January Message of the Month – Action and Growth

by Shiela Reed

Earlier this month I got a couple back to back “pings” for a message of the month topic and today I hear a combination of the two…

Jan 16th = Action
What does action look like for you?
Do you immediately think of physical movement? What about the underlying stuff

Jan 17 = growing stronger
“Find a way to grow stronger…
you’re the only one who can do it…”

As we explore what it means for each of us to be “active” and learn how to follow the inner truth and promptings, we ARE actually “growing stronger”.

It’s funny because in my younger years I was physically strong and found my inner work to be my own, but without focus or guidance. Yes there were plenty of struggles and I guess that’s “normal” for much of that phase of life… I took my physical life for granted as many of us probably do/did… then as I went through another phase of life, I became aware that my inner connection had been “neglected” so I dove head first into “addressing” that…finding the missing “direction” and guidance. While that was VERY much needed I’ve had an awareness the last few years, that I ended up becoming VERY disconnected from my physical body and now have physical things that have manifested and I now must “address”…

It wouldn’t have had to be this way, but while I accept that my journey is what it needs to be for me, I want to share now how I find it as an ironic example of the “extremes” I’ve always lived. An “all or nothing” lifestyle, (or changes from one extreme to another), struggling desperately to find balance between two polar opposites that seemed to never want to “get along”… while YES, ultimately the “lesson” of “how” to balance comes from within each of us and from a spiritual kind of place, I am finding a new “struggle” in dealing with physical things that have never been a part of my life limitations. While parts of this could easily be “blamed” on aging, deep down I do not buy this for myself. I know within my heart why this is presenting itself and it is an awareness that I will continue to explore and work on.

There are elements of patience, self love, and acceptance that immediately come forward. A deeper aspect that I tend to keep very private, is that I have finally admitted to myself that the “inner world” and workings of my life are NOT where I find discomfort, nor has it ever been.. yes “hard” at times, but something I don’t want to ever look at?.. not really… sure I will avoid just as anyone else, but eventually I keep looking and have always enjoyed that process… even when it initially feels “painful”… in reality, what I have found is that I have much more difficulty with this physical life… so it could seem easier to just “not be a part of it” sometimes and that was MUCH easier for me to “overlook” when I did not have to pay much attention to my physical self. I learned ways to “check out” from myself pretty well.

Action for me has meant MANY things, depending on the “phase” of life, the lessons I’ve been willing to learn, and how open I’ve been to continue to take new steps following my hearts path. THIS is what is helping support my growth each day. Which will always be an opportunity of choices for me. There is no need to get caught up in or restricted by singlur definitions of “action” and “growth” because in the end it’s our own anyway right?!

So, here it is, kind of “full circle” in kind of a way. I found a year or so ago that I need to connect my two. Instead of always one or the other. I’ve had my focus on physical, I’ve had my focus on spiritual/inner work, now for the yin and yang to circle… Yes, a need for balance will always exist. We come to that realization in different way and at different times and in multiple intensities.

Connecting the emotional, spiritual, and physical is due for an “upgrade” in my book. 😊

I hope you find “food for thought” here that assists you in finding your own action and ultimately a new layer of growth on your personal journey.

Much peace and love
Shiela

A New Year Reflection of 2018 – by Shiela Reed

A year in review.. while there have been majorly significant events occur in my personal life, it has also been a year of major shifting of energies for everyone across time and space.

Our world is always changing and while there have been large shifts in history, this year is one of them for us in this lifetime. While this time is one of transformation, we all are feeling the mental, emotional, and even physical effects of the energetic shifts of the universe that we do not “see”… there is a HOPE for a future of peace.

There is such a natural desire to reflect and ponder on our year(s) past, while also dreaming into the next year and our future ones. Yet innately we know we cannot linger in either place too long. The memories of the past and the activities of the future only exist TODAY. And this is when we create our new awareness.

While it is important to have our moments and live in the experiences full of all kinds of emotions, I am reminded that my fears of losing memories and/or of not being able to control an outcome often sidetrack me from what I’m needing to be present for and truly save within my heart.

I have struggled this year with anger, frustration and loss. I have also found deep meaning and profound balance. I have found peace in solitude as well as my way back to interest in connecting with people of my own choosing. I have felt weak, sad, and alone but less lonely. I have felt fierce, strong, and confident.

My experiences have been many… there has been much self reflection and following of inner guidance. I have felt an incredible shift within myself and the collective as a whole. I’ve closed the year sharing a level of vulnerability that I have frequently been too uncomfortable to share, only to find my greatest strength.

Although the last few years of contemplation and self awareness work have been necessary and much needed. (Much like a winter slumber or change of season) I feel it is time for activity and movement… a time of positive change and fruition.

I am ever so grateful to have the new tools to appreciate one of the most heartbreaking times and then one of the most rewarding times of my life this year. (I will write on these at a different time when prompted to do so) Instead at this moment I am being asked to share this broader reflection and message of a year ending and a new year beginning.

My desire is to add positive energy to this year.. I hope to continue to grow more personally and increase the opportunities for sharing of my gifts of support and guidance to those that wish to have my assistance.

This year I encourage us all to spread kindness not gossip
Share love not hate
Allow all feelings, let go of the outcomes and enjoy the experiences by being present in each and every moment.

I hope you will join me…
Peace, Love, and Blessings to one and all

Shiela

December Message of the Month – Our Life

by Shiela Reed

Originally posted December 18th 2018  (how ironic that the website went down after posting this and I had to “reset it” to the the day before this – Dec 18th is the day my world started to change forever… I am glad to have been reminded to revisit this.. more true than I could have even imagined it was going to be.)

It’s our life after all… to make choices… for better or worse.. it will be “good” or not… we live it based on how we choose.

I’ve written before about choices …seems like a simple enough topic, yet when you really try to narrow it down it’s actually a lot more complicated than that. From an emotional standpoint of course, so it’s more about the “choosing” that’s complicated. The actual act of “The Choice” can be difficult but in reality the hard part is already done. Digging into the emotions, acknowledging the emotions, being aware of underlying things and not just being “reactionary”… yep, THAT’S the hard part.

So what is one to do? Today I find myself having these questions. I’ve had these questions before.. I find some answers.. I find more questions… today some of those things remain the same and some of those things I find something different…

One thing remains the same, and it’s the ME factor. I am the part that remains center to it all. Even when I feel far “off center”, it is still me. My own “good and bad” is defined my ME. My love, happiness, pain, suffering… is mine by my choosing. I’m learning to be ok with that. I’m also learning that when I’m NOT, then it is only ME that can dig around and find a new “definition”. Or a way to acknowledge what I’m going through and decide to FEEL it ALL THE WAY THROUGH!

No short cuts when we make a “choice”… if we do, then we miss the whole “lesson” or “learning moment” and it will just reappear in another place as a “new choice”….

I share this today as this year and month has been a challenge on many levels. Both for me personally and I know for many others. Not exactly “good” or “bad”, as I prefer to have a definition based on “opportunity”. Yet the “opportunities” this year have come with what feels like a “price”. And while that is true to me, I also realize it’s more about some of my own resistance and struggle to “DO the choices” while also acknowledging the need to keep moving forward toward NEW choices.

Although a bit cliche, it never gets old to me.. life is a dance, a journey, a cluster of experiences.. I “dance” and “go” where I want and where I choose. Our lives are built from experience to experience… it just gets hard sometimes to “see” because there are so many at once. (Thinking of another cliched phrase- but a bit opposite- “can’t see the trees, for the forest” instead of the “forest for the trees”)

Regardless, it’s OUR LIFE… Live it as well as you choose. While allowing the Grace to “go through it” even when it’s messy and hard and we desperately seek Peace, that deep down we already know is at the center of US.

May you find peace, blessings, and courage as we end this year and begin anew, with the spirit of embracing change and acceptance through the allowance of lifes path.

Much love
Shiela

 

November Message of the Month – The Power of Love/”Prayer”/Combined Energy with Intent

by Shiela Reed

The regular theme for this month has been about Love – and the appearance of “different forms” – yet as we find the root of the intentions, the ones done with the “love” and of “trust – in divine right timing” with the collaboration of the two is what has been swirling around this month.  I wrote this earlier in the month and had not posted it and find today that it seems to fit with the “theme”…. so it is shared with you out of heartfelt gratitude and love as the message of the month.  I truly hope you have found your way through this month and find these words and the heart and love behind it, as the “cherry on top” for November….

I have and ALWAYS will believe in the power of “prayer”/good vibes/ love intended energy… whatever you want to call it… at the same time I am fully aware and also believe in “divine right timing”… so.. how does that fit together? Let me share a personal example….
Today (Nov 11 2018) my very elderly dog, Bosco, who has been with me through MUCH in life.. good and really not good… 16+ years worth at this point mind you… he is my “soulmate dog”.
Well, he woke up and had a new “issue”… his back right hip went out just while walking across the floor. To sum this up, here are his “issues”: separation anxiety most of his life (he is a rescue dog and has been with me since age 1 – our life together is yet another story ?)
heart failure (meds since age 12),
Chronic Dislocated back left knee
And today this…

I share this to also create a story for you… I full well know and realize he will not be with me forever. Which is true of anyone or anything, ourselves included. So, while we KNOW this, I myself continue to be amazed at how I can still get so “off center”, that I am not present for today’s joy’s in my current life and become so enveloped with fear. Yet, embracing and then releasing the pains of the future that tend to so easily trap me in fear and worry is not as easy as “a wish, or desire, or words”… even knowing “nothing here we try to hold, is forever”… it takes that regular and frequent checking within, re-centering, re-grounding, and “catching it” before it goes into a “loop”…

I was already in a loop from the previous week, which was already added on to by the previous week… and I “knew” I had some things to “tend to”, but I chose to “put it aside”, wait, do it differently, I really don’t know.. except my inner me told me to address it back then, and I didn’t. My ego/mind latched on to the “fears” and away we went with story after story of “what if’s”…

So flash forward to today and this event…

I was in tears, I feared the worst, even knowing “if it’s time, it’s time, there is nothing I can do about it”… I did my best to allow myself to feel the fear, say it out-loud, let it fly into the wind, and accept what was to be, without having to “know it” right now. Of course I found myself wanting to “control”.. but what this situation did do was force a shift on me that desperately needed to be released…so, as it started to “unfold”, I felt my heart reference point say “let go of the pain”… this one situation is NOT what this is all about….
I then knew from my heart that my intentions for asking friends and loved ones for “prayers/good vibes” was to request the energetic support for me and Bosco to go through WHATEVER was to be next…
That is exactly what I believe these “requests” are about. A true self asking other true selves for “support” in a time of need… even when asking for something specific, our inner selves already are connected to the Divine and knows what we need… the mind just wants to be involved… so, even though we “pray” for healing and may mentally have an opinion about what that looks like, deep within, when we truly trust and have faith… we know whatever comes, is simply meant to be. We just may not be able to see the type of “healing” that we actually “really” need.

So, as I let go, and allowed for whatever support came forward to come to me and Bosco… I was able to release the majority of the previous several weeks worth of “stuff” and be in a place I needed to be, so I could lovingly be present in this important moment for me, my current situation and my honored relationship with my sweet furry companion.

As we went to the vet, Bosco was calm, and I knew within it was all “ok”.. whatever that ended up looking like, didn’t matter as much anymore. I surrendered… today, the news was not catastrophic, there were options, possible solutions, and while that made my mind stay on the background, I felt in my heart, the whole event was needed for healing… not just in Bosco…

And with that, I find great humbleness and gratitude in the power of “prayer”… I was not “alone”, the “energy field” of lovingness and truth was all around, and I felt safe to be present in my space, in each moment, with him and each situation the rest of the day.
Thank you friends for “holding space” for us today… know I will always intend to do the same for you.
Much love
Shiela

October Message of the Month – One Thing at a Time

by Shiela Reed

One thing at a time. Slow your breathing and you’ll slow your mind, then everything else will follow. Take your time. It is all OK as it is.

It is so hard to slow down and focus on one thing at a time. I often find myself racing from one thing to another without being consciously present in any of it!  This is actually detrimental to any progress and a misguided notion that we “should do more”… for example, I am a firm believer that multi-tasking is a myth and has misguided MANY of us! As we become more and more separated and distracted from being fully present in a moment or task, we ultimately find we aren’t really being “good” at any one thing at all!

As I’ve become more aware of this, I have found this is a root of much of my anxiousness. I actually feel better and in tune with my inner voice when I pay attention to this “signal” and remind myself to slow down. Lately this has been extra intensified and with all the energetic shifting going on around all of us, I know I am not the only one.

For example, right now I feel a strong need to “de-clutter” more. But letting go of things feels difficult. I know this is a sign that I have some work to do in this area. I’ve tried a little at a time by focusing on one area or theme. i.e. clothes, stored items.. things where I KNOW I have things that can “go” and I won’t “die” if I actually DO get rid of them, (haha) but you know, I still only end up being able to ditch a few things! What the heck?! I can actually FEEL the anxiety underneath, the “fear” of “what IF” I need this “someday”?! Another “thought” is about how the item reminds me of something, someone, or an event/time.. and I worry I will “forget” the memory.   I take a next step and wonder WHY is this coming in like this?  What is the REAL reason I am holding on?..
Knowing from my inner heart space that this is necessary for me to “make room” for anything new, why is it still so hard? I also know that it pulls me into the past, which intuitively I know can serve a purpose, (understand and learn from the past type of thing) but can becomes a problem when I can’t “hear” or “see” a flexible future. Instead I feel limited or restricted. Those are signs that I’m not in the moment or trusting my heart. Instead there is an overlay of a fear of something…

So I keep going back to “one thing at a time”, over and over and over. Resetting myself… starting by just realizing it and then trying to just focus on the moment and asking myself if this (item, situation, person, feeling) is important for me or to my “best/ true inner self “.
Sometimes it is, and is clearly only “for now”, sometimes it is not, but I have to acknowledge there is something deeper going on if I cannot “let it go”.   Either way, it is important to not get caught here and thus not be able to move on, one way or the other.

Therefore, right now, all I’m able to do with those moments, is to practice another form of “one thing at a time” and realize that some things I’m just not ready to deal with, so I set it aside and work on NOT getting caught up in a mental loop about it.

It’s been such a theme this month that it has felt important to share. If for no other reason but to say “hang in there”. “One foot in front of the other”. “One thing at a time”. And I’m discovering that it doesn’t mean that each “thing” always gets “done”. Sometimes, it’s just being in the moment of whatever is going on, and then moving on to a next moment while accepting that becoming overly “obsessed” about finishing something, is probably going to end up counter productive.

So join me and pick one “focus” at a time and take it easy… Enjoy, appreciate, and fill it with love.
After all, it is what will provide us the support and solid base for all things that will come to us in our future.

Many blessings
Shiela

August message of the month – Embrace the Journey –

By Shiela Reed

Sometimes looking around and appreciating where we have come from is more important than being “right” in a debate or discussion. Whether with ourselves or others, what if instead of being aggravated or “disappointed” or angry, we were appreciative, humbled, and excited about how far we have come in our life? Whether leaps and bounds or tiny steps – it doesn’t really even matter the “direction”… our labeling and judgement about it is what gets us side tracked and we end up missing the true point in our journey.

While we are here to grow and learn and have a physical experience in our humanness and there is individuality in that, we also are part of a larger collective (society, communities, etc.) that very much impacts our world.
I often think about my own experiences and the impacts they have had on my journey and find even the hardest of them I have found appreciation for. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to see the growth we gain from the difficulties we encounter.

Similarly when we can appreciate the same flow of nature and our world… acknowledging that without rain, there is no growth or life. Without some natural “destruction” there is no “rebuilding” (i.e. fires, hurricanes, tornadoes). The earth system naturally will “rebalance” and it’s not about the “good or bad” of it.
It’s what ends up happening “with it” and after it that counts. Which way will it go? What is the overall reaction?

Nature and Earth – Gaia – will “balance” out. Our own energetic reactions is part of it all as well… if we (individually and/or collectively) react in extreme ways, there will be counter reactions from elsewhere too. It’s as if what we “create” gets “fed” and grows… panic, worry, fear, hostility… just as will safety, peace, comfort, and love. As we go through our own individual journeys and find our ways to become “balanced” (which is that ebb and flow of all the emotions in a closer, smoother and “truer” to our heart center) we can find a sense of peace here.

We will naturally know this state of being… it’s from where we came… embracing the journey through it all is when we can find peace and acceptance in allowing ourselves and others to truly be in harmony, despite our different paths.

As “kumbaya” as this all sounds, the realities of the facts are, not everyone will see it this way, and their journey may appear to be in conflict with our own. Take note and make your own boundaries as respectfully as can be done, and determine your own choices and own them.
At the end of it all, YOU are responsible for YOU and where your journey has been and where it is headed, all based on your moment by moment choices each day.

So, I hope you deeply embrace your journey from your heart, are open to the acceptance of your past by releasing all judgement, and gain exitment in allowing for your future to unfold without fear or restriction.
Much love and blessings
Shiela

Compassion before Judgement

by Shiela Reed

Think before speaking.. sounds like it should be easy right?

Well, not always…  when tragedy strikes everyone tends to be so quick to jump to conclusions. Everyone has opinions, but that’s all they are, they rarely have all the information, yet they pass it around like they have all the answers and know it all or have always made correct and perfect decisions themselves.

Why does everyone have to pass judgement so quickly when there is always more to a story? It’s sad that all the opinions and rhetoric rarely ends up changing anything. In actuality we end up spending so much more time crushing, demoralizing, and knocking people down rather supporting and building each other up.   Where is the compassion for a fellow lost sole?  Or for ALL involved, even the ones we classify as being “their fault”?

As an energetic empath/sensitive these days I am actually more saddened and effected by HOW people are treating each rather than the events and disasters that occur. It’s interesting how easy it is to accept the sadness when there doesn’t appear to be anyone to blame. (i.e. natural disaster) But in reality, we tend to dig really hard to find SOMEONE to blame and condemn.

Is this a part of the human condition that we can never escape from? Are we “destined” to live in hate, fear, and judgement? Honestly I don’t think everyone is. There are plenty of people trying hard to NOT live like that because they don’t want to. But sometimes it’s overwhelming so it seems easier to hide and be silent. No, there isn’t really a reason to “shout from the roof top” that hey look “I AM RIGHT”!   It’s pointless if it ends up feeding a fight or battle or debate that has no end. Everyone chooses. The end…

So share a different view point, stance, or “opinion” in a loving, kind, genuine way, WITHOUT an outcome expectation that the “masses will see it my way” because THAT is when you are most likely sharing from your heart and likely to be heard…

I tell ya, I wish it didn’t seem so hard to “live in peace” all the time, but I recently heard a good reminder about how without the differences (in thoughts and opinions in this case) that everything would already be construed as “perfect” because it would all be the same.

Thinking on that puts it in perspective – because depending on the group you are part of, their definitions seem “perfect” to them and they want others to be like or with them… so it’s great when we think and act alike, and agree but we just don’t seem to know how to handle it when we don’t.

Although this too is just “an opinion”, one of which you may or may not “agree” with, it’s hoped that it sparks additional thought in your mind because in the end, one of the best things we can do is quiet our mouths long enough to listen and hear and contemplate about other possibilities before we jump to our own and assuming it as the “only way” or “right” one.

For me, this is one of the best parts of writing… it forces me to slow down, think about my words, and what I’m really trying say from my heart.  So, take your time… with yourself and others before putting something “out there” that you can’t take back.

I hope for compassion without judgement for us all.
Blessings and peace

Shiela

July message of the Month – Independence and Freedom

by Shiela Reed

Independence and Freedom

I woke the morning of July 5th 2018 to thoughts of independence and freedom and what that means. It seems like it should be a simple concept, one that you would think we would all have a similar definition for.  But just as most things do, there are often multiple layers.

I was thinking about the different feelings that came up with these words and I became aware that while there is an individual component, there must also include some form of a connection to the collective and others.
I couldn’t help but think about what this looks like for different people as well as different groups of people. Even in how we believe individually that we are or are not connected to others.

This seems to be what happens every day in our lives. The ebb and flow of personal interaction with self and others. All based on our current views. But what does independence for me or you look like? What does freedom look like? How does that shape our environment and the world we live in? Is there a difference in how we define independence and freedom vs how others do? What would it look like in our world if we were always looking for what we are not getting or how we are always wronged by others? Or if we looked at what we already have and appreciated it and how people are doing their best and not out to hurt us?

This really makes me think about what I contribute to my day based on how I’m defining terms that seem like we would all agree on, but I realize we don’t. Then what?
Does one person’s idea/desire/definition of independence and freedom restrict another? Does it have to? How do we know?
I find that I struggle with this just like many people I’m sure. I bring it up as something to ponder, not as if I have an answer. It’s actually pretty heavy to think about, which may be why some just stay within their own views and do not consider that their definition may be in direct opposition to someone else’s definition.

I then ended up thinking about how individually – beyond this life time – we end up having “independence and freedom” from this world/body/the physical – yet we are currently a part of a whole and collective and there is likely a more “universal” definition which maybe we do not or cannot fully see.   After all, as we live among others, there is an underlying natural need to be connected and supported. However if we end up choosing to break that down into smaller and smaller “groups”, we risk missing a level of deeper connection and purpose… that which reaches the depths of our true soul/self and divine creation.

Maybe this is another piece of what we will “know” on the other side… in the meantime I am reminded that we are all just trying to make it and doing the best we can, so if we add a little compassion for others, we are bound to feel it in return.  And in the end we hopefully remember that what we focus on grows and realize it’s important to make note of what feels right in our heart and when something doesn’t, we can acknowledge it and lovingly release it – letting it go past us without holding it.
For me this is where independence lives and true freedom begins.

Peace and Blessings

Shiela

June monthly message – Decisions are Choices and they Make a Difference

Decisions are choices it makes a difference

by Shiela Reed

It’s pretty amazing to consider the true depth of how influential are decisions and choices actually are in every part of our lives
From simple things like what to wear (OK maybe not always so simple haha) to things that may make life more “complicated” – like who (if anyone) to spend our time and life with.

In reality – there are so many of these things that go on each day we often just function on “auto pilot” most of the time without much true “awareness”. Now I’m not saying we need to over analyze things or over think every single move we make – but what if we did bring in a level of awareness that came from the heart? You know, our true inner self space and took some time to consider another way or another angle or if we really want that thought, behavior, etc in our space to begin with.

The reality is our decisions and choices matter. Not just to us but others around us. Are we aware enough to consider the current future of effect on ourselves and others while being true to our inner self?
When it comes from the heart and not an ego driven self centered place, it really does end up as a “greater good” or “right”. For example, who we decide to associate with and allow in our lives has an influence on us. Where we choose to go and how we spend our time and money has an effect on our presence. Even something like sharing your DNA may have connections you have not thought of… remember your intentions are within your control while those of others are not.

So do we end up living in fear of making decisions and choices because there are so many directions each one could actually go? Sometimes we do… so I hope we simply become more aware of WHERE our own intentions are coming from while considering that there are also outside influences we may need to become more aware of. Maybe this could help create more of a balance between not being too cautious or “fearful” with also not being “too open” that we are “naive” or “vulnerable” in an unaware kind of way.

I’m so reminded that there is so much that does make a difference – even if it seems small- It will and does ripple out, even a little – which has an impact of energetic frequency on all of us. So yes, what we say and do to ourselves and others has a lasting impact, at least in this lifetime and possibly even beyond (insert golden rule here) 🙂
It also has influence with our Earth and the energetic flows all around us. So we may end up on the “energy river of the collective” or we may “float on a side stream” of our own. Even though it’s usually a little of both, they will eventually mingle and meet in some way and the effect on us greatly depends on where we are energetically, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually – are we balanced? Are we coming at things from a genuine loving place holding a space of respect for ourselves and others as we observe and contemplate how we really want it to be?

I have to say this month’s message came at me from several different angles and it was as if there was a need to share multiple perspectives, so it was tough to get written down – but as pin has made it to paper, it has remained a simple focus on the importance of just learning a deeper level of awareness that allows decisions and choices to be true, honest, genuine, from a place of love, and held in grace, because it does make a difference.

I hope your decisions lead you to choices that make your true heart happy and resonates with the world in a joyous way.

Peace
Shiela

Depression and Suicide

by Shiela Reed

Sadly there is much talk the last few weeks about depression and suicide.  Take heed and make sure you are taking good care of yourself and being aware of what is around you.  Your choice in people and environment can also effect you.  Remember to be kind and reach out to someone that could use a hello.

It’s probably not as likely as you might think that you would for sure know when someone is contemplating suicide.

It’s a darkened state that never really seems to lift, or at least not for long. A person probably gets good at “fitting in” and “putting on a happy face”.   It starts to feel like that’s the only way it will ever be.

Maybe one day the darkness doesn’t feel like it will ever lift again, or maybe it becomes too hard to put on the show any longer.

It’s probably impossible to ever really know “why” or “what was the final straw”, if there is even such a thing.

I can only tell you from my own experience, that after struggles with depression and having continued to seek out ways to “feel better”, I can now put things together that work for me.

Today, most times are a moment by moment assessment of what my mood is and after having learned about energetic awarenss, I can now actually find relief in knowing it has helped me change enough to not get “caught up in an emotional roller coaster ride” like I used to.

Instead, now I feel like I can honestly CHOOSE and I can “let go” without as much guilt or self judgement.

Don’t get me wrong, it sure the hell doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings, down days, sour moods, or anything else that can come out of the blue. But what doesn’t happen as often is that I don’t feel “trapped there” forever.
It’s hard… it’s not easy when all you want is to talk to someone, a hug, a friend, to feel important, someone to pay attention to you, but you end up sad and looking at “everyone else” and comparing what you “think” others have… when in reality, we all struggle. It’s just that most hide it well or have learned to not linger there as long anymore.  In reality, we ALL need connections.

Sadly we often don’t know how to ask or share experiences genuinely with others because we’ve been wounded. While in the end, the truth is that we have the hardest time truly loving and accepting ourselves first… so we silently struggle.

So to family and friends and survivors, there may have never been anything you could actually have “prevented”, instead the biggest challenge may really be within ALL of us… as every single one of us can learn to be kinder to ourselves, show grace and mercy to ourselves and others, with a genuine human compassion for the life struggles that are unseen in us all.

Again, reach out, be kind, make a positive difference.

May there be peace in your mind, love in your heart, and blessings that come from your tongue.

Shiela

Here is a good resource for anyone that needs help for themselves or a friend or loved one.