August Message of the Month: Taking Care of Self

by Shiela Reed

It’s very interesting how all the “little messages” throughout the month have been related to taking care of ourselves.  So it must mean that the full message of the month this month needs to be about pulling that all together and finding our own “take-aways” regarding – self-care.

At the beginning of the month – I officially started a new journey of following through with years of “hints” about the importance of re-connecting my physical body back with my mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric selves.  I had a very distinct inner prompting that NOW was the time to do this…  Over the years my physical body took kind of a backseat to my other efforts and for me, well, that’s just how it needed to be I suppose.  It’s funny because odd little ailments would pop up over the years and kind of “force me” to stay out of my usual “physical mode”. In the past I was very much connected to all things “physical” and while of course there are always components of all of these other areas present – often times I would  feel a bit “heavy” or “depleted” in certain areas over others. This easily happens for many of us and while I have been on my own personal journey to balance these out, I have found that the energetic work I have experienced and done has significantly supported bringing things into proper balance and most importantly – assisted me in gaining the much needed reference points for recognizing when things felt like they were going “off tract” prior to it becoming a crisis.

Of course this has taken and continues to take “practice” and regular personal “check-ins” with myself to assure that I am still functioning within my own inner awareness and thus be able to follow my inner promptings without the usual layers of doubt our minds like to throw in the mix… as I’ve said before, it really is a place we just “know” and will recognize once we have that experience… we just have to be able to be in a space that allows us to “hear” it and then recognize that we need to make an immediate adjustment before we spiral too far one way or the other.

This has especially been true of anxiety and depression related symptoms.  Today this topic came as something to expand upon further next month, but know that it is very much how and why so many of us suffer from one or usually BOTH!  We just “miss” our cues to stop the spiral and we get “caught” – until we can find our way out again… this has basically become nonexistent for me anymore thanks to the totality of efforts to balance the mental and emotional and finally the energetic which allowed for ultimate relief.  In the past these states could last for days, weeks, or months.  Obviously this has allowed for very significant changes to occur in my life and is directly related to the multiple parts of self-care I have utilized.

While we learn to catch “cues” – there is another interesting component to taking care of ourselves that came in regarding the importance and need for reflection – but also utilizing that same sense of awareness mentioned above.   I know it often seems important and even necessary to reflect on past life events but I have also been reminded this month that while it is helpful to” look back” – it is important to be aware of why we are doing so.  As an emotional component of self-care – it is crucial to understand the connection this has to our mental and energetic states.  A question that popped up this month regarding this is “am I looking back out of some form of fear?  Or to gain clarity or understanding about a life lesson?”  We will know this by noticing how we “feel” about it or what we “sense” about it – i.e. are we learning and “moving on” or are we dwelling and lamenting over memories?  Some good food for thought…

Overall I have noticed many conversations this month revolving around the importance of “well-being”.  Local gym’s trying to help people get physically fit, local yoga studio’s trying to help guide mental/emotional parts of us with our bodies, spiritual components are found in different forms offering different perspectives for contemplation and I’m even finding my new personal website trying to work on reflecting this concept of how it all connects as the vision of that deepens.  What I have experienced is that a pivotal part of keeping our overall system balanced is realizing that there is an energetic/etheric component to it all and by learning to keep our energy body well – we find deeper connections to the real reason we want to put importance on keeping our physical body well, and our mind emotionally well and our soul spiritually well.  I find the use of energy supporting techniques to be vital to keeping up my energetic immunity and therefore find myself less likely to take on/absorb other energies that are negative and would normally be depleting of my own system.  This has been a new and recent realization and a wonderful take away from my own forever journey to overall well-being.

Clearly, there is a need for balance of each and every aspect of our human existence.  It’s important to remember that they are all connected and being able to discern our own inner promptings about when to adjust is ultimately the goal.  After-all, when we can feel this centered place within us, we find we are much less likely to be caught in extremes one way or the other and more able to function and flow more peacefully throughout our daily lives.

I want to also share something that came in this month as a reminder for those of us that may tend to talk ourselves out  of “taking care of ourselves” –( for whichever number or reasons)  As I thought about my broader “journey” and a desire to help others and how that connects with my personal “journey” of helping myself become a truer version of myself – I also found that I felt some thoughts of “selfishness” – thank goodness my inner connection quickly helped me realize that what I was talking about regarding “taking care of myself” was actually not selfish at all!  In reality it is the best way I/we can be and thus be in positions to help others.  As I had asked my higher self – “what would be the most important focus in regards to helping others and myself/ourselves” – and the answer was “to continue to be focused on me and my journey and the self-love that shines forth will be what helps others to see – not any one particular thing I would “do”.

I am sure this is true of each of us…we are each important to ourselves first and then how we are connected to the world around us.  So focus on you and listen to what your system tells you you need.  Remember there is an ebb and flow of each component.  Changes and adjustments are often needed and are ok along the way.  May you find a solid connection to your inner compass (your true you) by learning to utilize your energy body and connecting within to continue your own journey to well-being and balanced.

And so it is…

Shiela

May monthly message – Food for Thought – What are You Feeding?

by Shiela Reed

As we move through spring heading quickly into summer here in the Midwest of the USA, the reminder and messages about being conscious of what we allow and thus “put” in our “bodies” has become very active.  But there is more…

Have you considered that your body is really more than just your “physicalness”?

I realize this can get pretty overwhelming kind of quickly and that everyone isn’t really as interested in “digging in” further – but in reality – it’s extremely important to gain at least a little deeper understanding  of how our systems work together.  It’s actually a major key to overall wellness/well-being.

So – just as a start, consider a few other aspects to your “body” – yes – think of a few physical things that go together (i.e. stomach, spleen, pancreas, liver)- Google it –it’s fun to get a little more educated on how your body works.

I’ve been using this myself as I have been checking in on a muscle/tendon/plantar faciiatis weakness and pain issue of my own, thus leading me to multiple other options in healing my own chronic problem, which I wouldn’t have considered before.

Now, let’s go a step further – how about your emotional & mental “mind”/perspective?  How is that?  These are kind of like “rooms in our house”.  Did you know/or have you realized the actual affect these have/can have on your physical body – your “house”?  Think about it, if you have cluttered rooms and spaces in your home – it usually doesn’t feel real good, right?  And if you struggle (like I do sometimes)  to “let things go” – and/or you actually are finding it to be “safer” with the clutter – it usually is a clue (at least for me) that I have something underneath that I’m not aware of or fully acknowledging.

So if we go a bit further- we will notice and become aware of the energetic part of our system – our “wiring” – plumbing, whatever you want to call it that runs behind what we traditionally are conditioned to “see”.

When you start to become aware of this aspect of your “house”/body – “space” – you live in – it can actually feel a bit confusing, overwhelming, and even scary because it’s not what we are used to and we don’t have a lot of practice with noticing it, talking about it, much less managing it – so – what can one do?

Here are a few simple awareness tips – and seriously – keep it simple – don’t “over think” (if you start to go there and it feels “stressful” – let it go by acknowledging “I’m not ready yet”.

This is where I’ve learned to have some fun and make it my own –

  • What’s around your physical space? Your “house”?

Find little places throughout your day to just be in touch with your surrounding and how you are feeling.  i.e. I’m sitting outside having coffee, listening to the birds, feeling the cool breeze while the sun is starting to warm my body – yet my mind is thinking of the 10 things I NEED/should be doing rather than writing – at first I feel a bit of anxiousness (I used to feel guilty) Now I acknowledge it – “let it go” and flow by me so I can write the message I’m guided/led to share today, rather than ignore the inner signals.

In the past (and still sometimes) – I would have followed the guilt and it would have affected the rest of my day – as my energetic system would have not been congruent with that inner prompting.  So my mood and emotion and mentalness would go another direction – guilt, anxiety, judgement, anger, fear.

  • What’s in your mind/emotion – your “rooms”?

Become aware of not only what you are physically putting in and on your physical body – but what you are allowing in your mind, your sight, and your ears – Is what you are looking at feeling good to your soul?  Is what you’re reading feeding your spirit?  Or what you are listening to (music AND words from others AND yourself) supporting a positive space within which to grow into a better version of yourself?  If not, then make some choices about changing these things.

  • How is your energy flow? Are there blocks in your inner wiring/plumping/system?

Honestly – by trying the other two things, you will naturally start to reconnect to an ability to feel this at a deeper level.  It’s why we get the advice to “just breathe” “go outside/be in nature” “be still”.  Seek peaceful locations and people – because that naturally helps us balance out a littler.  It’s energetic support in its simplest form.  But we can learn to do this on our own too – we just have to become “aware” of the process.

Finding little points of awareness everyday can make some very significant shifts in your over all day – and ultimately your well-being.

So –how is your personal “space”?

Are you making your personal body/”house” just a house? Or a long term “home”?  Are there clearer rooms and improved inner flow in your wiring?  It’s a good time of year to self-check and adjust some things.  J

Happy “eating”…

Shiela

March Monthly Message – Self-Acceptance

by Shiela Reed

As I’ve meditated on the message of self-acceptance a few things kept coming in.

One – it’s definition may not be exactly what one may think.

Two – it takes a deeper level of connection to understand and be aware enough to continue this inner journey.

The “definition” as given to me through inner promptings is more about a deep self-love that holds zero forms of judgement.  It is not good, it is not bad, it is not of ego.  It is a most pure essence of acceptance and comes from our deepest heart space and connection with our divine spark of life.

An example of how easily it can become confusing or miss guided kept coming up.  Although there is importance in taking care of oneself and at times, in being “proud” of things we do and “of ourselves”, it is not about being at the expense of others or one sided thinking.  Being prideful in that sort of way is actually a product of the ego.  One way I “check myself” regarding this is by first – being able to be aware that something may not be setting just right – I may have a twinge of “hmm that feels at odds” (even when I don’t want to see it!).    That’s when I ask questions of myself such as “where is that coming from?”, is that connected to an unmet emotional need maybe?

Anymore, I have also been able to start telling rather quickly if I get a “defensiveness” that rises up, such as “I am so proud of this or that part of me that I must tell everyone about it (I check if I’m being boastful and maybe really feeling loss or “less than” in some way as the real motivator for my announcements) and there is also a clue that if I feel as if they “do not see how good I am” I feel hurt or angry (I check for other missing needs, such as attention, love, etc that I may actually be seeking from outside myself).

As an alternative, if there is a level of true heart self-acceptance, there will not be a “need” associated with it.  It will “just be”.  It is not about the recognition or notation.  Instead it is the feeling of deep self-love, knowing you are living a true connection in that moment.  The topic or event or activity and any outcomes or lack thereof,  “just is”.

As far as the second part – I noticed as I have been contemplating this, it became clear that there is a whole lot more to it under the surface and it is NOT that easy!  I have returned to my meditation on it a few times the last few weeks to try and figure out how to even begin to say anything about it and NOT inadvertently include my own ego/bias/definitions.  🙂  I was again reminded how it is simply not a matter of shear “will” or overpowering that can be done by the mind, emotion, or a “stronger desire”.

I simply cannot WILL MYSELF to love me better or myself more.  No amount of affirmations or books or surface work will get you all the way there.  It takes the deeper, inner workings to finally shift that part of our inner consciousness and that quite frankly is very different for each of us!  There is no “one size fits all”, there is no “one book you will read” that will snap everyone into this space, there is no “one practice/program” that is guaranteed to work for every single person.

That’s probably clear as we think of the many motivational speakers, self-help books, courses, therapies, etc. that seem to work for some but not for someone else…

We will each come to this place on our own and at our own divine timing.  Maybe some never will… that is part of a greater mystery for another day…  🙂

In actuality, it is one of the most significant steps in our personal life journey that we can and will ever take.  Because technically without it, we seem to always feel as if we are still just a little short from “really getting it”.  Maybe this is why we keep searching and looking?  Like we know there is a key link that is a core connector for all the parts of our journey….

Having this inner connection, no matter how small it starts, is where the transformation begins.  It’s like a small light in a dark tunnel that as we notice it and move toward it, it becomes brighter and truer.  You gain the reference feelings of “just knowing your truth” and you find peace and comfort there, even if no one else does.  Yes it may be difficult, but it’s at this point that we realize there is no need to force our own thoughts and feelings, or brag or boast, because we have our own deep inner true heart level of self-acceptance that cannot be taken away from us.

The most difficult thing for me to remember at this point, is to love myself through the times of doubt and setbacks, and remember I will always be learning.  Because this is not a level of life easily lived every minute of every day – yet is it worthy of the effort to try.

May you start with new awareness as you take one step at a time toward a deeper level of true heart self-acceptance.

Blessings

Shiela

February Monthly Message – Until You’re Ready – Hold Steady

by Shiela Reed

I would like to share an idea with you that came to me as part of my shamanism training/practice.

I found that there were frequently times I was receiving “guidance” and “messages” from the spirit realms that prompted me to share in some way.  Before I would just share a quick message of positive affirmations based on a word and saying I was led to share on my Facebook page – HHOP – Holistic Healthy Optimistic and Positive.

I don’t believe the true depth or meaning was really ever conveyed well, so it never really meant much more than it being “just another positive quote to share”.

So I have felt compelled to begin a bit of a more focused “sharing” of these type of “messages”, if you will, by doing a Monthly Message blog here around the beginning of the month.  The information will be from my intentional shaman journey seeking such guidance to share.  I may end up sharing other prompted messages or journey outcomes in this forum if that is how I am led.

So far my experience has shown me that the messages come forward in a rather specific way and “who” they are for – really ends up being unknown to me.   I actually just trust that it will “land where it needs to” and at the right time.

With that I will share a prompting from a bit earlier this month:

“Until you are ready – hold steady”.

There is and has been much changing and shifting the last few years and the shift will continue for a relatively lengthy time into the future.  (a meditative journey a few years ago gave me information  about how we have around 10 or so years of significant shifting and adjusting to go through as a world people).

So it becomes very important to find your OWN inner compass and stay close to that.

Not to be easily and quickly swayed

Not to speak before a thorough self reflection

and Not to take the importance of all forms of self care for granted

Basically this message was about an overall reminder to spend extra quality time learning the art of inner reflection and reconnecting to your own inner life spark/source.

This will be what helps you “hold steady” and then more confidently “know when you are ready”.

Blessings and Peace and remember to take care of yourselves

Shiela