BE YOUR OWN JOURNEY by Bryan Moss

Be your own journey. What do I mean by that?

**Don’t make “searching out there” for answers your priority. There’s a difference between educating yourself and constantly seeking. Rely more on your intuition, gut, inner guidance, hunches, (all of which is basically coming from your Heart) because all of that is coming from within yourself. Think about it. Who knows YOU better than YOU? A textbook? A Guru? A priest? I don’t think so. All of those can be good guideposts, or suggestions, to help you on your journey. But who REALLY knows you? An honest look will reveal…….. it’s yourself.

**Don’t compare your journey to others. You can have 100 people be of the same religion, attend the same church, all go to that place of worship at the same time of the week, and have the same belief systems and….so what? Each individual is on their own journey. Each is unique in how they go about their own quest. 100 people may sing the same song, recite the same prayer together, and listen to the church practitioner together, attend the exact same service/ritual, but the only one quality they will have in common is….they WON’T have the same spiritual journey.
After all, this is not a race to see who gets “there” before the other, or who “gets it” first. Us humanoids are so conditioned, early in life, to compare ourselves to others that we don’t realize it. It becomes second nature fast. Look at nature. Do you think if you planted an evergreen tree next to an oak tree the trees are going to care who grows the tallest? Comparing your “progress” (I hate that term) to another’s is a waste of energy. Be comfortable in your own skin. “Know” wherever you’re at in the present is exactly where you need to be for your own journey. All paths/journeys lead to the same source.

**Be your own expert. How? Duh? Get to know yourself. Be relentless to find the true you. Be honest with yourself at all costs. This loops back to my first point. No one really knows you better than You. If your health isn’t the greatest and you’re tired of going to doctors with little, if no results, start educating yourself on your condition. Don’t be afraid to be your own lab rat and experiment on yourself. Don’t be afraid to look outside of the box.
You find that you’re curious about which belief system to adopt? Explore all belief systems and choose the one that resonates. Better yet, do the unthinkable…create your own belief system. Who says you can’t? Do what works for you, not what works for others.

**Don’t sit around expecting answers to come to you. You have to go to the answers. In other words, don’t procrastinate. Be active. Sure, there’s a time for being still and reflecting. There’s a time for meditating. And just as importantly, there’s always time to actually DO something. I heard a saying years ago, “God (Universe..Source..insert whatever you call that) helps those that help themselves”.
In other words, take responsibility for yourself and don’t give it away to other people. That’s a dead-end street. Listen to your Heart, not the rational mind of the crowd. Eventually, be your own expert. Refer to an earlier post I wrote, “YOUR HEART’S BRAIN”, for more on this particular point.

Take the above steps and eliminate years of frustration. Trust me. I wish I did. I think of all of the energy I spent towards externalizing my efforts when I should’ve been putting all of that energy towards responsibility for my own being. Don’t expect “experts” to have all of the answers if any at all when it comes to your-SELF. Don’t misunderstand me. There are some wonderful GUIDElines out there but FEEL them out first. USE WHAT’S USEFUL FOR YOU AND THROW OUT THE REST.

Take the one and only proven true path…Be YOUR OWN Journey. The tickets are cheaper and you won’t have to put up with smaller airline seats. (wink)

DIGGING UP THE PAST TO KNOW MY ENERGY by Bryan Moss

When I began to learn about energy work I was surprised to find out that in order to really be proficient at it (whether reading my own or others) I needed to be willing to look at my past. The good, the bad, and even the very ugly.

Why?

Well, to spell it out in basic steps:

*We’re born as energetic beings right off the bat! This is our divine right. Feeling and reading energies is a basic skill set, just as speaking is to most. We are born to read energies!

* However, while being raised and taught by others (parents, teachers, caretakers) we’re influenced by THEIR interpretation of life. What THEY learned. What THEY think is best for us as we’re growing up. Good, or not so good, many of these “lessons” were ingrained in our ‘caretakers’ way of life back when THEY were young whipper snappers.

*What happens is, as we grow up, anything taught is either consciously on our minds AND/OR stored in our subconscious, and forgotten about by our conscious minds. Events, emotions not expressed, rules, regulations, all of the “how to’s”….EVERYTHING is stored there. We take the ‘caretakers’ words for granted. Like their ways and means is the law of life, we accept them as the only truths without questioning them.

*When adulthood comes upon us, often we feel conflicted about certain feelings we’re having in regards to relationships and experiences. When a different view, or mind set, is presented to us one can start to feel confused and mixed up. Perhaps “things” just don’t make sense. Yet we feel a pull to honor our teachings because we were raised “that way”. So we immediately dismiss, or negate, anything that “goes against the grain” in spite of our inner promptings which are making us question those very ways.

*It’s well known throughout the health community those buried, unacknowledged emotions can create a host of “problems”. Mental illness, physical symptoms, dysfunctional relationships are a few examples. Along with all of this we’re trying to discern what’s of use to us, or not useful and can be discarded.

I’ll give a couple of examples from my own journey to help illustrate how it’s beneficial to look at past programming instilled in us:

Recently, I recalled being around 4 or 5 and was angry and upset with my mother earlier that day. I decided I was going to run away. So I loaded up my radio flyer red wagon with my favorite toys in my bedroom, rolled it through the living room and out the front door while my mom was gossiping on the phone in the kitchen to one of the next door neighbors. She assumed I was going out front to play. I rolled my red wagon of toys as far as half way down the block, got scared, turned around, and went back home. At this time I don’t remember what I was mad about and that really isn’t important. But what is important is for me to acknowledge I had anger towards my mother even at that age. I was too young to express it constructively and thought I just had to get away from her. So I used the “flight” response in order to cope with my anger. Not knowing how to release the anger it was shoved to the side and forgotten about..buried. So it’s tossed into the “piggy bank of anger” and accumulates interest stored as anger towards not only my mother, but, unintentionally, can affect my views towards women in general. This can certainly create the perfect set up for a dysfunctional relationship with any future partner down the road. It’s impossible to discern specific anger issues in another until I’ve become familiar with feeling my own anger.

Another example is how it was ingrained in me that whatever problem or question I had, I needed to look outside of me for answers. Rather than figure it out myself, or even suggested to me that many answers are already within, I was taught to go to an “expert”. They would know better than me–about me. Externalization is promoted in collective society. Being taught to look to others for answers indirectly disempowers ones own innate, God given right to look within. Religion is a great example of this. One has to go through a middle man (clergy, priest, minister, rabbi..) in order to learn and communicate with God (higher power). Often it’s not encouraged for one to go about their spiritual journey without the approval of others. As mentioned in the previous example, it’s all of the programming and trained responses drilled into us, so much so, we begin taking on a false identity to appease others to make them happy. Before you know it you’ve become a person that the “real you”, your True Self, doesn’t really know but patiently puts up with knowing that the time will eventually come when you realize most everything you thought was the law of the land is, at best, all backwards and full of bullocks. Programmed to follow along with the collective herd, you never took the time to discover those “rules and ways” yourself, thus, never getting to know the essence of YOU, your inherited True Self. The Self that is already complete with the peace, love and any of the bells and whistles you may need. You start to figure out the journey isn’t about learning and accumulating more paradigms. It’s about getting rid of all of that and getting back to the basics you were born with…your True Self.

Re-experiencing (meaning NOT conceptualizing but FEELING it out) and accepting the fact those events happened to me allows the experience to go through me instead of hanging on to it by hiding it in the corners of my mind and trying to put it out of my memory. You see? By ignoring those feelings I was throwing gasoline onto those simmering embers where the inevitable spontaneous combustion was, and is, bound to happen ( as suggested above in the various forms of illnesses and dysfunctional behaviors). Over time, I’ve been willing to “let my guard down” and feel into the uncomfortable memories/ experiences in my past. I found that stripping away all of the conditioned and programmed B.S. actually allows me to feel more and ACCEPT what happened to me, not ignore it. Thus enabling me to get to know my self, True Self, better. Is this easy to do? NO. My critical inner voice, or ego (as other energy workers refer to it), kicks, screams, and throws temper tantrums because it’s sole purpose is to feel safe and survive at any cost, including preventing me from feeling and experiencing life fully with my Heart, the doorway to understanding my own energies.

I hope my examples may provide you with a clearer idea why we all should be willing to look into our past. Not to remind ourselves what injustices may of happened, but as a learning tool of accepting those experiences and enabling us to know ourselves (energies) a little bit better as we move forward on our own Heart felt journeys. It’s in the understanding of the lessons from our past, we can let go and grow. Grow into the expansive energy field of compassion and empathy for Self and others.

Digging up the past to utilize as a lesson, and NOT to dwell on it and cave into self shame, guilt, anger, (nor the popular mental gymnastics “could ofs, would ofs, should ofs”) is actually a very powerful energy modality for one’s growth.

Excuse me while I go to the hardware store and purchase a big snow shovel.

March Monthly Message – Self-Acceptance

by Shiela Reed

As I’ve meditated on the message of self-acceptance a few things kept coming in.

One – it’s definition may not be exactly what one may think.

Two – it takes a deeper level of connection to understand and be aware enough to continue this inner journey.

The “definition” as given to me through inner promptings is more about a deep self-love that holds zero forms of judgement.  It is not good, it is not bad, it is not of ego.  It is a most pure essence of acceptance and comes from our deepest heart space and connection with our divine spark of life.

An example of how easily it can become confusing or miss guided kept coming up.  Although there is importance in taking care of oneself and at times, in being “proud” of things we do and “of ourselves”, it is not about being at the expense of others or one sided thinking.  Being prideful in that sort of way is actually a product of the ego.  One way I “check myself” regarding this is by first – being able to be aware that something may not be setting just right – I may have a twinge of “hmm that feels at odds” (even when I don’t want to see it!).    That’s when I ask questions of myself such as “where is that coming from?”, is that connected to an unmet emotional need maybe?

Anymore, I have also been able to start telling rather quickly if I get a “defensiveness” that rises up, such as “I am so proud of this or that part of me that I must tell everyone about it (I check if I’m being boastful and maybe really feeling loss or “less than” in some way as the real motivator for my announcements) and there is also a clue that if I feel as if they “do not see how good I am” I feel hurt or angry (I check for other missing needs, such as attention, love, etc that I may actually be seeking from outside myself).

As an alternative, if there is a level of true heart self-acceptance, there will not be a “need” associated with it.  It will “just be”.  It is not about the recognition or notation.  Instead it is the feeling of deep self-love, knowing you are living a true connection in that moment.  The topic or event or activity and any outcomes or lack thereof,  “just is”.

As far as the second part – I noticed as I have been contemplating this, it became clear that there is a whole lot more to it under the surface and it is NOT that easy!  I have returned to my meditation on it a few times the last few weeks to try and figure out how to even begin to say anything about it and NOT inadvertently include my own ego/bias/definitions.  🙂  I was again reminded how it is simply not a matter of shear “will” or overpowering that can be done by the mind, emotion, or a “stronger desire”.

I simply cannot WILL MYSELF to love me better or myself more.  No amount of affirmations or books or surface work will get you all the way there.  It takes the deeper, inner workings to finally shift that part of our inner consciousness and that quite frankly is very different for each of us!  There is no “one size fits all”, there is no “one book you will read” that will snap everyone into this space, there is no “one practice/program” that is guaranteed to work for every single person.

That’s probably clear as we think of the many motivational speakers, self-help books, courses, therapies, etc. that seem to work for some but not for someone else…

We will each come to this place on our own and at our own divine timing.  Maybe some never will… that is part of a greater mystery for another day…  🙂

In actuality, it is one of the most significant steps in our personal life journey that we can and will ever take.  Because technically without it, we seem to always feel as if we are still just a little short from “really getting it”.  Maybe this is why we keep searching and looking?  Like we know there is a key link that is a core connector for all the parts of our journey….

Having this inner connection, no matter how small it starts, is where the transformation begins.  It’s like a small light in a dark tunnel that as we notice it and move toward it, it becomes brighter and truer.  You gain the reference feelings of “just knowing your truth” and you find peace and comfort there, even if no one else does.  Yes it may be difficult, but it’s at this point that we realize there is no need to force our own thoughts and feelings, or brag or boast, because we have our own deep inner true heart level of self-acceptance that cannot be taken away from us.

The most difficult thing for me to remember at this point, is to love myself through the times of doubt and setbacks, and remember I will always be learning.  Because this is not a level of life easily lived every minute of every day – yet is it worthy of the effort to try.

May you start with new awareness as you take one step at a time toward a deeper level of true heart self-acceptance.

Blessings

Shiela