November Message of the Month – The Power of Love/”Prayer”/Combined Energy with Intent

by Shiela Reed

The regular theme for this month has been about Love – and the appearance of “different forms” – yet as we find the root of the intentions, the ones done with the “love” and of “trust – in divine right timing” with the collaboration of the two is what has been swirling around this month.  I wrote this earlier in the month and had not posted it and find today that it seems to fit with the “theme”…. so it is shared with you out of heartfelt gratitude and love as the message of the month.  I truly hope you have found your way through this month and find these words and the heart and love behind it, as the “cherry on top” for November….

I have and ALWAYS will believe in the power of “prayer”/good vibes/ love intended energy… whatever you want to call it… at the same time I am fully aware and also believe in “divine right timing”… so.. how does that fit together? Let me share a personal example….
Today (Nov 11 2018) my very elderly dog, Bosco, who has been with me through MUCH in life.. good and really not good… 16+ years worth at this point mind you… he is my “soulmate dog”.
Well, he woke up and had a new “issue”… his back right hip went out just while walking across the floor. To sum this up, here are his “issues”: separation anxiety most of his life (he is a rescue dog and has been with me since age 1 – our life together is yet another story 😊)
heart failure (meds since age 12),
Chronic Dislocated back left knee
And today this…

I share this to also create a story for you… I full well know and realize he will not be with me forever. Which is true of anyone or anything, ourselves included. So, while we KNOW this, I myself continue to be amazed at how I can still get so “off center”, that I am not present for today’s joy’s in my current life and become so enveloped with fear. Yet, embracing and then releasing the pains of the future that tend to so easily trap me in fear and worry is not as easy as “a wish, or desire, or words”… even knowing “nothing here we try to hold, is forever”… it takes that regular and frequent checking within, re-centering, re-grounding, and “catching it” before it goes into a “loop”…

I was already in a loop from the previous week, which was already added on to by the previous week… and I “knew” I had some things to “tend to”, but I chose to “put it aside”, wait, do it differently, I really don’t know.. except my inner me told me to address it back then, and I didn’t. My ego/mind latched on to the “fears” and away we went with story after story of “what if’s”…

So flash forward to today and this event…

I was in tears, I feared the worst, even knowing “if it’s time, it’s time, there is nothing I can do about it”… I did my best to allow myself to feel the fear, say it out-loud, let it fly into the wind, and accept what was to be, without having to “know it” right now. Of course I found myself wanting to “control”.. but what this situation did do was force a shift on me that desperately needed to be released…so, as it started to “unfold”, I felt my heart reference point say “let go of the pain”… this one situation is NOT what this is all about….
I then knew from my heart that my intentions for asking friends and loved ones for “prayers/good vibes” was to request the energetic support for me and Bosco to go through WHATEVER was to be next…
That is exactly what I believe these “requests” are about. A true self asking other true selves for “support” in a time of need… even when asking for something specific, our inner selves already are connected to the Divine and knows what we need… the mind just wants to be involved… so, even though we “pray” for healing and may mentally have an opinion about what that looks like, deep within, when we truly trust and have faith… we know whatever comes, is simply meant to be. We just may not be able to see the type of “healing” that we actually “really” need.

So, as I let go, and allowed for whatever support came forward to come to me and Bosco… I was able to release the majority of the previous several weeks worth of “stuff” and be in a place I needed to be, so I could lovingly be present in this important moment for me, my current situation and my honored relationship with my sweet furry companion.

As we went to the vet, Bosco was calm, and I knew within it was all “ok”.. whatever that ended up looking like, didn’t matter as much anymore. I surrendered… today, the news was not catastrophic, there were options, possible solutions, and while that made my mind stay on the background, I felt in my heart, the whole event was needed for healing… not just in Bosco…

And with that, I find great humbleness and gratitude in the power of “prayer”… I was not “alone”, the “energy field” of lovingness and truth was all around, and I felt safe to be present in my space, in each moment, with him and each situation the rest of the day.
Thank you friends for “holding space” for us today… know I will always intend to do the same for you.
Much love
Shiela

October Message of the Month – One Thing at a Time

by Shiela Reed

One thing at a time. Slow your breathing and you’ll slow your mind, then everything else will follow. Take your time. It is all OK as it is.

It is so hard to slow down and focus on one thing at a time. I often find myself racing from one thing to another without being consciously present in any of it!  This is actually detrimental to any progress and a misguided notion that we “should do more”… for example, I am a firm believer that multi-tasking is a myth and has misguided MANY of us! As we become more and more separated and distracted from being fully present in a moment or task, we ultimately find we aren’t really being “good” at any one thing at all!

As I’ve become more aware of this, I have found this is a root of much of my anxiousness. I actually feel better and in tune with my inner voice when I pay attention to this “signal” and remind myself to slow down. Lately this has been extra intensified and with all the energetic shifting going on around all of us, I know I am not the only one.

For example, right now I feel a strong need to “de-clutter” more. But letting go of things feels difficult. I know this is a sign that I have some work to do in this area. I’ve tried a little at a time by focusing on one area or theme. i.e. clothes, stored items.. things where I KNOW I have things that can “go” and I won’t “die” if I actually DO get rid of them, (haha) but you know, I still only end up being able to ditch a few things! What the heck?! I can actually FEEL the anxiety underneath, the “fear” of “what IF” I need this “someday”?! Another “thought” is about how the item reminds me of something, someone, or an event/time.. and I worry I will “forget” the memory.   I take a next step and wonder WHY is this coming in like this?  What is the REAL reason I am holding on?..
Knowing from my inner heart space that this is necessary for me to “make room” for anything new, why is it still so hard? I also know that it pulls me into the past, which intuitively I know can serve a purpose, (understand and learn from the past type of thing) but can becomes a problem when I can’t “hear” or “see” a flexible future. Instead I feel limited or restricted. Those are signs that I’m not in the moment or trusting my heart. Instead there is an overlay of a fear of something…

So I keep going back to “one thing at a time”, over and over and over. Resetting myself… starting by just realizing it and then trying to just focus on the moment and asking myself if this (item, situation, person, feeling) is important for me or to my “best/ true inner self “.
Sometimes it is, and is clearly only “for now”, sometimes it is not, but I have to acknowledge there is something deeper going on if I cannot “let it go”.   Either way, it is important to not get caught here and thus not be able to move on, one way or the other.

Therefore, right now, all I’m able to do with those moments, is to practice another form of “one thing at a time” and realize that some things I’m just not ready to deal with, so I set it aside and work on NOT getting caught up in a mental loop about it.

It’s been such a theme this month that it has felt important to share. If for no other reason but to say “hang in there”. “One foot in front of the other”. “One thing at a time”. And I’m discovering that it doesn’t mean that each “thing” always gets “done”. Sometimes, it’s just being in the moment of whatever is going on, and then moving on to a next moment while accepting that becoming overly “obsessed” about finishing something, is probably going to end up counter productive.

So join me and pick one “focus” at a time and take it easy… Enjoy, appreciate, and fill it with love.
After all, it is what will provide us the support and solid base for all things that will come to us in our future.

Many blessings
Shiela

August message of the month – Embrace the Journey –

By Shiela Reed

Sometimes looking around and appreciating where we have come from is more important than being “right” in a debate or discussion. Whether with ourselves or others, what if instead of being aggravated or “disappointed” or angry, we were appreciative, humbled, and excited about how far we have come in our life? Whether leaps and bounds or tiny steps – it doesn’t really even matter the “direction”… our labeling and judgement about it is what gets us side tracked and we end up missing the true point in our journey.

While we are here to grow and learn and have a physical experience in our humanness and there is individuality in that, we also are part of a larger collective (society, communities, etc.) that very much impacts our world.
I often think about my own experiences and the impacts they have had on my journey and find even the hardest of them I have found appreciation for. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to see the growth we gain from the difficulties we encounter.

Similarly when we can appreciate the same flow of nature and our world… acknowledging that without rain, there is no growth or life. Without some natural “destruction” there is no “rebuilding” (i.e. fires, hurricanes, tornadoes). The earth system naturally will “rebalance” and it’s not about the “good or bad” of it.
It’s what ends up happening “with it” and after it that counts. Which way will it go? What is the overall reaction?

Nature and Earth – Gaia – will “balance” out. Our own energetic reactions is part of it all as well… if we (individually and/or collectively) react in extreme ways, there will be counter reactions from elsewhere too. It’s as if what we “create” gets “fed” and grows… panic, worry, fear, hostility… just as will safety, peace, comfort, and love. As we go through our own individual journeys and find our ways to become “balanced” (which is that ebb and flow of all the emotions in a closer, smoother and “truer” to our heart center) we can find a sense of peace here.

We will naturally know this state of being… it’s from where we came… embracing the journey through it all is when we can find peace and acceptance in allowing ourselves and others to truly be in harmony, despite our different paths.

As “kumbaya” as this all sounds, the realities of the facts are, not everyone will see it this way, and their journey may appear to be in conflict with our own. Take note and make your own boundaries as respectfully as can be done, and determine your own choices and own them.
At the end of it all, YOU are responsible for YOU and where your journey has been and where it is headed, all based on your moment by moment choices each day.

So, I hope you deeply embrace your journey from your heart, are open to the acceptance of your past by releasing all judgement, and gain exitment in allowing for your future to unfold without fear or restriction.
Much love and blessings
Shiela

Compassion before Judgement

by Shiela Reed

Think before speaking.. sounds like it should be easy right?

Well, not always…  when tragedy strikes everyone tends to be so quick to jump to conclusions. Everyone has opinions, but that’s all they are, they rarely have all the information, yet they pass it around like they have all the answers and know it all or have always made correct and perfect decisions themselves.

Why does everyone have to pass judgement so quickly when there is always more to a story? It’s sad that all the opinions and rhetoric rarely ends up changing anything. In actuality we end up spending so much more time crushing, demoralizing, and knocking people down rather supporting and building each other up.   Where is the compassion for a fellow lost sole?  Or for ALL involved, even the ones we classify as being “their fault”?

As an energetic empath/sensitive these days I am actually more saddened and effected by HOW people are treating each rather than the events and disasters that occur. It’s interesting how easy it is to accept the sadness when there doesn’t appear to be anyone to blame. (i.e. natural disaster) But in reality, we tend to dig really hard to find SOMEONE to blame and condemn.

Is this a part of the human condition that we can never escape from? Are we “destined” to live in hate, fear, and judgement? Honestly I don’t think everyone is. There are plenty of people trying hard to NOT live like that because they don’t want to. But sometimes it’s overwhelming so it seems easier to hide and be silent. No, there isn’t really a reason to “shout from the roof top” that hey look “I AM RIGHT”!   It’s pointless if it ends up feeding a fight or battle or debate that has no end. Everyone chooses. The end…

So share a different view point, stance, or “opinion” in a loving, kind, genuine way, WITHOUT an outcome expectation that the “masses will see it my way” because THAT is when you are most likely sharing from your heart and likely to be heard…

I tell ya, I wish it didn’t seem so hard to “live in peace” all the time, but I recently heard a good reminder about how without the differences (in thoughts and opinions in this case) that everything would already be construed as “perfect” because it would all be the same.

Thinking on that puts it in perspective – because depending on the group you are part of, their definitions seem “perfect” to them and they want others to be like or with them… so it’s great when we think and act alike, and agree but we just don’t seem to know how to handle it when we don’t.

Although this too is just “an opinion”, one of which you may or may not “agree” with, it’s hoped that it sparks additional thought in your mind because in the end, one of the best things we can do is quiet our mouths long enough to listen and hear and contemplate about other possibilities before we jump to our own and assuming it as the “only way” or “right” one.

For me, this is one of the best parts of writing… it forces me to slow down, think about my words, and what I’m really trying say from my heart.  So, take your time… with yourself and others before putting something “out there” that you can’t take back.

I hope for compassion without judgement for us all.
Blessings and peace

Shiela

July message of the Month – Independence and Freedom

by Shiela Reed

Independence and Freedom

I woke the morning of July 5th 2018 to thoughts of independence and freedom and what that means. It seems like it should be a simple concept, one that you would think we would all have a similar definition for.  But just as most things do, there are often multiple layers.

I was thinking about the different feelings that came up with these words and I became aware that while there is an individual component, there must also include some form of a connection to the collective and others.
I couldn’t help but think about what this looks like for different people as well as different groups of people. Even in how we believe individually that we are or are not connected to others.

This seems to be what happens every day in our lives. The ebb and flow of personal interaction with self and others. All based on our current views. But what does independence for me or you look like? What does freedom look like? How does that shape our environment and the world we live in? Is there a difference in how we define independence and freedom vs how others do? What would it look like in our world if we were always looking for what we are not getting or how we are always wronged by others? Or if we looked at what we already have and appreciated it and how people are doing their best and not out to hurt us?

This really makes me think about what I contribute to my day based on how I’m defining terms that seem like we would all agree on, but I realize we don’t. Then what?
Does one person’s idea/desire/definition of independence and freedom restrict another? Does it have to? How do we know?
I find that I struggle with this just like many people I’m sure. I bring it up as something to ponder, not as if I have an answer. It’s actually pretty heavy to think about, which may be why some just stay within their own views and do not consider that their definition may be in direct opposition to someone else’s definition.

I then ended up thinking about how individually – beyond this life time – we end up having “independence and freedom” from this world/body/the physical – yet we are currently a part of a whole and collective and there is likely a more “universal” definition which maybe we do not or cannot fully see.   After all, as we live among others, there is an underlying natural need to be connected and supported. However if we end up choosing to break that down into smaller and smaller “groups”, we risk missing a level of deeper connection and purpose… that which reaches the depths of our true soul/self and divine creation.

Maybe this is another piece of what we will “know” on the other side… in the meantime I am reminded that we are all just trying to make it and doing the best we can, so if we add a little compassion for others, we are bound to feel it in return.  And in the end we hopefully remember that what we focus on grows and realize it’s important to make note of what feels right in our heart and when something doesn’t, we can acknowledge it and lovingly release it – letting it go past us without holding it.
For me this is where independence lives and true freedom begins.

Peace and Blessings

Shiela

June monthly message – Decisions are Choices and they Make a Difference

Decisions are choices it makes a difference

by Shiela Reed

It’s pretty amazing to consider the true depth of how influential are decisions and choices actually are in every part of our lives
From simple things like what to wear (OK maybe not always so simple haha) to things that may make life more “complicated” – like who (if anyone) to spend our time and life with.

In reality – there are so many of these things that go on each day we often just function on “auto pilot” most of the time without much true “awareness”. Now I’m not saying we need to over analyze things or over think every single move we make – but what if we did bring in a level of awareness that came from the heart? You know, our true inner self space and took some time to consider another way or another angle or if we really want that thought, behavior, etc in our space to begin with.

The reality is our decisions and choices matter. Not just to us but others around us. Are we aware enough to consider the current future of effect on ourselves and others while being true to our inner self?
When it comes from the heart and not an ego driven self centered place, it really does end up as a “greater good” or “right”. For example, who we decide to associate with and allow in our lives has an influence on us. Where we choose to go and how we spend our time and money has an effect on our presence. Even something like sharing your DNA may have connections you have not thought of… remember your intentions are within your control while those of others are not.

So do we end up living in fear of making decisions and choices because there are so many directions each one could actually go? Sometimes we do… so I hope we simply become more aware of WHERE our own intentions are coming from while considering that there are also outside influences we may need to become more aware of. Maybe this could help create more of a balance between not being too cautious or “fearful” with also not being “too open” that we are “naive” or “vulnerable” in an unaware kind of way.

I’m so reminded that there is so much that does make a difference – even if it seems small- It will and does ripple out, even a little – which has an impact of energetic frequency on all of us. So yes, what we say and do to ourselves and others has a lasting impact, at least in this lifetime and possibly even beyond (insert golden rule here) 🙂
It also has influence with our Earth and the energetic flows all around us. So we may end up on the “energy river of the collective” or we may “float on a side stream” of our own. Even though it’s usually a little of both, they will eventually mingle and meet in some way and the effect on us greatly depends on where we are energetically, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually – are we balanced? Are we coming at things from a genuine loving place holding a space of respect for ourselves and others as we observe and contemplate how we really want it to be?

I have to say this month’s message came at me from several different angles and it was as if there was a need to share multiple perspectives, so it was tough to get written down – but as pin has made it to paper, it has remained a simple focus on the importance of just learning a deeper level of awareness that allows decisions and choices to be true, honest, genuine, from a place of love, and held in grace, because it does make a difference.

I hope your decisions lead you to choices that make your true heart happy and resonates with the world in a joyous way.

Peace
Shiela

Depression and Suicide

by Shiela Reed

Sadly there is much talk the last few weeks about depression and suicide.  Take heed and make sure you are taking good care of yourself and being aware of what is around you.  Your choice in people and environment can also effect you.  Remember to be kind and reach out to someone that could use a hello.

It’s probably not as likely as you might think that you would for sure know when someone is contemplating suicide.

It’s a darkened state that never really seems to lift, or at least not for long. A person probably gets good at “fitting in” and “putting on a happy face”.   It starts to feel like that’s the only way it will ever be.

Maybe one day the darkness doesn’t feel like it will ever lift again, or maybe it becomes too hard to put on the show any longer.

It’s probably impossible to ever really know “why” or “what was the final straw”, if there is even such a thing.

I can only tell you from my own experience, that after struggles with depression and having continued to seek out ways to “feel better”, I can now put things together that work for me.

Today, most times are a moment by moment assessment of what my mood is and after having learned about energetic awarenss, I can now actually find relief in knowing it has helped me change enough to not get “caught up in an emotional roller coaster ride” like I used to.

Instead, now I feel like I can honestly CHOOSE and I can “let go” without as much guilt or self judgement.

Don’t get me wrong, it sure the hell doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings, down days, sour moods, or anything else that can come out of the blue. But what doesn’t happen as often is that I don’t feel “trapped there” forever.
It’s hard… it’s not easy when all you want is to talk to someone, a hug, a friend, to feel important, someone to pay attention to you, but you end up sad and looking at “everyone else” and comparing what you “think” others have… when in reality, we all struggle. It’s just that most hide it well or have learned to not linger there as long anymore.  In reality, we ALL need connections.

Sadly we often don’t know how to ask or share experiences genuinely with others because we’ve been wounded. While in the end, the truth is that we have the hardest time truly loving and accepting ourselves first… so we silently struggle.

So to family and friends and survivors, there may have never been anything you could actually have “prevented”, instead the biggest challenge may really be within ALL of us… as every single one of us can learn to be kinder to ourselves, show grace and mercy to ourselves and others, with a genuine human compassion for the life struggles that are unseen in us all.

Again, reach out, be kind, make a positive difference.

May there be peace in your mind, love in your heart, and blessings that come from your tongue.

Shiela

Here is a good resource for anyone that needs help for themselves or a friend or loved one.

Declutter

Decluttering

By Shiela Reed

The energies have been coming on strong for over a month now and may feel pretty intense to just throw everything away and start over. Yet there is also a bit of a nagging to “hang on” to everything “just in case”!

That can actually be rather anxiety provoking. I have felt it and have had to remind myself daily to check in with my inner self and allow myself to take a little time to determine if I am functioning on fear or everyone else’s energy rather than my own true prompts.

I’m not gonna lie, it’s hard sometimes!!! It can feel like all or nothing at once. We run or freeze or get angry for no reason due to the underlying “frustration” that we probably don’t recognize.

So far the best things I’m doing are literally stopping what I’m doing and sit still for a few minutes (or more) and breath, relax a little (preferably outside or at least somewhere quiet and non distracting or cluttered with stuff or “feelings”).

Then when I ask myself “do I want to really do this now?” – (funny because I literally just had a wasp land on me out of the blue and get my attention to look up her symbolism as a new totem animal/messenger and it’s very much about new beginnings, focusing on what I want and is important to me as well as becoming more clear on the expressions of myself as I shift and change in the new process I’m going through) i.e. welcome to this website and blog! 🙂

Anyway, to continue 😉 – sometimes the answer might be, “no” never, no not right now, yes now, yes, but adjust a little… etc. Regardless, just listen… follow your prompting. Breath and release through the fear and anxiety. Close your eyes, the visions and views they see can be distracting. Take your time. You may even need to leave it be and come back to it later. Insert a healthy physical distraction maybe, like a walk, a nap, a scenic drive…

In the end, give yourself permission to follow your own guidance.

Also know that the “clearing out and de-cluttering pull” is more than about our physical space. There is often a deeper mental and emotional clearing that is needed. We just notice the physical first in most cases because that’s where most of us are used to functioning. Plus, let’s face face it, we can “control”, manipulate, and see results of physical “stuff” right?!… that gives us a sense of accomplishment and a form of temporary relief. Which is great and even necessary at the right times. It can actually set us up for having an improved personal space to work from and go deeper on that mental and emotional “stuff”…. but don’t forget to also pay attention to that underlying part… it’s probably trying to get your attention for a reason.   So, remember to “go back there and revisit it”.

I also know this is when it’s really nice to have someone to reflect with and personally I enjoy having my own energetic support system in place to get some support to go just a little deeper into my own inner connection.   There are many out there and starting up… so just make sure it resonates with your heart.

Well, it is time to continue with some more assessment of my environment and another layer of “de-cluttering” as I too move forward with opening up my space and energetic field a bit more.

I’m trying to remember that holding on to too many things (physical things, mental things, emotional things) not only effects my energetic space and physical body, it also limits me from being as open to the new and wonderful things trying to find their way into my life. ❤

Blessings and best regards during your journey.
Shiela

May monthly message – Food for Thought – What are You Feeding?

by Shiela Reed

As we move through spring heading quickly into summer here in the Midwest of the USA, the reminder and messages about being conscious of what we allow and thus “put” in our “bodies” has become very active.  But there is more…

Have you considered that your body is really more than just your “physicalness”?

I realize this can get pretty overwhelming kind of quickly and that everyone isn’t really as interested in “digging in” further – but in reality – it’s extremely important to gain at least a little deeper understanding  of how our systems work together.  It’s actually a major key to overall wellness/well-being.

So – just as a start, consider a few other aspects to your “body” – yes – think of a few physical things that go together (i.e. stomach, spleen, pancreas, liver)- Google it –it’s fun to get a little more educated on how your body works.

I’ve been using this myself as I have been checking in on a muscle/tendon/plantar faciiatis weakness and pain issue of my own, thus leading me to multiple other options in healing my own chronic problem, which I wouldn’t have considered before.

Now, let’s go a step further – how about your emotional & mental “mind”/perspective?  How is that?  These are kind of like “rooms in our house”.  Did you know/or have you realized the actual affect these have/can have on your physical body – your “house”?  Think about it, if you have cluttered rooms and spaces in your home – it usually doesn’t feel real good, right?  And if you struggle (like I do sometimes)  to “let things go” – and/or you actually are finding it to be “safer” with the clutter – it usually is a clue (at least for me) that I have something underneath that I’m not aware of or fully acknowledging.

So if we go a bit further- we will notice and become aware of the energetic part of our system – our “wiring” – plumbing, whatever you want to call it that runs behind what we traditionally are conditioned to “see”.

When you start to become aware of this aspect of your “house”/body – “space” – you live in – it can actually feel a bit confusing, overwhelming, and even scary because it’s not what we are used to and we don’t have a lot of practice with noticing it, talking about it, much less managing it – so – what can one do?

Here are a few simple awareness tips – and seriously – keep it simple – don’t “over think” (if you start to go there and it feels “stressful” – let it go by acknowledging “I’m not ready yet”.

This is where I’ve learned to have some fun and make it my own –

  • What’s around your physical space? Your “house”?

Find little places throughout your day to just be in touch with your surrounding and how you are feeling.  i.e. I’m sitting outside having coffee, listening to the birds, feeling the cool breeze while the sun is starting to warm my body – yet my mind is thinking of the 10 things I NEED/should be doing rather than writing – at first I feel a bit of anxiousness (I used to feel guilty) Now I acknowledge it – “let it go” and flow by me so I can write the message I’m guided/led to share today, rather than ignore the inner signals.

In the past (and still sometimes) – I would have followed the guilt and it would have affected the rest of my day – as my energetic system would have not been congruent with that inner prompting.  So my mood and emotion and mentalness would go another direction – guilt, anxiety, judgement, anger, fear.

  • What’s in your mind/emotion – your “rooms”?

Become aware of not only what you are physically putting in and on your physical body – but what you are allowing in your mind, your sight, and your ears – Is what you are looking at feeling good to your soul?  Is what you’re reading feeding your spirit?  Or what you are listening to (music AND words from others AND yourself) supporting a positive space within which to grow into a better version of yourself?  If not, then make some choices about changing these things.

  • How is your energy flow? Are there blocks in your inner wiring/plumping/system?

Honestly – by trying the other two things, you will naturally start to reconnect to an ability to feel this at a deeper level.  It’s why we get the advice to “just breathe” “go outside/be in nature” “be still”.  Seek peaceful locations and people – because that naturally helps us balance out a littler.  It’s energetic support in its simplest form.  But we can learn to do this on our own too – we just have to become “aware” of the process.

Finding little points of awareness everyday can make some very significant shifts in your over all day – and ultimately your well-being.

So –how is your personal “space”?

Are you making your personal body/”house” just a house? Or a long term “home”?  Are there clearer rooms and improved inner flow in your wiring?  It’s a good time of year to self-check and adjust some things.  J

Happy “eating”…

Shiela

April Monthly Message – Letting Go vs Holding On

Letting go or Holding on…

by Shiela Reed

This message has been coming in for a week or so and ironically kept being vague about how to write about it… So I hope this information lands in “just the right spot” for you to get what you need.

The topic is a tricky one – since it has a classic connection to ego, which adds to the layers of “stuff” to work through.  After all, the ego prefers to have a say so in this stuff right?!

SO, how deep does the concept of “letting go vs holding on” really go?  Honestly, as deep as we each can take it…

In reality every decision has an element of both.  As we gain knowledge from a learning experience, we “hold on” to that, even if we “let go” of some parts of that experience.  We also find that emotions, feelings, behaviors, habits, people, things, and all other parts of our being and lives, eventually tend to come to some place of needing our attention regarding this exact topic….

Therefore, do we hold on to that or let it go?

Over time I have found that HOW we do this makes a great deal of difference and surprisingly (or maybe not) each one of the situations may just require a little bit of a different approach.  So no wonder it feels daunting and like something we end up “avoiding”!  Even if we deep down know that NOT making a decision, is actually STILL a decision…  right?

Here’s an example.  Lately I have been thinking a lot about things, people, feelings, behaviors, etc.  that I really need to put through this course of thinking.  Maybe it’s the natural element of newness, clearing, cleansing and so on associated with the Spring season (here in the Midwest of the USA at least)…  yet, I continue to just “think about it”.

Regardless, WHEN the time “hit’s you” and there is an inner prompting to take heed of this process regarding something in your life, do your due diligence and check in with your true self/“inner you”/heart space for true guidance before jumping in.

How many times have you made decisions hot from an emotion?  We say something without thinking, we spontaneously quit on something out of anger, or we hold on to items for years and don’t even know why….   Without that “north star” point of reference for ourselves, we are basically left at the mercy/whim of our ego, emotions, and any other random mechanism we grasp for in a moment of panic or desperation.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.  We really can take a moment or more to really “feel into” what it’s about and find our inner voice which can give us an idea or at least an understanding that is deeper and more meaningful, and ultimately provide us some much needed guidance for making a decision that deep down we really can live with.

So, as you “spring clean” your physical, emotional, and/or mental space, take 5 slow deep breaths, blow each one out as if you were blowing out birthday candles, and THEN ask yourself, do I “want” this?, do I “need” this and if so WHY and for what purpose?  Do the answers fit with your true heart direction or goals?  (be clear on a “want” and “need” as defined by YOU)

Spending some time assessing this part really can make a difference in not only our feelings and satisfaction in knowing we have followed our “heart”, but ultimately in our ability to “move on” or “stick around” with people, feelings, emotions, tasks, behaviors, etc.

For me, I have discovered I have a lot harder time letting go of things than I realized.  From clearing my phone of pictures (which I had already backed up in 5 other placed mind you) to cleaning out my closet to making a much needed change in my work life…. It’s been a process of going just a little deeper each time I would think about the topic and eventually I found my way to the root reason I was still “holding on” – that was when I found the freedom to make a choice… I then knew WHY I was holding on and then I and only ME could decide if I wanted to continue with that or not.

Yes it takes time, work, diligence, and consistency for it to become “second nature” but since we are all a “work in progress” anyway, why not dig into the deeper reason behind why we “hold on” vs “let go”?  After all – each effort is one step closer to a true heart connection and increased inner peace.

Sending you peace in the process

Shiela