August Message of the Month: Taking Care of Self

by Shiela Reed

It’s very interesting how all the “little messages” throughout the month have been related to taking care of ourselves.  So it must mean that the full message of the month this month needs to be about pulling that all together and finding our own “take-aways” regarding – self-care.

At the beginning of the month – I officially started a new journey of following through with years of “hints” about the importance of re-connecting my physical body back with my mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric selves.  I had a very distinct inner prompting that NOW was the time to do this…  Over the years my physical body took kind of a backseat to my other efforts and for me, well, that’s just how it needed to be I suppose.  It’s funny because odd little ailments would pop up over the years and kind of “force me” to stay out of my usual “physical mode”. In the past I was very much connected to all things “physical” and while of course there are always components of all of these other areas present – often times I would  feel a bit “heavy” or “depleted” in certain areas over others. This easily happens for many of us and while I have been on my own personal journey to balance these out, I have found that the energetic work I have experienced and done has significantly supported bringing things into proper balance and most importantly – assisted me in gaining the much needed reference points for recognizing when things felt like they were going “off tract” prior to it becoming a crisis.

Of course this has taken and continues to take “practice” and regular personal “check-ins” with myself to assure that I am still functioning within my own inner awareness and thus be able to follow my inner promptings without the usual layers of doubt our minds like to throw in the mix… as I’ve said before, it really is a place we just “know” and will recognize once we have that experience… we just have to be able to be in a space that allows us to “hear” it and then recognize that we need to make an immediate adjustment before we spiral too far one way or the other.

This has especially been true of anxiety and depression related symptoms.  Today this topic came as something to expand upon further next month, but know that it is very much how and why so many of us suffer from one or usually BOTH!  We just “miss” our cues to stop the spiral and we get “caught” – until we can find our way out again… this has basically become nonexistent for me anymore thanks to the totality of efforts to balance the mental and emotional and finally the energetic which allowed for ultimate relief.  In the past these states could last for days, weeks, or months.  Obviously this has allowed for very significant changes to occur in my life and is directly related to the multiple parts of self-care I have utilized.

While we learn to catch “cues” – there is another interesting component to taking care of ourselves that came in regarding the importance and need for reflection – but also utilizing that same sense of awareness mentioned above.   I know it often seems important and even necessary to reflect on past life events but I have also been reminded this month that while it is helpful to” look back” – it is important to be aware of why we are doing so.  As an emotional component of self-care – it is crucial to understand the connection this has to our mental and energetic states.  A question that popped up this month regarding this is “am I looking back out of some form of fear?  Or to gain clarity or understanding about a life lesson?”  We will know this by noticing how we “feel” about it or what we “sense” about it – i.e. are we learning and “moving on” or are we dwelling and lamenting over memories?  Some good food for thought…

Overall I have noticed many conversations this month revolving around the importance of “well-being”.  Local gym’s trying to help people get physically fit, local yoga studio’s trying to help guide mental/emotional parts of us with our bodies, spiritual components are found in different forms offering different perspectives for contemplation and I’m even finding my new personal website trying to work on reflecting this concept of how it all connects as the vision of that deepens.  What I have experienced is that a pivotal part of keeping our overall system balanced is realizing that there is an energetic/etheric component to it all and by learning to keep our energy body well – we find deeper connections to the real reason we want to put importance on keeping our physical body well, and our mind emotionally well and our soul spiritually well.  I find the use of energy supporting techniques to be vital to keeping up my energetic immunity and therefore find myself less likely to take on/absorb other energies that are negative and would normally be depleting of my own system.  This has been a new and recent realization and a wonderful take away from my own forever journey to overall well-being.

Clearly, there is a need for balance of each and every aspect of our human existence.  It’s important to remember that they are all connected and being able to discern our own inner promptings about when to adjust is ultimately the goal.  After-all, when we can feel this centered place within us, we find we are much less likely to be caught in extremes one way or the other and more able to function and flow more peacefully throughout our daily lives.

I want to also share something that came in this month as a reminder for those of us that may tend to talk ourselves out  of “taking care of ourselves” –( for whichever number or reasons)  As I thought about my broader “journey” and a desire to help others and how that connects with my personal “journey” of helping myself become a truer version of myself – I also found that I felt some thoughts of “selfishness” – thank goodness my inner connection quickly helped me realize that what I was talking about regarding “taking care of myself” was actually not selfish at all!  In reality it is the best way I/we can be and thus be in positions to help others.  As I had asked my higher self – “what would be the most important focus in regards to helping others and myself/ourselves” – and the answer was “to continue to be focused on me and my journey and the self-love that shines forth will be what helps others to see – not any one particular thing I would “do”.

I am sure this is true of each of us…we are each important to ourselves first and then how we are connected to the world around us.  So focus on you and listen to what your system tells you you need.  Remember there is an ebb and flow of each component.  Changes and adjustments are often needed and are ok along the way.  May you find a solid connection to your inner compass (your true you) by learning to utilize your energy body and connecting within to continue your own journey to well-being and balanced.

And so it is…

Shiela

October Message of the Month – One Thing at a Time

by Shiela Reed

One thing at a time. Slow your breathing and you’ll slow your mind, then everything else will follow. Take your time. It is all OK as it is.

It is so hard to slow down and focus on one thing at a time. I often find myself racing from one thing to another without being consciously present in any of it!  This is actually detrimental to any progress and a misguided notion that we “should do more”… for example, I am a firm believer that multi-tasking is a myth and has misguided MANY of us! As we become more and more separated and distracted from being fully present in a moment or task, we ultimately find we aren’t really being “good” at any one thing at all!

As I’ve become more aware of this, I have found this is a root of much of my anxiousness. I actually feel better and in tune with my inner voice when I pay attention to this “signal” and remind myself to slow down. Lately this has been extra intensified and with all the energetic shifting going on around all of us, I know I am not the only one.

For example, right now I feel a strong need to “de-clutter” more. But letting go of things feels difficult. I know this is a sign that I have some work to do in this area. I’ve tried a little at a time by focusing on one area or theme. i.e. clothes, stored items.. things where I KNOW I have things that can “go” and I won’t “die” if I actually DO get rid of them, (haha) but you know, I still only end up being able to ditch a few things! What the heck?! I can actually FEEL the anxiety underneath, the “fear” of “what IF” I need this “someday”?! Another “thought” is about how the item reminds me of something, someone, or an event/time.. and I worry I will “forget” the memory.   I take a next step and wonder WHY is this coming in like this?  What is the REAL reason I am holding on?..
Knowing from my inner heart space that this is necessary for me to “make room” for anything new, why is it still so hard? I also know that it pulls me into the past, which intuitively I know can serve a purpose, (understand and learn from the past type of thing) but can becomes a problem when I can’t “hear” or “see” a flexible future. Instead I feel limited or restricted. Those are signs that I’m not in the moment or trusting my heart. Instead there is an overlay of a fear of something…

So I keep going back to “one thing at a time”, over and over and over. Resetting myself… starting by just realizing it and then trying to just focus on the moment and asking myself if this (item, situation, person, feeling) is important for me or to my “best/ true inner self “.
Sometimes it is, and is clearly only “for now”, sometimes it is not, but I have to acknowledge there is something deeper going on if I cannot “let it go”.   Either way, it is important to not get caught here and thus not be able to move on, one way or the other.

Therefore, right now, all I’m able to do with those moments, is to practice another form of “one thing at a time” and realize that some things I’m just not ready to deal with, so I set it aside and work on NOT getting caught up in a mental loop about it.

It’s been such a theme this month that it has felt important to share. If for no other reason but to say “hang in there”. “One foot in front of the other”. “One thing at a time”. And I’m discovering that it doesn’t mean that each “thing” always gets “done”. Sometimes, it’s just being in the moment of whatever is going on, and then moving on to a next moment while accepting that becoming overly “obsessed” about finishing something, is probably going to end up counter productive.

So join me and pick one “focus” at a time and take it easy… Enjoy, appreciate, and fill it with love.
After all, it is what will provide us the support and solid base for all things that will come to us in our future.

Many blessings
Shiela

September message of the month – Hold On and Let Go

by Shiela Reed

Hold on and Let go – has been a theme for me this whole month it seems.  Each moment and experience in all areas of my life keep pointing out that we are always doing one or the other and sometimes both at once.

Oddly enough (or maybe not so odd by now 😉 , it seems to be the most prevalent times I can see it this way is when I’m centered and grounded and still in my own heart space.

I know it seems a little bit of a broken record, but it truly is the “make it or break it” pivotal zone in all we are… without it – we can never really be sure and trust that we are headed down our true path, because choices end up at the whim of our ego mind.

So as we have already moved through this month somehow!.. There is a new energy shift coming into October and one of my mentors through TransCODES shares some great information about this and it’s worth taking note, specifically  the following from  http://www.transcodes.com/blog/4592588517/22nd-28th-September-2018-Collective-Energies-Tips-(Week-39)-Equinox—Ready-Or-Not/11328430

“ETHERIC BUZZ ALERT from 25th September 2018: *** ETHERIC BUZZ ALERT *** Incoming Energies (Equinox, Full Moon and #OctoberRevolutionEnergies) overwhelming for empaths atm. Don’t beat yourself up for being tired or low-balling. Give yourself space and RELEASE ALL EMOTIONS #eyeofthestorm #bifurcation #collectiveenergies”

This is especially if you are already aware of being extra sensitive to energies around you.  It’s a very important time to be able to tap into your inner guidance and know when to “hold on or let go or do both”.  This shift will be occurring regardless of if we are “ready or not”, so being able to do this in the coming months in a way that is true to each of us, will likely mean we need to spend extra time grounding, lightly reflecting, letting go, and ultimately allowing our process and journey to unfold.  Oh, and also doing this over and over again and moment to moment sometimes. 🙂

We do not need to be passive during this, instead there is a need to be actively engaged and connected – but within our inner space where our “real us” is already communicating with our divine light.  This is our “true”…

So as we all contemplate the holding on, letting go, and yin/yang of it all – remember to be present in each moment  – allow yourself space to grow and heal and be open to trust in the unfolding while you continue to participate in the journey.

See you in October!

Much love and blessings

Shiela

 

April Monthly Message – Letting Go vs Holding On

Letting go or Holding on…

by Shiela Reed

This message has been coming in for a week or so and ironically kept being vague about how to write about it… So I hope this information lands in “just the right spot” for you to get what you need.

The topic is a tricky one – since it has a classic connection to ego, which adds to the layers of “stuff” to work through.  After all, the ego prefers to have a say so in this stuff right?!

SO, how deep does the concept of “letting go vs holding on” really go?  Honestly, as deep as we each can take it…

In reality every decision has an element of both.  As we gain knowledge from a learning experience, we “hold on” to that, even if we “let go” of some parts of that experience.  We also find that emotions, feelings, behaviors, habits, people, things, and all other parts of our being and lives, eventually tend to come to some place of needing our attention regarding this exact topic….

Therefore, do we hold on to that or let it go?

Over time I have found that HOW we do this makes a great deal of difference and surprisingly (or maybe not) each one of the situations may just require a little bit of a different approach.  So no wonder it feels daunting and like something we end up “avoiding”!  Even if we deep down know that NOT making a decision, is actually STILL a decision…  right?

Here’s an example.  Lately I have been thinking a lot about things, people, feelings, behaviors, etc.  that I really need to put through this course of thinking.  Maybe it’s the natural element of newness, clearing, cleansing and so on associated with the Spring season (here in the Midwest of the USA at least)…  yet, I continue to just “think about it”.

Regardless, WHEN the time “hit’s you” and there is an inner prompting to take heed of this process regarding something in your life, do your due diligence and check in with your true self/“inner you”/heart space for true guidance before jumping in.

How many times have you made decisions hot from an emotion?  We say something without thinking, we spontaneously quit on something out of anger, or we hold on to items for years and don’t even know why….   Without that “north star” point of reference for ourselves, we are basically left at the mercy/whim of our ego, emotions, and any other random mechanism we grasp for in a moment of panic or desperation.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.  We really can take a moment or more to really “feel into” what it’s about and find our inner voice which can give us an idea or at least an understanding that is deeper and more meaningful, and ultimately provide us some much needed guidance for making a decision that deep down we really can live with.

So, as you “spring clean” your physical, emotional, and/or mental space, take 5 slow deep breaths, blow each one out as if you were blowing out birthday candles, and THEN ask yourself, do I “want” this?, do I “need” this and if so WHY and for what purpose?  Do the answers fit with your true heart direction or goals?  (be clear on a “want” and “need” as defined by YOU)

Spending some time assessing this part really can make a difference in not only our feelings and satisfaction in knowing we have followed our “heart”, but ultimately in our ability to “move on” or “stick around” with people, feelings, emotions, tasks, behaviors, etc.

For me, I have discovered I have a lot harder time letting go of things than I realized.  From clearing my phone of pictures (which I had already backed up in 5 other placed mind you) to cleaning out my closet to making a much needed change in my work life…. It’s been a process of going just a little deeper each time I would think about the topic and eventually I found my way to the root reason I was still “holding on” – that was when I found the freedom to make a choice… I then knew WHY I was holding on and then I and only ME could decide if I wanted to continue with that or not.

Yes it takes time, work, diligence, and consistency for it to become “second nature” but since we are all a “work in progress” anyway, why not dig into the deeper reason behind why we “hold on” vs “let go”?  After all – each effort is one step closer to a true heart connection and increased inner peace.

Sending you peace in the process

Shiela

February Monthly Message – Until You’re Ready – Hold Steady

by Shiela Reed

I would like to share an idea with you that came to me as part of my shamanism training/practice.

I found that there were frequently times I was receiving “guidance” and “messages” from the spirit realms that prompted me to share in some way.  Before I would just share a quick message of positive affirmations based on a word and saying I was led to share on my Facebook page – HHOP – Holistic Healthy Optimistic and Positive.

I don’t believe the true depth or meaning was really ever conveyed well, so it never really meant much more than it being “just another positive quote to share”.

So I have felt compelled to begin a bit of a more focused “sharing” of these type of “messages”, if you will, by doing a Monthly Message blog here around the beginning of the month.  The information will be from my intentional shaman journey seeking such guidance to share.  I may end up sharing other prompted messages or journey outcomes in this forum if that is how I am led.

So far my experience has shown me that the messages come forward in a rather specific way and “who” they are for – really ends up being unknown to me.   I actually just trust that it will “land where it needs to” and at the right time.

With that I will share a prompting from a bit earlier this month:

“Until you are ready – hold steady”.

There is and has been much changing and shifting the last few years and the shift will continue for a relatively lengthy time into the future.  (a meditative journey a few years ago gave me information  about how we have around 10 or so years of significant shifting and adjusting to go through as a world people).

So it becomes very important to find your OWN inner compass and stay close to that.

Not to be easily and quickly swayed

Not to speak before a thorough self reflection

and Not to take the importance of all forms of self care for granted

Basically this message was about an overall reminder to spend extra quality time learning the art of inner reflection and reconnecting to your own inner life spark/source.

This will be what helps you “hold steady” and then more confidently “know when you are ready”.

Blessings and Peace and remember to take care of yourselves

Shiela