April Message of the Month: Gaslighting and our Choices
by Shiela Reed
Really good read about the gaslighting coming..
I have believed this for a long while and couldn’t have said this any better.
Our time is NOW
Our CHOICES will matter more than ever…
My personal lesson has been one on patience, mostly with myself, but a lot regarding other people and the complete differences in opinions and behaviors they have from me.
I’m not saying I’m “right” or perfect by any means. Far from it. I say a LOT less than I think. Especially these days. I am happy to discuss and talk to anyone else with an open mind and I try my best to do the same in return. This seems to work better on an individual basis anymore since social media and media in general seems to just spark more anger and fear which adds to the difficulty in communicating.
I’m very troubled and saddened by the events of the world. The behavior of us as humans in general is worrisome. It gets hard to find the “good” or positive when we are surrounded by the hate, arrogance, self-centeredness, and overall questionable behavior.
I get that there is fear, anger, confusion, sadness, grief, distrust… we try to see hope, happiness, a sense of direction, peace, a future that will make sense….
Honestly, it will NEVER be the same. I’ve wanted to post for a long while about my own struggles. Wondering if it would even help anyone else. Or if I’m sending too much of my own “junk” out there…lately I find times it’s hard to sleep due to worry. Worry about ALL OF US.
I do many things to try to take care of myself, I HAVE TO as an empath. Yet the feeling of overwhelm from outside of me can still knock me down. No doubt, I’m blessed. I know this and am extremely grateful. I don’t have things within my immediate life necessarily that make me feel “low” …
Instead it’s THIS – the things I see and hear people say and do. It gives a very different and often sobering view of human kind. People you thought believed like you but actually don’t. Wondering how it is we can be SO far apart and divided. It makes me sad.
Yet the ray of light I so desperately want to cling to is the one of HOPE. That this “lesson” we are ALL to learn is truly discovered before we destroy ourselves. I don’t want to go down the road of conspiracy theories or any other place that turns into a “debate” about “what the lesson is” or why or where it’s coming from.. In reality it’s probably some messy mixture of all of it just to “prove” we are all “right” AND that we are all “wrong”…
Honestly it’s pretty likely it’s so “deep” we couldn’t really mentally deconstruct it anyway. Personally and based on the energetic work I do, I believe it is multifaceted. There is an individual component that EACH of us needs to address, and then there is a much larger context within our collective (community, society, the world). All of which will end up at varying degrees of change. Requiring us to move beyond where we currently are. Some will be miles different and some will be inches. But there WILL be different. A “new normal” WILL emerge.
I TRULY want and hope that “we get it”. Deep inside I feel the peace in the trust that “all is as it should be” and things are and will play out as it’s supposed to. I do trust…
I try to remain the observer- and not get too far one way or another.
I try to know when to share without fear of judgement or thinking that “no one cares” what I have to say anyway.
I try to know when to be silent and hold my tongue because I’m being opinionated or projecting my fears or judging others.
I try to stay positive while fighting my own inner sadness for humanity.
I try to accept that I want to feel special and needed but end up jealous and envious.
I try to be happy and share love in ways that I realize only I can do…
Clearly this list can go on and on.. but in the end of these “deep thought” kind of moments- I always come back to the reminder that the Grace I give myself is the first gift I can give for there to be ANY level of healing for myself or anyone I will impact.
It isn’t easy… most times I’d probably rather just “hide”…but sometimes, just sometimes, the creative parts and individual gifts need to be pushed out beyond the fear. We need to remember and NEVER forget that times like these are HUGE events that are changing the fabric of humanity and we ARE a part of it, whether we like it or not.
So if you’ve read this far- I wonder,
What kind of normal are you preparing to return to?
Are you awake and aware?
As scared as I am for change- I personally DON’T want life to go all the way back to “the way it was”. There are MANY areas that could be better. Personally AND globally. There are also many that I love and I do want to be the same.
The point is, we ALL have a chance to make choices – and they are all really important now. What pieces do you want to keep and what pieces do you want to let go of?
It’s up to us, but please don’t forget the importance of this time of learning…. don’t allow yourself to be part of any gaslighting. Know your own inner truth.
Much love and regards for peace