October Message of the Month: Follow Your Truth- Don’t be Fooled by “false profits”

Don’t be “fooled”…

by Shiela Reed

This months message came in strong about how our own inner awareness is truly our ultimate “safety net” for following truth and not being victim of being only a “follower”. This can be true of anything we cling so strongly to as a sole solution for “answers”, that we actually end up missing the deeper truth of love that comes from within.

The importance of tapping into our own connection to this sacred space and divine knowledge is ever important. It is what will keep us on our own true path and thus not be misled or misguided by others (or our ego mind) when our hearts “know better”. I’m sure you know what I mean. The conflict of when we are or have been told a certain thing we have taken as truth- yet deep inside our inner systems churn in discomfort as it seems “not so”. Similarly when we do not follow our inner prompting to do or go in a direction but we resist and do not, (usually out of fear). These are all different examples of the same “point”, which I realize comes up often in our blogs.

It is just that it is such an important concept, yet it is not meant to mean we are automatically “wrong” if we do go on one of these “other paths”, it is more that we will end up needing to understand that we just may not be living our “truest lives” as based on our own “purpose” which is given to us from our creator and source.

Although it sounds daunting (at least it kind of goes to me) it is really exactly what we are all going through every day anyway. The difference is the levels or degrees of awareness we are able to tap into and then what we choose to do with or about it.
This might come across “woowoo” or mystical, or even religious, or maybe selfish to some. A “reaction” to this is likely due to an ego attachment of some kind trying to label and then control how to react and then what to do…

I offer the words and concept as something to simply consider and let it land where it needs to land. Tapping in to your inner place of knowledge and connection to our divine spark and creation will help you utilize information you receive however it is needed for you at the time. It is very common for that to “change” over time as we have more life experiences and allow new perspectives to be considered. Thus our changes in perspectives and considerations leading to an increased knowledge and hopefully levels of wisdom as we truly listen from within.

In the end, the point is for it to be about where WE truly are and our ability to be in tune to that inner space as we navigate the never ending barrage of energy, projections, and information coming at us, all while sifting and sorting through our own energy, projections and personal experiences from past and present.

I realize that the potential here is counter intuitive as it creates a sense of seeming to need to “seek” and look harder, yet in reality the truth is quite the opposite… it’s that the stillness we find and quieter we are in a moment through which we actually receive information, the guidance that we actually need which seems darn near impossible when in the midst of crisis, anxiety, and feelings of urgency.

Sometimes it feels a bit like a “set up”, like it should not be this difficult, yet I suspect that is part of the free will that we have all been granted as humans. I really find myself noticing the need to “come to terms” with my humanness and stop trying to act as if I should be better or know more. While it is important to be gentle with ourselves, I also find a delicate balance between giving in to this and teetering on the verge of complacency.

While we are all on our own journey and doing the best we can at the moment, remember to allow the awakening to stir within you so you can be open to what is in the name of good for you and all… not just be a follower without knowing what, who, or why you follow and that is actually aligns with your true self.

I hope everyone finds their own unique “north star” while realizing deep within our hearts, we truly do follow the same light.

Peace and blessings to you and yours, may the final months of this year provide you with the information and guidance to prepare you for your next new year.

Shiela

September Message of the Month: Gaining Clarity – Finding Stillness

September Message of the Month – Gaining Clarity – Finding Stillness

By Shiela Reed

This month seems to have been about finding stillness in the midst of “chaos” and thus gaining clarity for ourselves.

This can be tough to do when the world around us is just speeding up and seems faster than ever. I myself have been feeling kind of overwhelmed this month partly because I know there are so many new opportunities, partly because I feel like I haven’t finished things I’ve already started, partly because I can feel everybody else feeling the same things… in reality I’m able to slowly see what that means as far as connection to my choices and how this is an important part of me being able to help slow myself down and really let what needs to be important to me come forward rather than trying to find it and grab it and control or manipulate it or project on it.

Some key examples for me this month have been once again noticing how much outside influences (collective energies) can feel like a “bombardment” to my energetic, emotional and physical systems. While mentally I know my “choices” in reaction and projection actually are more influential on the “outcome” (for me personally of course) – it is imperative that I find my place of “stillness” within to “survive” that feeling of overwhelm and bombardment.
Work, personal relationships, being around others and our own mental mind chatter can wreck havoc on us without learning to reconnect to the “still small voice” and quietness within. It does not always mean we have to be in a forest or physically quiet serene place – but at first – when we are learning that reference point again – it absolutely may be necessary. That’s why our environments really do still very much matter!

It is also very easy to retreat and withdraw too far and this isn’t necessarily the best way to balance out the overwhelm either. Yes, it’s necessary sometimes, just to get some “rest” – which can help to regain some clarity. It is important to pay attention to what “comes in for you NEXT” – that we can so easily miss. Kind of like the old saying, if we fall off the bike or horse, get back on and try again. If we are overwhelmed with others we may need a break, but just don’t stay “hidden” too long, right? 🙂 Same goes for if we stay engaged in 3D life and become too engaged in drama or chaos- don’t stay there too long and be fed by the “craziness” of it all and increase the anxiety- allow your heart to lead you to a safe “space” for “retreat”, rest, and stillness – so you can “hear” your inner guidance.

This next month I intend to work on being connected with others a bit more. I have been a bit “retreated” for a little too long, so it’s time to spread my wings a bit and become a more opened soul.
I hope you find some support and guidance in this message of the month and have connected within or will be “still” soon- as you connect with your own loving guidance and awareness.  All the source I have been connected with this month have repeated the importance of being in tune with inner self and more accurate with what you are manifesting through your choices.  The future months in the remainder of this year may be a bumpy ride, but the outcome after the first of the year is very much connected to what we are doing, thinking, and choosing to be connected to RIGHT NOW>

Be well and take care of YOU!
Much love and peace to you all
Shiela

August Message of the Month: Taking Care of Self

by Shiela Reed

It’s very interesting how all the “little messages” throughout the month have been related to taking care of ourselves.  So it must mean that the full message of the month this month needs to be about pulling that all together and finding our own “take-aways” regarding – self-care.

At the beginning of the month – I officially started a new journey of following through with years of “hints” about the importance of re-connecting my physical body back with my mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric selves.  I had a very distinct inner prompting that NOW was the time to do this…  Over the years my physical body took kind of a backseat to my other efforts and for me, well, that’s just how it needed to be I suppose.  It’s funny because odd little ailments would pop up over the years and kind of “force me” to stay out of my usual “physical mode”. In the past I was very much connected to all things “physical” and while of course there are always components of all of these other areas present – often times I would  feel a bit “heavy” or “depleted” in certain areas over others. This easily happens for many of us and while I have been on my own personal journey to balance these out, I have found that the energetic work I have experienced and done has significantly supported bringing things into proper balance and most importantly – assisted me in gaining the much needed reference points for recognizing when things felt like they were going “off tract” prior to it becoming a crisis.

Of course this has taken and continues to take “practice” and regular personal “check-ins” with myself to assure that I am still functioning within my own inner awareness and thus be able to follow my inner promptings without the usual layers of doubt our minds like to throw in the mix… as I’ve said before, it really is a place we just “know” and will recognize once we have that experience… we just have to be able to be in a space that allows us to “hear” it and then recognize that we need to make an immediate adjustment before we spiral too far one way or the other.

This has especially been true of anxiety and depression related symptoms.  Today this topic came as something to expand upon further next month, but know that it is very much how and why so many of us suffer from one or usually BOTH!  We just “miss” our cues to stop the spiral and we get “caught” – until we can find our way out again… this has basically become nonexistent for me anymore thanks to the totality of efforts to balance the mental and emotional and finally the energetic which allowed for ultimate relief.  In the past these states could last for days, weeks, or months.  Obviously this has allowed for very significant changes to occur in my life and is directly related to the multiple parts of self-care I have utilized.

While we learn to catch “cues” – there is another interesting component to taking care of ourselves that came in regarding the importance and need for reflection – but also utilizing that same sense of awareness mentioned above.   I know it often seems important and even necessary to reflect on past life events but I have also been reminded this month that while it is helpful to” look back” – it is important to be aware of why we are doing so.  As an emotional component of self-care – it is crucial to understand the connection this has to our mental and energetic states.  A question that popped up this month regarding this is “am I looking back out of some form of fear?  Or to gain clarity or understanding about a life lesson?”  We will know this by noticing how we “feel” about it or what we “sense” about it – i.e. are we learning and “moving on” or are we dwelling and lamenting over memories?  Some good food for thought…

Overall I have noticed many conversations this month revolving around the importance of “well-being”.  Local gym’s trying to help people get physically fit, local yoga studio’s trying to help guide mental/emotional parts of us with our bodies, spiritual components are found in different forms offering different perspectives for contemplation and I’m even finding my new personal website trying to work on reflecting this concept of how it all connects as the vision of that deepens.  What I have experienced is that a pivotal part of keeping our overall system balanced is realizing that there is an energetic/etheric component to it all and by learning to keep our energy body well – we find deeper connections to the real reason we want to put importance on keeping our physical body well, and our mind emotionally well and our soul spiritually well.  I find the use of energy supporting techniques to be vital to keeping up my energetic immunity and therefore find myself less likely to take on/absorb other energies that are negative and would normally be depleting of my own system.  This has been a new and recent realization and a wonderful take away from my own forever journey to overall well-being.

Clearly, there is a need for balance of each and every aspect of our human existence.  It’s important to remember that they are all connected and being able to discern our own inner promptings about when to adjust is ultimately the goal.  After-all, when we can feel this centered place within us, we find we are much less likely to be caught in extremes one way or the other and more able to function and flow more peacefully throughout our daily lives.

I want to also share something that came in this month as a reminder for those of us that may tend to talk ourselves out  of “taking care of ourselves” –( for whichever number or reasons)  As I thought about my broader “journey” and a desire to help others and how that connects with my personal “journey” of helping myself become a truer version of myself – I also found that I felt some thoughts of “selfishness” – thank goodness my inner connection quickly helped me realize that what I was talking about regarding “taking care of myself” was actually not selfish at all!  In reality it is the best way I/we can be and thus be in positions to help others.  As I had asked my higher self – “what would be the most important focus in regards to helping others and myself/ourselves” – and the answer was “to continue to be focused on me and my journey and the self-love that shines forth will be what helps others to see – not any one particular thing I would “do”.

I am sure this is true of each of us…we are each important to ourselves first and then how we are connected to the world around us.  So focus on you and listen to what your system tells you you need.  Remember there is an ebb and flow of each component.  Changes and adjustments are often needed and are ok along the way.  May you find a solid connection to your inner compass (your true you) by learning to utilize your energy body and connecting within to continue your own journey to well-being and balanced.

And so it is…

Shiela

July Message of the Month: Sharing about Choices

Sharing about Choices…

by Shiela Reed

Once again there is a message about the importance of our choices…
While there was a lot going on in July energetically, it will continue into Aug… It’s important to remember that it can be “better” and it can be “worse” based on our individual choices. This concept and processing of choices comes up again and again in different forms and from different perspectives. As stated before it matters about where our awareness is and where our alliance is.  Is it within our heart or outside of ourselves?

Today I was prompted to share my personal journal entry of the day which just so happens to tie in to this topic on choices… I hope you enjoy the way it came in for me and you find a connection to it as well.

{ Lots of changes energetically the last week or so. Shifts within relationships have been better. I have been more involved with energy working which helps me so much to remain grounded and my soul to feel that I’m “listening”.
Yet, sometimes I end up feeling like I have to force myself to move in the direction of what I think I “believe” my soul self is saying (ego trick) yet I know that is not the way it works. It’s what I call a “doing loop” I often get caught in. Even when I decide to “not do” it feels weird and so much chatter starts in my head, judging.. So it’s been a learning experience for sure.
Today I woke to really feeling this lovely inviting energy opening my eyes further about possibilities and good things in the future. It warms me to being excited and embracing the newness. I seriously feel like all I want to do right now is actually PARTICIPATE in life and go out and have new experiences and see my current ones with fresh eyes.
 It’s a really cool feeling!
It reminds me of the excitement of newness and how that increases the energy needed to actually get something done. Yet I also know (and remember) that in the past this has taken me into another part of the “doing loop” which leads to overwhelm and anxiety. Often increasing feelings of inadequacy and a lack of worthiness.
And sometimes it crashes into the opposite side of the loop – of doing nothing – leading to depression and despair and a different flavor of inadequacy and lack of worth.
With both of these I now more often see doubts and fears attached and try to remember and realize it is due to not being in this present moment. Instead I’m maybe energetically a bit too far forward or backward rather than connecting to the inner guidance and trusting in what is here and “next”.
Interesting…. I have noticed now that I get to this place, I begin to “mentalize” it and try to plan and control it… by saying things like “well, if I just go skipping around picking daisies all day, then not a damn thing will get done!” – lol which is true (to an extent)
Or if I push and am hard core working non stop on list after list just to make it to another list.. I’m exhausted and angry and have no joy or peace. (Been there done that, so that one is much easier to let go of these days as I’ve learned to let go of much of that MOST times anyway 😊)
So.. here I am still working on balance. Which is where I always seem to connect back to my “choices”. Moment to moment- situation to situation- thought to thought. I’m learning to try more often to stop at the beginning and ask “what is this choice connected to?” – my heart and a future self, a past – and just a memory- or is it meant as a reminder of a lesson?
While yes there is no reason to “over analyze” – it is kind of important to ease our human systems into this zone of “stillness” so we can actually “think/feel”- with our inner self energy body.
For me I feel like this is why I’ve learned the way I have in this lifetime. I know what it has felt like to be “go go go crazy busy – don’t sit still – do it – get it done- do it better” and found that is not conducive to my ability to hear my true soul self! Instead I need stillness in all capacities and more and more these days I am the one that MUST create that for myself.
But I am so glad and thankful I even started recognizing that need… many many years ago in therapeutic processes, AA, and ongoing life experiences. What a blessing to be at this point of the journey and have bright eyes today to see opportunities and a promise for a better tomorrow- rather than sadness and defeat.
No, it is NOT always this way… yes things can always be “worse” just as they can always be “better”; just as the night turns to day – we can all hopefully find ways to connect to the openness that change can bring – choice by choice – no matter how small.
Embrace the joy in all those moments- the small and the great. Allow them to be markers for our journeys path. Find peace and gratitude in our aliveness and an ability to have open eyes that are bright with a child like excitement to learn and grow and explore. }
May I and each of you find that now…
Peace, love and blessings
Shiela

June Message of the Month – A Collection

June message of the month:  A Collection

By Shiela Reed

While this month has somehow flown by, I had noticed earlier in the month snippets of messages and topics came in and I didn’t end up elaborating on them as I thought I might.
So instead I’m led to share the “pieces” with you and see if any of them resonate with you. Maybe each topic carries it’s own deeper message for each of us this month and all we need to do is see which part we “tune in to” to get more information… what do you think?June 4 2019
Doing what we’re good at – Being who we are

Wouldn’t it be cool if we all got to “do what we’re naturally good at”/interested in and thus got to really “BE who we really are”?! – all with no pretenses…
I wonder how different this world would be? Would it all be lovely or would there be elements of darkness that would also be exposed? I’m suspecting that there would be beautiful beaming lights of humanness and probably a lot of shadow traits that would have the light shown upon them which would cause an appearance of “darkness” due to the “feelings” of “pain” associated with the “sloughing off” of deep multiple layers of baggage ….

What does this bring up for you?

(for me it’s a reminder about choices – this CAN be a reality – “doing what we’re good at and being who we truly are”.

June 5
NEW CONNECTIONS

I decided out of the blue to read info from an email I never read – Galactic Connection- and found articles from IN5D.com (regarding the changing energy paradigm)
1- magnetic pole shifts – Shumann Resonance
2- Adam Kadmon lightbody interview 1997 very fascinating (tears as I felt truth – practice telepathy- prepare physical body)
3 – entering photon belt
4 – age of aquarius
5- crystalline grid from carbon bodies
6- merkabah field
Basically about how we will just know, just do, just be – but we need to help our body be physically adaptable – each persons free will and choice – as we awaken, we can only share, and can’t make others follow or see. For the full shift to occur for human kind, it takes all the “pieces” and all the pieces are here this time!

I had tears because it’s true!! It reminded me about how I want to use my gifts! I need to be around others like me a little more, but in reality, I can do all this on my own, I just need to choose. I don’t want to sit this out or be stuck in only physical form! So I need to tune up!

I literally had the tears of happy awareness as I read each thing and felt the “yes it’s true, I cannot wait” ping..I thought about how I wish I had already written and published my book.

Regardless really cool shit on that webpage!!

Clues…

June 6
NEXT LEVEL ascension

Thoughts came in about when humans are going through the aging process, the experiences they go through is actually change as part of the preparation to ascend to a new level of soul growth and experience.
For example noticing changes in how the past is processed (this is why as we age we become more reflective in regards to our past and life lessons etc)
Sometimes there are changes in personality and people seemingly become “different people”, of course this is based on experiences but also is based on the souls processing of past experiences (or lack of doing so) – i.e. things left “unresolved” will usually find their way out – even if we never make a clear connection with the originating source.
Seems to make sense as a natural flow of life to “be ready” for the next one wouldn’t you say?

June 11
Importance
“It becomes important when it’s important”

June 28 2019
WHY the journey

It can seem kind of cruel to have to go through the pains of the life lessons and I’ve often wondered “why do we have to go through this?” Sometimes it feels a little like someone’s experiment and we’re all just playing parts in it. Yet even if that where the case, what am I gonna control? Really nothing except for what I “see” and what I take in and this is when I have started to really to notice  a connection to the beauty… I can glance over and see a beautiful field of flowers, I can appreciate a beautiful drive, I can enjoy the vastness of nature and even watch the compassion unfold between people in a crisis. In all reality, maybe it doesn’t matter what “bigger energy” is in charge as long as we are all learning how to connect inside ourselves to that deep place within each of us where we find our souls truth.

Where is your journey taking you?

I hope June has brought you new pieces of information and you were able to resonate with one of more of these shorter messages this month. May you be able to connect with one or more of them and already be seeing the ways that they are guiding you into July.

Much peace, love, and light in the new month
Shiela

May Message of the Month – Love of Self

by Shiela Reed

“I may not be loved by all but I am loved by some. Source of my creation loves me and I am free to love myself.” I Am…

I find myself thinking often about the importance of loving ourselves and what that means and how true it is that it’s important to learn to “love ourselves first, so we can really connect to the love of another”.

I know there are “loves” outside of ourselves that may be deep and feel very intense. Maybe we would even “lay down our own lives” for that other… those are truly intense and may very well be connected as I’m trying to describe. But what I guess I’m thinking of and trying to describe is how far would we go for OURSELVES? Our true “hearts desire” and that guidance from within, where our true self is connected to our creator. Do we know what that really feels like? It’s the epitome of feeling connected to all creation. From God/source of creation to all aspects of the seen and unseen world straight to ourselves and how we “fit in” and are so very much a part of the whole.

See when we scale back and look from a “distance” as an observer, we start to see the many pieces fitting together to make the whole. And what a beautiful feeling of LOVE this creates as we sense the connectedness, even in our “less than lovable” times. Because we are also then able to see others in this same light. As vulnerable beings trying to “protect” our egos from what is deemed to be unsafe and/or pains of the world. At this moment of “compassion” we find we truly feel ALIVE and just maybe, truly “worthy” of love… from ourselves as well as others.

As I write this I can literally feel the expansion of my heart chakra and believe with all intention that this message of the month will create a similar expression for each who reads it.

Find the peace and serenity of this space in glorious self love that is not self-ish, but self-fulfilling and bound in the connectedness to others yet free to allow self expression from each of our souls.

And so it is…
“I may not be loved by all but I am loved by some. Source of my creation loves me and I am free to love myself. I Am…”

Blessings

Shiela

April message of the Month: God/the divine is in Everything

by Shiela Reed

God/the divine is in everything. Think about that… in EVERYTHING- each thing and person we interact with, in each of us… it sure hit home as I was trying to make a connection to that inner place within me one evening. It helped me a bit to think about how I interact with others. How I treat them and think about them. Do I or would I treat or think of God/divine this way? The more important question is, Do I WANT to treat/think/ feel this way about others or myself?
What about the THINGS in my life? Do I treat those with respect or other peoples things with respect? When I no longer need something do I pass that on with love and gratitude or just toss it aside as worthless? Even when it is time to let go of something, can I do that lovingly and with appreciation or do I hold an ego attachment to it in some way?
Deep thoughts in a night of the middle of a rough energetic week with big ups and downs at the first part of this month. Trying to free my mind as this connection to God/creator and my awareness of my own attitude came front and center.
Sometimes it does feel like I’m trying to “out do” God by trying to be “better” than creation, yet sometimes I just feel so connected to source I don’t think it’s that as much as that it seems I’m just trying to follow inner promptings and get confused when my inner compass is “rusty” or out of practice or balance Additional confusion comes in with the constant bombardment by all the energies around me and I can’t find enough stillness and I find myself subjected to things, situations, people, places, sounds etc that deep down in my true self (that inner soul space connected to source) I know are “unhealthy” and unsupportive to my “real purpose”.

It’s definitely been a month of shifts and adjustments. As the thoughts of God/divine and our individual relationship with source is contemplated, may we each have an experience of openness that expands our hearts allowing divine love to flow through us to ourselves, others, and our every piece of surrounding.

This month has been busy with messages and topics coming forward. As a reflection of that love from me and for me, I want to attempt to share them more frequently. 😊

Blessings, peace, and love
Shiela

March Message of the Month: Stay Grounded in love and light with Mother Earth

by Shiela Reed

March 6th first que- to this message

This is how we make it through. Several of my other mentors are talking about it and in my inner being I can feel the resonance of this truth.
I’m part of multiple things at play in the world right now. Just as you are. I choose them in different degrees actually. Some are for my own soul growth and expansion while others are interactions that are assisting others through their own journeys. Some of those are definitely more lovely and enjoyable than others. However, there is still purpose in it all.

I find the reminder to be hugely impactful right now as there is a “next layer” I need to personally journey through and that is my body and food. As the energies shift so strongly right now and we move into the crystalline grid system, I feel my body having a hard time adjusting sometimes. I have noted that a dietary change is in order, but my mind/ego has not wanted to let go of that old connection. I’m continuing to work through this journey because I also know it is necessary for my body system to sustain me. Yet that draw to “not change” eating habits and choices is becoming more and more painfully obvious how outdated they are.
Of course I’m trying to give myself room and lots of grace to get there, but my ego mind is already trying to spin it as “if it won’t matter that much” if I don’t change anything. My inner self immediately says “inaccurate”.. so.. it’s time, like it or not.
So I’m needing to go all the way back to how I feel about food. How and why I eat what I do and notice how it’s different if it’s just me or when I’m with someone else…

Does this resonate with anyone else? This late in the month and I’m still struggling and even had health kind of issues so it amazes me at how blocked we can remain and no amount of “willing it” is the answer. Sometimes it truly is the work of going layer by layer until there is a release, and then of course we find… yes, you guessed it! More layers through to even deeper connections. 😊

Yet every time at every layer, the grounding in natural Earth energies is found to be comforting and uplifting. As the gentle (yes and sometimes harsh) reminder that the universe and natural order of things unseen prevail while the more connected and aware we become to this, we find a deeper connection to our inner selves and relationship with the divine.

I hope you have all found ways to ground in love and light with mother earth this month..if not, there is still plenty of time.
Happy slightly belated spring equinox. 🌻☀️

blessings

Shiela

February Message of the Month: Solutions and Conflicts

Solutions and Conflicts by Shiela Reed

There is usually a solution to any perceived conflict if we are willing to be open to listening to alternatives.

How do you resolve conflicts? Are you aware of where your mind goes if you feel defensive? To me one of the key things to be aware of is being able to realize and connect to the deeper aspects (usually ego related) that spark an inner defensiveness.

Over the years of learning ways to connect within myself at deeper levels I have been able to find new layers of awareness that have helped me make progress in dealing with conflict. So far this is where I find myself…

First, a level of acknowledgement that I consider something a conflict in the first place and I either want to address it/engage in efforts to resolve it or not.
If I don’t want to work toward a resolution, then I will need to “own the fact” that I will be CHOOSING to participate in and FEED the energy of the conflict in a less productive kind of way.
Even with this, I now realize there are deeper aspects to this too.. i.e. am I wanting to control or ignore something (my own emotions maybe) simply by being what appears to be non-active?
Maybe it is out of fear of having to change a long standing mindset of my own?

The same could be said for if I choose to “work toward a resolution”… what are the reasons behind it? “Selfish” motives, or because I “know best”, or because I truly want an opportunity to collaborate with another soul in an effort for us to learn together and from each other?

Regardless, acknowledgment and awareness of the conflict at least allows us an opportunity to observe another layer in this dynamic which is the next thing to consider and that is the multiple places for asking questions of our inner self…

However, it can get extra sticky if we start thinking too much about others involved in the conflict and we project into the situation, so being aware of this is key too.

Now what happens if another person/party doesn’t want to engage in conflict resolution? Do I drop into fear? Anger? Feeding the conflict.. or make an attempt to find a place of common ground, consider that the “other side” may be functioning out of their own fear. I can hear some now (even my own head goes here) “but wait, if they don’t want to compromise or work it out, then why would I trust them and try to consider them being fearful, thus putting me in a vulnerable position?”

Well, personally, I think this is a very pivotal point to be able to come to in terms of truly making a personal “decision” about a conflict. Are you able to process to this point quick enough all the while listening to your true heart prompting and acknowledging your ego interjections all along the way… to ask, what part of this is “true/safe/right” to ME at that core level? Or do you miss the underlying parts of the ego that are being supported and fall into a looping pattern?

For me, there have been times I have worked through so far and found that there simply is nothing further I personally can do without crossing my own lines of integrity or what my heart already knows is beyond my souls responsibility, or boundaries. For example, NOT continuing to help or own parts of a conflict that really no longer belong to you.
At other times I may realize I am not taking responsibility for my own “part” enough and need to reevaluate why I may be dodging that… (back to some of the above questions)

We can go off in so many directions and learn so many things from a conflict (inner, outer, and all in between) but we tend to either shy away from them or go about resolution in frequently ineffective ways. Likely because conversations are often loaded with ego needs and personal projections. It really seems to boil down to continuing to ask questions of ourselves layer by layer to understand our own deep rooted connection to the conflict topic in the first place and maybe have some very basic respect for where the other side MAY be coming from (without acting like we know them better than they know themselves) and then just trusting that it will turn out how its supposed to in the end.

Overall, the topic of “conflict” is pretty interesting as it can be such a beautiful reflection of reality, whether we choose to see it in all its “glory” or not is the question. A reality of infinite learning opportunities and/or deep rooted divisions and ego needs…

I continue to find that no two conflicts are the same and the ego aspects sparked within me change, but as I learn to acknowledge and ask inner questions, the energy of the conflict itself shifts.

It would be interesting to hear how you view conflicts for yourself and if this concept makes sense to you or not. Whether there have been inner or outer conflicts, there does seem to be some elements that remain the same, acknowledge and question from the inner heart at all times to find the “best” resolution.

Much love and peace as you peel back the layers in the world of “conflicts”.

Shiela

January Message of the Month – Action and Growth

by Shiela Reed

Earlier this month I got a couple back to back “pings” for a message of the month topic and today I hear a combination of the two…

Jan 16th = Action
What does action look like for you?
Do you immediately think of physical movement? What about the underlying stuff

Jan 17 = growing stronger
“Find a way to grow stronger…
you’re the only one who can do it…”

As we explore what it means for each of us to be “active” and learn how to follow the inner truth and promptings, we ARE actually “growing stronger”.

It’s funny because in my younger years I was physically strong and found my inner work to be my own, but without focus or guidance. Yes there were plenty of struggles and I guess that’s “normal” for much of that phase of life… I took my physical life for granted as many of us probably do/did… then as I went through another phase of life, I became aware that my inner connection had been “neglected” so I dove head first into “addressing” that…finding the missing “direction” and guidance. While that was VERY much needed I’ve had an awareness the last few years, that I ended up becoming VERY disconnected from my physical body and now have physical things that have manifested and I now must “address”…

It wouldn’t have had to be this way, but while I accept that my journey is what it needs to be for me, I want to share now how I find it as an ironic example of the “extremes” I’ve always lived. An “all or nothing” lifestyle, (or changes from one extreme to another), struggling desperately to find balance between two polar opposites that seemed to never want to “get along”… while YES, ultimately the “lesson” of “how” to balance comes from within each of us and from a spiritual kind of place, I am finding a new “struggle” in dealing with physical things that have never been a part of my life limitations. While parts of this could easily be “blamed” on aging, deep down I do not buy this for myself. I know within my heart why this is presenting itself and it is an awareness that I will continue to explore and work on.

There are elements of patience, self love, and acceptance that immediately come forward. A deeper aspect that I tend to keep very private, is that I have finally admitted to myself that the “inner world” and workings of my life are NOT where I find discomfort, nor has it ever been.. yes “hard” at times, but something I don’t want to ever look at?.. not really… sure I will avoid just as anyone else, but eventually I keep looking and have always enjoyed that process… even when it initially feels “painful”… in reality, what I have found is that I have much more difficulty with this physical life… so it could seem easier to just “not be a part of it” sometimes and that was MUCH easier for me to “overlook” when I did not have to pay much attention to my physical self. I learned ways to “check out” from myself pretty well.

Action for me has meant MANY things, depending on the “phase” of life, the lessons I’ve been willing to learn, and how open I’ve been to continue to take new steps following my hearts path. THIS is what is helping support my growth each day. Which will always be an opportunity of choices for me. There is no need to get caught up in or restricted by singlur definitions of “action” and “growth” because in the end it’s our own anyway right?!

So, here it is, kind of “full circle” in kind of a way. I found a year or so ago that I need to connect my two. Instead of always one or the other. I’ve had my focus on physical, I’ve had my focus on spiritual/inner work, now for the yin and yang to circle… Yes, a need for balance will always exist. We come to that realization in different way and at different times and in multiple intensities.

Connecting the emotional, spiritual, and physical is due for an “upgrade” in my book. 😊

I hope you find “food for thought” here that assists you in finding your own action and ultimately a new layer of growth on your personal journey.

Much peace and love
Shiela