Food and Eating – the Connection to Choices

Food and Eating – the Connection to Choices

by Shiela Reed

This topic comes around off and on for me every once in a while but this year I have noticed myself having a whole new level of inner dialogue about it.  I’ve always had some points of personal awareness regarding food and eating and I haven’t had a life long struggle – but I have for sure had my moments and found myself learning something new about myself and my relationship with food.

I have ALWAYS loved food and to loved to eat it!  I have been an athlete, active, and probably have a decent “genetic make up” that would be considered mostly healthy – so in reality, I can’t complain much.  Instead – what I notice more and more is the INNER connection to food and “pings” I get with the thought of it, the types of it, the purposes of it, and all aspects of it – (for example, I don’t enjoy cooking, I enjoy eating, I see a social opportunity, I see connections to my inner being – both my heart moments AND I now also recognize the ego moments/payoffs).  So this year, as I personally have been feeling a need for expanding beyond this “basic” understanding and “need” – not just because I am hitting a mid-life point, haha, but also because I have recognized that there is a bit of a common “theme” going on in general for many folks.

So now appears to be a pivotal time to be paying attention to your body and it’s “true needs”. While that is widely individualized, one thing I have noticed for myself starting to come in this year is regarding the need to limit and maybe even begin to eliminate eating meats.
The whole topic of food for me has been a life long “thing” but not necessarily because I “struggled with my weight”. I really haven’t had that too bad. Yes there have been points here and there that got “out of control” and I had a few extremes but in reality, I have been fairly in tune with my body my whole life regarding what it “felt like eating”. Part of that reality was admitting/incorporating the fact that emotional and mental components totally played a part in this and as long as I remained aware and sometime a bit more “vigilant” about being on a more nutritious track, I knew very well how to “maintain” or loose 5 to 10 pounds.
I had my hardest struggle when I lost all “vigilance” and the next thing I knew I was over 50 pounds over weight. I simply didn’t know how to loose that much! So I needed some help during those times…
What I’m talking about here is the “knowing” what my true self body is guiding me toward and trusting that, even if I don’t understand “why”.

I’d like to share some observations and tid bits of information that have come to me and maybe spark your own interest in researching it further and “checking within yourself” to see where you are on this topic if you too have had some promptings to “change things” regarding food this year- beyond the usual “let’s get healthy”, I have a health condition so I better do it, etc..
I want to talk about how our body FEELS after consuming different things. Being in tune with that is super important. By adding the level of awareness that both our physical bodies and emotional bodies can “crave” or have a “need” – and knowing which and why we choose one or the other is a cool level of helpful awareness that really connects us to our physical bodies here on Earth.

For example as I feel deeper into this new “need” to let go of the dense nature of meat, it actually makes sense to my spiritual body and is in my own “right timing”. I say that because many people take stances on eating or not eating meat for a multitude of reasons, none of which is what I’m referring to here since it can lead to forms of judgement and defensiveness and then we may not see our own deep needs or connections to the topic. For example, I am an avid animal lover and while it may seem odd to some that I have continued to eat meat, it is part of my own journey into awaking that is for me to go through and discover.
What I find fascinating is that this year, this “change” has naturally started to occur from WITHIN me, not pressure from others or any form of guilt or any such thing. It is truly what my energy system is “telling me” it needs for my physical body to “conform to” as it is important for my own spiritual awakening.

Ironically (or really not so much LOL – thank you universe 😁) I have stumbled onto supporting information from several sources that support the notion that for our physical bodies to be best prepared to remain on physical Earth during these changing energy times (from 3D to 4 and 5D) our bodies need to be less dense to allow for abilities to move within and throughout the new grids more easily.
I know, I know, to some it may sound woowoo still, but every time I check within on this, I am given a definitive “YES” this is accurate. I have also noted random conversations with many people, many who are not connected to energy related work at all, and they too are reporting this “strange draw or desire” to physically “lighten up” and adjust the intake of meat in particular.
How wild is that?!
So that leads one to believe there is something to the collective shift and the universal energy message to help us prepare – IF we are at least in-tune within enough to hear some of it.

So where are you in all this “physical body shifting” thing? How do these words make you feel? Are you like “duh! That makes total sense?- I knew that?” – are you like “hmm now that you mention it, that actually sounds and feels accurate” or “um. Nope, doesn’t make any sense and I don’t get what you are talking about”.
Regardless, I sure hope you look and feel further into it for yourself and see what is there and make note of how it guides your future directions. Maybe it’s just a new eye opener to finding your hearts path. Maybe it’s the “ah ha I’m onto something new to learn about myself”, or maybe it’s a confirmation that I’m on the right track.

To check in regarding this for yourself, ask some clarifying questions from a deeper place within you, like: “Is that what I was going for or do I need to adjust things next time?” Do I recognize that maybe I ate a “bad” for me food but it met a “need”? Then go further and notice “Did my body feel bad or better?” If bad, then probably another choice in handling the “why” for that food choice, would likely be better the next time. If my body felt “good”, then it was probably a congruent choice and what both (body and energy) may have needed as a way to help release something blocked. (Often the deeper aspects of recognition, awareness, and acknowledgement are a catalyst for supporting this part of “letting go” as it can help diminish the amount of “power” the unknown/hidden parts of us had in the situation and we can actually be hanging on.  So an AWARE emotional eating release – i.e. I am choosing to eat this piece of cake and I know it is not the most physically healthy choice, but the sugar in it is going to assist me mentally to work through an emotional issue at this moment and once it is gone/over, I can/will release it – freeing me up to be open to a new or different choice the next time – as I simultaneously recognize I do NOT have to utilize this as a defense mechanism to blindly follow when I become emotional the next time – since I am now more AWARE than I was, about the ego pay-off/reasoning for the choice in the first place)

As always I hope this sparks curiosity and wonder about our body connections and our future connection here on planet Earth. 🌎  Be well…

Peace and love
Shiela

A Special Tribute – A Soulmate Animal

A Heartfelt Tribute – by Shiela Reed

I would like to share a special tribute to my special dog Bosco on what would have been his 17th birthday today.  As anyone that connects to animals will know, they can hold a deeply impactful place in our hearts.  And while I easily connect to animals and nature in general and enjoy their presence, I have been profoundly impacted by this particular bond/relationship.  So much so, I hope you can also feel what I mean and strength of such a connection.  May it also provide those of you that have had similar experiences, with a bit of comfort in the words and knowing that while we love, cherish, and hold these bonds, it is ok to “let go” and allow for them to be “free” as we know the true love and memories the relationship has held will forever be tucked sweetly in the graciousness of our hearts.

Bosco tribute

{I started his “tribute” before I knew it was going to end so soon

(10-8-18)

My love for you is unmeasurable. You have taught me much about unconditional love and how just a presence can be enough. When I think of you my heart explodes with a feeling so strong that I’m overcome with emotion. It amazes me that a little animal can have this effect on me, but what it is is a true vulnerability I feel safe to allow with your little heart and I just can’t quite seem to reach that space as easily any other time. I guess that is why I consider you my “soulmate dog”.

From day one when I saw you on Pet Finder I just knew you belonged with me and I would be your person to care for you for the rest of your life. When I got to see you in real life, the bond was equally set as you jumped from that tiny crate from a van that traveled from Kansas to St Charles with many other dogs. I waited patiently as others got their dogs until finally it was my turn and then there you were! They said you were “mean”, didn’t like men, but to me it was obvious you just didn’t “trust” and you needed someone with patience and understanding to help you. You must have sensed that too as you immediately became attached to me and is how it has always been from that day forward.

You have been my most stable and consistent part of my life and I am forever grateful. I know I have given you a wonderful life and you are appreciative of it all, yet imagining life without you is a little unbearable.

I have so many stories and forever memories, as we grew and survived some of the worst and best times together. You have heard my cries, seen me tears, felt my pain, and been a solid dependable life for my heart to cling to. We have ended up going many places and being together nonstop when it was just us.

Your love for the drive thru (notably french fries) and a little cappuccino here and there were bonding food moments. There is nothing I wouldn’t share with you or do for you. I love my car rides and you ended up loving them too. You are the best travel buddy and as bonded as we have been, I could take you anywhere and know you would be close by. I’ll never forget taking you to a horse show and how I could let you walk by me without a leash and nothing distracted you from me. ❤ You would sit and watch me play ball and anywhere we were, the world was good as long as you could see me and I you.
You are one of a kind and my heart will forever be connected with yours.

I have so many stories (who wouldn’t after 16 years) –  too many to share but I’ll remember them all within my heart.  I know we are both grateful to Nana Sandy for her equally loving care of you and special times you and she had too over the years.  The lessons of life I’ve learned from our special relationship continues to unfold and I am so grateful for you.  Each day is a gift. I am trying to remember this. Your looks at me were always trying to tell me that, funny how I missed that message far too often… for that I’m sorry, “life” sometimes seems to take over and we easily forget to slow down and enjoy “the little things/times”. But I know we did our best and we have had a wonderful life together.  Yet, I still would wish to have extra time with you.. To pet your head, be near, sit on the couch, hear you snore, and be still. Even when you would pace around and follow me and my crazy chaotic mornings all you wanted by the end of the day was for me to sit on the couch with you and just be close.. and I’m here.. I’ll always be here… And you will always be with me.. for that I am eternally grateful .

So here even at the end (Dec 2018) –I “hear” you. We have had many “talks” and our “agreement” is being met. When you were diagnosed with heart failure at 12 you agreed to stay until after you were 16. You have kept that… not always totally easy, but we kept “checking in” and agreed it was ok to keep going. We also agreed when the time came I would “be with you”. Which is what I did during your last week, until our last goodbye. We also agreed we needed to be at home – and you would go on your own.  That too was met… we remained open to a backup plan of someone coming here to help the transition IF needed, but it wasn’t necessary… we did it and it was just “us” as always… I am here, I will always be here and know part of you will always live in my heart.

Although you are gone, I feel the ways you will remain with me.
Despite the days that pass, I still miss you
I know this heartache… I’ve decided it’s a small price to pay for the pure joy, unconditional love, and life lessons you have given in return.
How blessed I’ve been to know such companionship. Thank you always for picking me to be your person.

Peace to you my Bosco –  my “soulmate dog”.}

Bosco
His watchful eye always upon me.

Thank you for allowing me to “let go” a little more and tuck a bit more of the pain of his loss into the safety of my heart space.

Much love and peace

Shiela

As 2018 Morphs into 2019…by Bryan Moss

2019..new beginnings. I find myself being very thankful and grateful. In retrospect, I’m thankful my insides were turned outward, sideways and upside down all last year. Peeling away the layers and layers of my ‘false self’ and revealing my True Self…I know that’s part of the journey. If I don’t do the journey, I don’t grow and learn more about myself.

**I’m grateful for my very dysfunctional family. In the grand scheme of things I know I’ve selected all of the players/actors in my 3D life for my growth. I’ve learned how to establish boundaries, let them go about their journey the way they wish to do it, and stop judging them and having expectations of them.
**I’m grateful I decided to sign up for the Heart Warrior program through transCodes, in March of 2016. Little did I know then the beautiful and loving relationships I’ve had the honor to develop with others in the transCodes community, with similar resonances to mine.
**I’m grateful to have learned what I’ve learned with energy work and how it relates to me.
**I’m grateful I respected and loved myself enough to kick myself in the butt to learn, not only energy work, but discovering new elements of my own energies.
**I’m grateful I’m starting to get the feeling of “letting go”. It feels like only in spurts, but at least it’s happening, and those moments are getting longer and longer.
**I’m grateful I’m finally giving myself permission to fuck up and not feel like a jerk whenever I do.
**I’m grateful I’m part of this website, which allows me a platform to share and perhaps prompt a visitor to go within for answers, and if they’re already on a journey, encourages them to continue on, no matter what the challenges are.
**I’m grateful for the obvious, and not so obvious, lessons Mother Earth continues to teach me.
**I’m at a point in my spiritual journey where I look forward to anything that’s NOT comfortable, in regards to myself, so I can learn from it.
**I’m grateful I’m not judging others, or situations, as much as I use too. For when you’re judging anything, all you’re doing is judging yourself, right?
**I’m grateful to “own” my journey and not blame my life’s circumstances on others.
**I’m grateful I can eventually laugh at myself whenever I screw up.
**Lastly, I’m grateful I Love myself…my True Self…a Light Being of Source.

May Peace and Laughter saturate your loving Soul throughout 2019.
Bryan…….the Light Being (batteries included)

October Message of the Month – One Thing at a Time

by Shiela Reed

One thing at a time. Slow your breathing and you’ll slow your mind, then everything else will follow. Take your time. It is all OK as it is.

It is so hard to slow down and focus on one thing at a time. I often find myself racing from one thing to another without being consciously present in any of it!  This is actually detrimental to any progress and a misguided notion that we “should do more”… for example, I am a firm believer that multi-tasking is a myth and has misguided MANY of us! As we become more and more separated and distracted from being fully present in a moment or task, we ultimately find we aren’t really being “good” at any one thing at all!

As I’ve become more aware of this, I have found this is a root of much of my anxiousness. I actually feel better and in tune with my inner voice when I pay attention to this “signal” and remind myself to slow down. Lately this has been extra intensified and with all the energetic shifting going on around all of us, I know I am not the only one.

For example, right now I feel a strong need to “de-clutter” more. But letting go of things feels difficult. I know this is a sign that I have some work to do in this area. I’ve tried a little at a time by focusing on one area or theme. i.e. clothes, stored items.. things where I KNOW I have things that can “go” and I won’t “die” if I actually DO get rid of them, (haha) but you know, I still only end up being able to ditch a few things! What the heck?! I can actually FEEL the anxiety underneath, the “fear” of “what IF” I need this “someday”?! Another “thought” is about how the item reminds me of something, someone, or an event/time.. and I worry I will “forget” the memory.   I take a next step and wonder WHY is this coming in like this?  What is the REAL reason I am holding on?..
Knowing from my inner heart space that this is necessary for me to “make room” for anything new, why is it still so hard? I also know that it pulls me into the past, which intuitively I know can serve a purpose, (understand and learn from the past type of thing) but can becomes a problem when I can’t “hear” or “see” a flexible future. Instead I feel limited or restricted. Those are signs that I’m not in the moment or trusting my heart. Instead there is an overlay of a fear of something…

So I keep going back to “one thing at a time”, over and over and over. Resetting myself… starting by just realizing it and then trying to just focus on the moment and asking myself if this (item, situation, person, feeling) is important for me or to my “best/ true inner self “.
Sometimes it is, and is clearly only “for now”, sometimes it is not, but I have to acknowledge there is something deeper going on if I cannot “let it go”.   Either way, it is important to not get caught here and thus not be able to move on, one way or the other.

Therefore, right now, all I’m able to do with those moments, is to practice another form of “one thing at a time” and realize that some things I’m just not ready to deal with, so I set it aside and work on NOT getting caught up in a mental loop about it.

It’s been such a theme this month that it has felt important to share. If for no other reason but to say “hang in there”. “One foot in front of the other”. “One thing at a time”. And I’m discovering that it doesn’t mean that each “thing” always gets “done”. Sometimes, it’s just being in the moment of whatever is going on, and then moving on to a next moment while accepting that becoming overly “obsessed” about finishing something, is probably going to end up counter productive.

So join me and pick one “focus” at a time and take it easy… Enjoy, appreciate, and fill it with love.
After all, it is what will provide us the support and solid base for all things that will come to us in our future.

Many blessings
Shiela

THE ART OF CRYING by Bryan Moss

As an energy worker I found myself wondering, for the past number of weeks, if I was still in touch with my Heart. Things that would normally move me to tears just weren’t doing it anymore. Mentioning of my mother’ name (she made her transition back in 1995 due to cancer), observing a stray dog or cat wandering the streets, or seeing an elderly person in a room full of younger people and not one person talking to them, all would wet my eyes. But lately, not anymore.
 My critical inner voice would heckle me with: “I’ve become cold hearted.” “I don’t seem to care about anything anymore.” “I’ve lost touch with my soul.” Within collective society the majority of people are conditioned to believe crying is a form of weakness. Now it’s acceptable if you initially cry over unexpected bad news, but don’t let that crying linger on. “Real men don’t cry, they just handle it” (whatever ‘it’ is). It’s crammed down everyone’s throats to “be strong and tough”. “Don’t let people know you’re weak.” “Don’t show people you’re vulnerable.” All programmed collective B.S.!!!…… mmmmmmm……
 A little research shows there are substantial benefits in the art of crying. The tears we shed have chemicals  that actually make us feel good! Oxytocin and endorphins are released to help relieve pain and elevate our moods. Tears help to kill bacteria and keep the eyes clean with a fluid called lysozyme. Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which helps us to relax. Little did I know of the physical benefits of crying, other than it usually feels good to get that ‘stuff’ out afterwords.
 Now, what’s got me writing about crying? A series of recent personal events all manifested within a 3 week period. One right after another, culminating with one of my best friends dying in a car accident, first thing in the morning on Valentine’s Day. As I was leaving my work place for lunch, a mutual friend called  to let me know. After disbelief passed through me, I cried and cried and cried in the cab of my truck for the hour, not even touching my lunch. Memories flooding my brain with all of the times we spent together. How we met each other. How we hit it off immediately through the same sense of humor and observations. The mutual respect and admiration we had for one another. After lunch, I went back into work sobbing. For the next couple of days I alternated between crying and sobbing. Reflecting, I was also aware I wasn’t only crying because I lost a best friend. I was releasing stress built up over all of the unexpected events that slammed me from the last weeks.
 What was cool was I had made the transition from feeling guilty and self conscious for crying to knowing it was my God given right to cry…and I was proud of it! I looked at the ‘gifts’ my pal gave to me. His humor, understanding, and most of all, his humbleness. He was a very knowledgeable man who knew a little of just about anything and yet very humble. I guess you could say he taught me, by example, the virtues of humbleness.  My friend’s passing couldn’t have happened on a more appropriate day, Valentine’s Day, for he had a BIG Heart!
  I realized I had to ‘let him go’. I also realized dwelling on and on about the ‘news’ of his passing wasn’t fair to him as well. The stray animals, my mom’s passing, the elders being neglected…gradually I had to let them all go and not ‘hang on’ to them. Energetically it could be stagnating if I didn’t, for all concerned.
 Acceptance gradually entered my life over the past number of months. Accepting that “everything’s perfect the way it is”. And in  accepting life as it unfolds I come from the power of choice. Do I choose to engage in conversation with the lady in the wheelchair? Do I feed the stray cat at work?  I wasn’t becoming cold hearted or insensitive. Instead it’s the opposite. I was becoming more accepting and compassionate without judgement as life’s events unfolded. I never did lose touch with my Heart. Out of acceptance I  was nurturing it.
 All of these realizations wouldn’t have come to me if I didn’t participate in the art of crying. Pass me a tissue please.
 With Respect and Love,
 Bryan