December Message of the Month – Our Life

by Shiela Reed

Originally posted December 18th 2018  (how ironic that the website went down after posting this and I had to “reset it” to the the day before this – Dec 18th is the day my world started to change forever… I am glad to have been reminded to revisit this.. more true than I could have even imagined it was going to be.)

It’s our life after all… to make choices… for better or worse.. it will be “good” or not… we live it based on how we choose.

I’ve written before about choices …seems like a simple enough topic, yet when you really try to narrow it down it’s actually a lot more complicated than that. From an emotional standpoint of course, so it’s more about the “choosing” that’s complicated. The actual act of “The Choice” can be difficult but in reality the hard part is already done. Digging into the emotions, acknowledging the emotions, being aware of underlying things and not just being “reactionary”… yep, THAT’S the hard part.

So what is one to do? Today I find myself having these questions. I’ve had these questions before.. I find some answers.. I find more questions… today some of those things remain the same and some of those things I find something different…

One thing remains the same, and it’s the ME factor. I am the part that remains center to it all. Even when I feel far “off center”, it is still me. My own “good and bad” is defined my ME. My love, happiness, pain, suffering… is mine by my choosing. I’m learning to be ok with that. I’m also learning that when I’m NOT, then it is only ME that can dig around and find a new “definition”. Or a way to acknowledge what I’m going through and decide to FEEL it ALL THE WAY THROUGH!

No short cuts when we make a “choice”… if we do, then we miss the whole “lesson” or “learning moment” and it will just reappear in another place as a “new choice”….

I share this today as this year and month has been a challenge on many levels. Both for me personally and I know for many others. Not exactly “good” or “bad”, as I prefer to have a definition based on “opportunity”. Yet the “opportunities” this year have come with what feels like a “price”. And while that is true to me, I also realize it’s more about some of my own resistance and struggle to “DO the choices” while also acknowledging the need to keep moving forward toward NEW choices.

Although a bit cliche, it never gets old to me.. life is a dance, a journey, a cluster of experiences.. I “dance” and “go” where I want and where I choose. Our lives are built from experience to experience… it just gets hard sometimes to “see” because there are so many at once. (Thinking of another cliched phrase- but a bit opposite- “can’t see the trees, for the forest” instead of the “forest for the trees”)

Regardless, it’s OUR LIFE… Live it as well as you choose. While allowing the Grace to “go through it” even when it’s messy and hard and we desperately seek Peace, that deep down we already know is at the center of US.

May you find peace, blessings, and courage as we end this year and begin anew, with the spirit of embracing change and acceptance through the allowance of lifes path.

Much love
Shiela

 

August message of the month – Embrace the Journey –

By Shiela Reed

Sometimes looking around and appreciating where we have come from is more important than being “right” in a debate or discussion. Whether with ourselves or others, what if instead of being aggravated or “disappointed” or angry, we were appreciative, humbled, and excited about how far we have come in our life? Whether leaps and bounds or tiny steps – it doesn’t really even matter the “direction”… our labeling and judgement about it is what gets us side tracked and we end up missing the true point in our journey.

While we are here to grow and learn and have a physical experience in our humanness and there is individuality in that, we also are part of a larger collective (society, communities, etc.) that very much impacts our world.
I often think about my own experiences and the impacts they have had on my journey and find even the hardest of them I have found appreciation for. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to see the growth we gain from the difficulties we encounter.

Similarly when we can appreciate the same flow of nature and our world… acknowledging that without rain, there is no growth or life. Without some natural “destruction” there is no “rebuilding” (i.e. fires, hurricanes, tornadoes). The earth system naturally will “rebalance” and it’s not about the “good or bad” of it.
It’s what ends up happening “with it” and after it that counts. Which way will it go? What is the overall reaction?

Nature and Earth – Gaia – will “balance” out. Our own energetic reactions is part of it all as well… if we (individually and/or collectively) react in extreme ways, there will be counter reactions from elsewhere too. It’s as if what we “create” gets “fed” and grows… panic, worry, fear, hostility… just as will safety, peace, comfort, and love. As we go through our own individual journeys and find our ways to become “balanced” (which is that ebb and flow of all the emotions in a closer, smoother and “truer” to our heart center) we can find a sense of peace here.

We will naturally know this state of being… it’s from where we came… embracing the journey through it all is when we can find peace and acceptance in allowing ourselves and others to truly be in harmony, despite our different paths.

As “kumbaya” as this all sounds, the realities of the facts are, not everyone will see it this way, and their journey may appear to be in conflict with our own. Take note and make your own boundaries as respectfully as can be done, and determine your own choices and own them.
At the end of it all, YOU are responsible for YOU and where your journey has been and where it is headed, all based on your moment by moment choices each day.

So, I hope you deeply embrace your journey from your heart, are open to the acceptance of your past by releasing all judgement, and gain exitment in allowing for your future to unfold without fear or restriction.
Much love and blessings
Shiela

What are you giving life?

by Shiela Reed

What are you giving life?

Have you ever really deeply contemplated this? I frequently do. I also realize on almost a daily basis I am having some form of a conversation with many different people on many different life topics.    Basically I then realize almost every time my “advice” or guidance seems to frequently end up with this as the “theme” to be considered.

In a way it seems like it could appear complicated or time-consuming, but in reality it’s just like anything, it takes some practice and doing it over and over before it becomes like “second nature”. Even then we all still have times when we will naturally just go back to using old mechanisms for dealing with things because we kind of “forget”.

This is why it is almost of an utmost importance to become “aware” of how this can affect us.   If we cannot find our way to a place of truly being open to other possibilities and concepts, we will likely stay within the confines of our current limited awareness. (As I’m writing this I realize this is a whole other topic 🙂 to just share later on regarding how to open up to awareness.. so stay tuned)

Today I want to share some thoughts and ponderance regarding how we feed and grow every single thing in our lives and how as our awareness grows, those things change and shift.  It is not really as random as our mind would like us to believe. This is the entering of our “will” to decide our own current reality – make” predictions” for future – while learning from our past without are an ego attached judgement

Here’s an example I have been using the last few years:  recently there was a full moon.  It was a super blue blood moon packed with powerful Energies( lots and lots of stuff written on that and where this energy can and does tend to go). The reality is simply stated – “packed with powerful energy”.  This is true, I have yet to meet or talk to anyone that disagrees with that.  Where there are variances is in regards to the “interpretations” of how this manifests in people’s daily lives.  So bear with me as I try to break this down-  because it ends up that everyone is correct, but there’s more to the story – and that’s the part I hope to help people see.  Another version if you will….

An interpretation – prediction- even all the way to a stereotype – is based on some element of an apparent consistency.  In this case one statement may be that “full moons bring out all the crazy people and behavior”.   If that’s the version of the story I latch onto, then it will manifest right before my eyes and I will for sure see it everywhere – thus “supporting” my interpretation of a full moon.  And YES, there are plenty of those exact things to find, see, and use as “proof”  to support that “stereotypical” Full Moon fever.

However, what if one’s awareness shifted a bit and we became aware of some other, almost as common but maybe appearing to be subtle occurrences during a full moon?

– like boosts of energy that if focused could be utilized to make big progress on a task

–  like emotions that flood us and are begging for attention because we have likely held them at bay so long, they now force their way through on the tides of the full moon energy flow.

– or like the natural draw to awe and wonder of the sky and the ebb and flow of life

How different could this or any other version of a concept, situation, or person be shifted in our current and future lives, while also allowing us to now see some new learning elements from our past?

So I invite you to contemplate this question with an open heart, allowing your mind to be free to wander with the understanding that what we hone in on and focus on, we “give life to and grow”.

So, “What if it was different than the way I currently see it?”  Would we then continue with our current thoughts about it? Or would we choose to shift that and allow things to change and become something new for us? As this sets in – is when we really begin to realize – in the end – WE always have a choice in the matter.  🙂

I hope you each grow and give life to the things, people/relationships, feelings, concepts, situations, etcetera…. that your heart actually chooses.

Blessings and Peace today and always

Shiela