “know” and will recognize once we have that experience… we just have to be able to be in a space that allows us to “hear” it and then recognize that we need to make an immediate adjustment before we spiral too far one way or the other.

This has especially been true of anxiety and depression related symptoms.  Today this topic came as something to expand upon further next month, but know that it is very much how and why so many of us suffer from one or usually BOTH!  We just “miss” our cues to stop the spiral and we get “caught” – until we can find our way out again… this has basically become nonexistent for me anymore thanks to the totality of efforts to balance the mental and emotional and finally the energetic which allowed for ultimate relief.  In the past these states could last for days, weeks, or months.  Obviously this has allowed for very significant changes to occur in my life and is directly related to the multiple parts of self-care I have utilized.

While we learn to catch “cues” – there is another interesting component to taking care of ourselves that came in regarding the importance and need for reflection – but also utilizing that same sense of awareness mentioned above.   I know it often seems important and even necessary to reflect on past life events but I have also been reminded this month that while it is helpful to” look back” – it is important to be aware of why we are doing so.  As an emotional component of self-care – it is crucial to understand the connection this has to our mental and energetic states.  A question that popped up this month regarding this is “am I looking back out of some form of fear?  Or to gain clarity or understanding about a life lesson?”  We will know this by noticing how we “feel” about it or what we “sense” about it – i.e. are we learning and “moving on” or are we dwelling and lamenting over memories?  Some good food for thought…

Overall I have noticed many conversations this month revolving around the importance of “well-being”.  Local gym’s trying to help people get physically fit, local yoga studio’s trying to help guide mental/emotional parts of us with our bodies, spiritual components are found in different forms offering different perspectives for contemplation and I’m even finding my new personal website trying to work on reflecting this concept of how it all connects as the vision of that deepens.  What I have experienced is that a pivotal part of keeping our overall system balanced is realizing that there is an energetic/etheric component to it all and by learning to keep our energy body well – we find deeper connections to the real reason we want to put importance on keeping our physical body well, and our mind emotionally well and our soul spiritually well.  I find the use of energy supporting techniques to be vital to keeping up my energetic immunity and therefore find myself less likely to take on/absorb other energies that are negative and would normally be depleting of my own system.  This has been a new and recent realization and a wonderful take away from my own forever journey to overall well-being.

Clearly, there is a need for balance of each and every aspect of our human existence.  It’s important to remember that they are all connected and being able to discern our own inner promptings about when to adjust is ultimately the goal.  After-all, when we can feel this centered place within us, we find we are much less likely to be caught in extremes one way or the other and more able to function and flow more peacefully throughout our daily lives.

I want to also share something that came in this month as a reminder for those of us that may tend to talk ourselves out  of “taking care of ourselves” –( for whichever number or reasons)  As I thought about my broader “journey” and a desire to help others and how that connects with my personal “journey” of helping myself become a truer version of myself – I also found that I felt some thoughts of “selfishness” – thank goodness my inner connection quickly helped me realize that what I was talking about regarding “taking care of myself” was actually not selfish at all!  In reality it is the best way I/we can be and thus be in positions to help others.  As I had asked my higher self – “what would be the most important focus in regards to helping others and myself/ourselves” – and the answer was “to continue to be focused on me and my journey and the self-love that shines forth will be what helps others to see – not any one particular thing I would “do”.

I am sure this is true of each of us…we are each important to ourselves first and then how we are connected to the world around us.  So focus on you and listen to what your system tells you you need.  Remember there is an ebb and flow of each component.  Changes and adjustments are often needed and are ok along the way.  May you find a solid connection to your inner compass (your true you) by learning to utilize your energy body and connecting within to continue your own journey to well-being and balanced.

And so it is…

Shiela

BREATHE by Bryan Moss

 

 You get to your place of work. Parking your car you notice the time on your dashboard and you’re barely on time. You were hoping to come in early to prepare for a presentation to give at a quarter past the hour. So you feel a little rushed, but at least you are on time and not late. Just as you slam the car door shut…actually, it’s the in-between time from releasing the door to when it shuts…you realize you left your keys in the ignition. SLAM!  Your car keys are locked in your car but you don’t have time to deal with whom to call to come get your keys out. You have a meeting your speaking at in less than 15 minutes. You decide to deal with it after the presentation. On your way to your office you swing by the break room to pick up a cup of coffee. The wall clock shows you have 5 minutes to pick up whatever materials you need, from your office, before heading to the conference room. As your taking your first sip of java—-oops! A coworker bumps into you and your nice hot cup of coffee spills all over your blouse or shirt. Wiping the liquid off, you manage to get the materials from your office and head to the conference room. Visions of giving an important presentation with a coffee stain in full view embarrasses you. Then you have that familiar feeling————-your stressed out!
 Similar scenarios have happened to me. One thing after another, and another, and another just pile up. And when there’s a deadline involved..yikes! I know for me, neck and shoulders tense up, my adrenaline is flowing,  my heart’s racing, all of this while I feel perspiration under my arms and across my forehead. I get irritable but, because it’s a formal situation, can’t express the frustration and anger.
 Then victimhood moves into my brain’s neighborhood. “Why does this always happen to ME?” “It never fails. There’s always something that happens when I’m about to do something important.”
 I use to wonder ‘how can I manage this onslaught of life’s events’?
 Then I discovered…to BREATHE. No matter how rushed you are, it’s possible to take a quick ‘time out’ and inhale slowly, filling your lungs to capacity, then slowly exhale. Doing something so simple can help “reset” the moment. Putting your system on “pause” can slow down the momentum of life’s onslaught of events, helping to take the edge off.
 Remember to SLOWLY fill your tummy with air first and then continue on up your lungs, taking in as much as comfortably possible. Then release the air in reverse order. Slowly exhaling the air from the lungs and then out of the abdomen. Pause….repeat again. But this time, pause a moment or two between the inhale and exhale. If you must, do it again.
 Did you know when exhaling it’s mentally impossible to think a thought? That brain noise ceases to exist for a moment. Often it only takes that brief period for your whole system to regroup and reset your thoughts and feelings. In the above scenario, when picking up the materials in your office, right after the coffee spill and before heading off to the meeting, it would’ve been the right time to drop everything and spend 30 to 60 seconds resetting through slowly breathing. Consciously breathing, and slowly at that, brings me back into the “moment” without thoughts of past or future events. Instead of going into “Why me?” that simple act can help put things into proper perspective.
 In the conference room, instead of worrying how I would look to others with a big stain and wishing it would go away, perhaps I would address the ‘elephant in the room’ and refer to it. I’d point to it and comment, “I bumped into someone while having coffee. My shirt is more awake than I am so my shirt will be doing the presentation this morning.” Having to bring everyone’s attention to it WILLINGLY takes away the embarrassment and discomfort of having to talk with a noticeable stain, therefore, having everyone focus on your presentation instead of the stain. Not to mention the awkwardness is removed from your mind so you’re able to give them your full attention.
 The meeting is finished and all went well. After returning to the office, perhaps I would take a couple more of conscious, slow breaths and ‘exhale’ the residue of the meeting out of my system. Then call AAA or a locksmith to arrange a time to fetch my keys out of my locked car. Doing this simple technique of breathing will also prevent me from taking out these mishaps out on another coworker or, more importantly, holding it all in for the rest of the work day only to take it out on a loved one when I get home.
 The kids are running around playing and screaming, the dog’s barking, the T.V. is on too loud?….BREATHE.
Standing and waiting forever in line at the market?……BREATHE.
Stuck in traffic?…….BREATHE.
It’s simple, takes a moment of your time, and effective. Try it. BREATHE. It’s a beautiful thing.
with love and respect,
bryan

CHOICES Part 2 by Bryan Moss

SCROLL DOWN AND READ CHOICES PART 1 FIRST
Choices….Picking up where I left off in Part 1, being a student (forever) of energy work I’ve come to learn there is no “good” or “bad” when it comes to energy of any type. Energy is energy. Energy has no bias or concern. Energy doesn’t judge either. Energy doesn’t decide what’s good or bad. Energy has no invested interest in the outcome. This reminds me of the argument of guns. Are they good or bad? Well, do guns have emotions and thoughts? Do they go to G.A. (well Guns Anonymous, of course)? Do they stand up during the meetings and go,” Hi. My name is “six shooter” and I killed a squirrel today.” Most of the time the answer always leads to how is the gun being used? Which leads to who’s holding it? The same thing with energy. It’s how we choose to use it…
 …which brings us back to choices. To look at choices as being a form of energy is a tough one for all of us to wrap our minds around. I know I was raised to believe in dualism. No matter what happens we always put on a label of it being good or bad. We’re conditioned into thinking/judging everything and everyone, within every situation we encounter, by that basic criteria…”good” or “bad”. As children we get “good” grades or “bad” grades. Thus, we’re ingrained with “dualism”. Dualism externalizes life in general. The word “division” comes to mind, with that age, old war strategy…”Divide and Conquer”…which is the exact opposite of “Oneness”. Dualism is really a step away from Oneness. And a step closer to ego’s passion for judgement. And of course judgement entails “good” or “bad”….
 …here’s the tricky part…I’m learning to get rid of the concepts of “good” and “bad” and to acquire the art of observing from my Heart. The divinity within our Hearts comes from unconditional Oneness. My journey within has shown me Oneness is truth. Dualism is false. My journey continues to show me choices made from my Heart gives me clarity. Choices from my mind eventually gives me confusion and doubt, where “good” and “bad” are mixed right in there. My Heart space is also where I’m held accountable for any choices along my journey. Instead of blaming others, or circumstances, I try to accept whatever is presented and, from my Heart, DISCERN the choices I should make. Discernment dispels “good’, “bad”, “right’, “wrong” and certainly “dualism”. Discerning entails aligning with what’s true for my journey on planet 3D and sorting out the programming I was raised to believe were the ways of God. As written in a previous blog of mine, “ARE YOU IN or OUT?”, the only way I’ve learned anything, in regards to my inner truth, is going within and taking an unbiased look at myself….easier said than done, but necessary. The deeper I go down the rabbit hole the more apparent it is to me that “good” or “bad” are meaningless terms/concepts. Certainly NOT the sacred rules of life, nor my personal journey. I’m learning my favorable choices are made from discernment.
 The bottom line: Under the Truth umbrella: Choices=Discernment From My Heart
 In other words, instead of relying on evidence from “out there” to give me the tools to make choices in life, I always go within my Heart and then observe any situation from there.
 And then listen….and FEEL the choice before making it. Everyone has “Heart Strings” within. Play those strings with music of introspection, learn how to discern and then choose. If it turns out to be the wrong choice? Write it up to experience and make another choice.
 My journey has been, and will continue to be, about Choices.
With Respect and Love,
Bryan

CHOICES: Part 1 by Bryan Moss

 Choices. It’s all about choices. I’ve noticed my life’s journey is comprised of designs. Or designs comprised……..of dominoes? Each domino represents a choice. Slightly tip over one domino (a choice), which tilts, then falls onto the next domino (creating another choice)..and the journey continues. Is it fair to say one can choose to be on a journey or not? I don’t know about that. It seems to me all of us are on our own “journey” whether we acknowledge it or not. This journey being “life” in general.
 One person, let’s call him Guru Man, chooses to seek God in the mountains of Tibet while Sports Fan Man chooses to lay back in his favorite arm chair watching a football game on the T.V. set. Yet both are on a journey. Is one better than the other? I’ve come to realize…who am I to say? Guru Man is up in the mountains to have no distractions from the “outside” and be present. He’s looking to be at “one” with themselves/God. To be more “spiritual”. Some would suggest Guru Man is more evolved than Sports Fan Man, but is he really?
 There are no distractions for Sports Fan Man as he’s watching his favorite player catch that pass and paying attention to the stats. He’s being totally present. He’s at one with that T.V.set, his ball team, and every other sports fan of that game. Guru Man seeks to be and live love. Sports Fan Man is already loving very moment presented to him. He’s living his love. Between the two, who’s more “evolved”? Of the two journeys, which choice is more “meaningful”? Which is more “important”? Which choice is a good one and which is a bad one?
 How about neither. From an energy worker’s perspective I’ve discovered there are no good or bad choices. No right way or wrong way. I’ll share my findings in my next blog: Choices Part 2.
 Peace and Love,
Bryan

The Enlightenment Mouse Trap by Bryan Moss

  Enlightenment….When one chooses to go the spiritual route, she/he can encounter a multitude of mouse traps along the way. These traps have you thinking you’re progressing along your journey when, in fact, you’re going around and around the merry-go-round.
 Enlightenment…. Not the average goal for your ordinary kind of guy, or gal. To shed off the weight of society’s  expectations and rules and regulations to a state of “nothingness/absolute awareness/pure bliss”…. Enlightenment is the main goal. We begin our journeys and breathe for it, eat for it, turn our bodies into pretzel shapes for it, buy books on it, sing for it, hum for it, chant for it, we want..want..want..<snap!> the Enlightenment mouse trap just got you!
 Here’s a secret about achieving enlightenment…it most likely isn’t going to happen. Stop wasting your time and energy. Watch out!! Just when I figured out how to look within and not “out there” somewhere, then <snap!> I find myself going for the enlightenment goal. I know from my own experiences it can be exhausting and frustrating. I suggest there’s another way that’s way more productive. I had to change my perspective. The actual goal isn’t about reaching an “end’ (enlightenment).
 The goal, in this case,………….is ongoing.
 Get that? The goal ISN’T the end..it’s ONGOING. The goal IS THE JOURNEY ITSELF. Focusing on the actual work I’m doing within myself IS the journey. I’ve come to realize this is how I can achieve wisdom. This is how I can become responsible for what I’ve created in my life. Paying attention to my journey I find a new found love and respect for myself and others. Nothing goes by unnoticed. I now proudly wear the cloak of gratitude with each experience I live within my journey. What relief! It’s not about striving for anything or looking into the future. It’s about “being” and “feeling” the experiences of life on a moment to moment basis. That’s it! Now we can avoid the enlightenment smoke screen and, literally, tend to matters at hand.
With respect and Love,
Bryan

Are you IN or OUT? by Bryan Moss

 I think of some words from the opening remarks from that old 1960’s Star Trek series, “..to boldly go where no man has gone before.” Who needs outer space exploration when there’s already plenty of exploring within your own body, mind and Soul/Heart? We’re raised to go ‘outward’ for help whenever something occurs. We’re told to ‘seek professional help’ when in all sorts of troubles. [Don’t get me wrong. If all of the sudden you’re having major chest pains get medical help ASAP. Don’t be stupid. Use discernment.] We’re raised to think, for the most part, that we can’t do it ourselves. ‘It’– meaning handling life’s circumstances as they occur. We’re raised to seek power. Seek ‘out there’ for answers. Look for that book with all the answers. Buy all the ‘spiritual’ gizmos and gadgets to help your life.
 But there’s one problem. You’re never happy and satisfied. You’re always looking for more. What’s that definition of ignorance? To keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results? So if looking ‘out there’ is a never ending quest of unsatisfying answers, then what?
 A suggestion….go the other way. WITHIN……. Within yourself. First and foremost, get back in touch with your Heart. Learn to feel again. Some of us have to relearn how to feel with our hearts again. We’ve become so busy protecting them, because of past heartaches, that we’ve forgotten how to feel again. And I mean REALLY feel…not think you know how to still feel. Really get in touch with your Heart. How? Remember how you use to love whomever or whatever? A past romance? The smell of your favorite thing baking in the oven? Your favorite pet? A rainbow after a rain? The tender kiss of a loved one? Just recall what that felt like. And then try an experiment. Take that feeling and apply it to yourself. How does that feel? Grateful or disdainful? Do you feel worthy of being loved? Of loving yourself? Or can you even do it? Chances are, like most of us at the start of our journey, you’re not that comfortable with it.
 Where does one go from there? Take a look at it. Why are you not comfy? When in your life did that mindset start? Not to get all New Agey and all, but usually everyone’s ‘stuff’ originates from childhood. I found when I started to take a look at those patterns in life I didn’t care for, and followed the patterns into the past, they always took me into my childhood. All of the programming and conditioning, all of the ‘free will thinking’ that was learned, any fears, phobias, reactions….all of it originated from when I was a very young whipper snapper. Can we blame our parents and teachers for raising us this way? Not really. It’s not their fault because they were raised the same way. They didn’t know any better.
 Your Heart always has the answers. Start feeling with your Heart again.  Treat yourself and meet your inner child. Get to know her/him again. Many people are afraid to do this journey. It’s confronting. It reveals our shadow aspects. It requires honesty. It  requires persistence. It requires patience to listen to our inner child’s needs and unexpressed feelings. And in time, we find ourselves reframing our perspectives of past hurts and heartaches to healthier ones. We find little “lessons”. We start to rediscover and feel the Love within. We rediscover the God source as we remove the layers of hurts and heartaches from our past.
 A quick personal experience: A few years ago, through Self-Unification and Transcodes, I did my first Inner Child transmission. After closing my eyes and recalling heartfelt feelings with the intention of meeting “little Bryan”, there was 5 yr. old Bryan standing in front of me. Shy. Not sure what to do. I greeted him and asked him if he’d like to sit beside me and talk. He began sharing stories of perceived past ‘wrongs’ at his age that mom and dad did. He eventually sat on my lap and I held him as we cried in each other’s arms. I remember telling ‘little Bryan’, “They (my parents) didn’t know any better Bryan. They truly did love you. They were trying the best they could with whatever they knew at that time. They always loved you. They just didn’t know any better.”
 After that session I felt like a million pounds was lifted off my shoulders. I felt noticeably lighter. These days, because of having done several sessions with ‘little Bryan’, I’m more understanding of other people. Eventually I realized all of those other people have their own ‘little Bryans, or Berthas, or Gertrudes, or Sams..within them…just waiting to be acknowledged and loved again.
 So are you In or Out?
 With respect and Love,
Bryan