December Message of the Month – Our Life

by Shiela Reed

Originally posted December 18th 2018  (how ironic that the website went down after posting this and I had to “reset it” to the the day before this – Dec 18th is the day my world started to change forever… I am glad to have been reminded to revisit this.. more true than I could have even imagined it was going to be.)

It’s our life after all… to make choices… for better or worse.. it will be “good” or not… we live it based on how we choose.

I’ve written before about choices …seems like a simple enough topic, yet when you really try to narrow it down it’s actually a lot more complicated than that. From an emotional standpoint of course, so it’s more about the “choosing” that’s complicated. The actual act of “The Choice” can be difficult but in reality the hard part is already done. Digging into the emotions, acknowledging the emotions, being aware of underlying things and not just being “reactionary”… yep, THAT’S the hard part.

So what is one to do? Today I find myself having these questions. I’ve had these questions before.. I find some answers.. I find more questions… today some of those things remain the same and some of those things I find something different…

One thing remains the same, and it’s the ME factor. I am the part that remains center to it all. Even when I feel far “off center”, it is still me. My own “good and bad” is defined my ME. My love, happiness, pain, suffering… is mine by my choosing. I’m learning to be ok with that. I’m also learning that when I’m NOT, then it is only ME that can dig around and find a new “definition”. Or a way to acknowledge what I’m going through and decide to FEEL it ALL THE WAY THROUGH!

No short cuts when we make a “choice”… if we do, then we miss the whole “lesson” or “learning moment” and it will just reappear in another place as a “new choice”….

I share this today as this year and month has been a challenge on many levels. Both for me personally and I know for many others. Not exactly “good” or “bad”, as I prefer to have a definition based on “opportunity”. Yet the “opportunities” this year have come with what feels like a “price”. And while that is true to me, I also realize it’s more about some of my own resistance and struggle to “DO the choices” while also acknowledging the need to keep moving forward toward NEW choices.

Although a bit cliche, it never gets old to me.. life is a dance, a journey, a cluster of experiences.. I “dance” and “go” where I want and where I choose. Our lives are built from experience to experience… it just gets hard sometimes to “see” because there are so many at once. (Thinking of another cliched phrase- but a bit opposite- “can’t see the trees, for the forest” instead of the “forest for the trees”)

Regardless, it’s OUR LIFE… Live it as well as you choose. While allowing the Grace to “go through it” even when it’s messy and hard and we desperately seek Peace, that deep down we already know is at the center of US.

May you find peace, blessings, and courage as we end this year and begin anew, with the spirit of embracing change and acceptance through the allowance of lifes path.

Much love
Shiela

 

August message of the month – Embrace the Journey –

By Shiela Reed

Sometimes looking around and appreciating where we have come from is more important than being “right” in a debate or discussion. Whether with ourselves or others, what if instead of being aggravated or “disappointed” or angry, we were appreciative, humbled, and excited about how far we have come in our life? Whether leaps and bounds or tiny steps – it doesn’t really even matter the “direction”… our labeling and judgement about it is what gets us side tracked and we end up missing the true point in our journey.

While we are here to grow and learn and have a physical experience in our humanness and there is individuality in that, we also are part of a larger collective (society, communities, etc.) that very much impacts our world.
I often think about my own experiences and the impacts they have had on my journey and find even the hardest of them I have found appreciation for. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to see the growth we gain from the difficulties we encounter.

Similarly when we can appreciate the same flow of nature and our world… acknowledging that without rain, there is no growth or life. Without some natural “destruction” there is no “rebuilding” (i.e. fires, hurricanes, tornadoes). The earth system naturally will “rebalance” and it’s not about the “good or bad” of it.
It’s what ends up happening “with it” and after it that counts. Which way will it go? What is the overall reaction?

Nature and Earth – Gaia – will “balance” out. Our own energetic reactions is part of it all as well… if we (individually and/or collectively) react in extreme ways, there will be counter reactions from elsewhere too. It’s as if what we “create” gets “fed” and grows… panic, worry, fear, hostility… just as will safety, peace, comfort, and love. As we go through our own individual journeys and find our ways to become “balanced” (which is that ebb and flow of all the emotions in a closer, smoother and “truer” to our heart center) we can find a sense of peace here.

We will naturally know this state of being… it’s from where we came… embracing the journey through it all is when we can find peace and acceptance in allowing ourselves and others to truly be in harmony, despite our different paths.

As “kumbaya” as this all sounds, the realities of the facts are, not everyone will see it this way, and their journey may appear to be in conflict with our own. Take note and make your own boundaries as respectfully as can be done, and determine your own choices and own them.
At the end of it all, YOU are responsible for YOU and where your journey has been and where it is headed, all based on your moment by moment choices each day.

So, I hope you deeply embrace your journey from your heart, are open to the acceptance of your past by releasing all judgement, and gain exitment in allowing for your future to unfold without fear or restriction.
Much love and blessings
Shiela

CHOICES Part 2 by Bryan Moss

SCROLL DOWN AND READ CHOICES PART 1 FIRST
Choices….Picking up where I left off in Part 1, being a student (forever) of energy work I’ve come to learn there is no “good” or “bad” when it comes to energy of any type. Energy is energy. Energy has no bias or concern. Energy doesn’t judge either. Energy doesn’t decide what’s good or bad. Energy has no invested interest in the outcome. This reminds me of the argument of guns. Are they good or bad? Well, do guns have emotions and thoughts? Do they go to G.A. (well Guns Anonymous, of course)? Do they stand up during the meetings and go,” Hi. My name is “six shooter” and I killed a squirrel today.” Most of the time the answer always leads to how is the gun being used? Which leads to who’s holding it? The same thing with energy. It’s how we choose to use it…
 …which brings us back to choices. To look at choices as being a form of energy is a tough one for all of us to wrap our minds around. I know I was raised to believe in dualism. No matter what happens we always put on a label of it being good or bad. We’re conditioned into thinking/judging everything and everyone, within every situation we encounter, by that basic criteria…”good” or “bad”. As children we get “good” grades or “bad” grades. Thus, we’re ingrained with “dualism”. Dualism externalizes life in general. The word “division” comes to mind, with that age, old war strategy…”Divide and Conquer”…which is the exact opposite of “Oneness”. Dualism is really a step away from Oneness. And a step closer to ego’s passion for judgement. And of course judgement entails “good” or “bad”….
 …here’s the tricky part…I’m learning to get rid of the concepts of “good” and “bad” and to acquire the art of observing from my Heart. The divinity within our Hearts comes from unconditional Oneness. My journey within has shown me Oneness is truth. Dualism is false. My journey continues to show me choices made from my Heart gives me clarity. Choices from my mind eventually gives me confusion and doubt, where “good” and “bad” are mixed right in there. My Heart space is also where I’m held accountable for any choices along my journey. Instead of blaming others, or circumstances, I try to accept whatever is presented and, from my Heart, DISCERN the choices I should make. Discernment dispels “good’, “bad”, “right’, “wrong” and certainly “dualism”. Discerning entails aligning with what’s true for my journey on planet 3D and sorting out the programming I was raised to believe were the ways of God. As written in a previous blog of mine, “ARE YOU IN or OUT?”, the only way I’ve learned anything, in regards to my inner truth, is going within and taking an unbiased look at myself….easier said than done, but necessary. The deeper I go down the rabbit hole the more apparent it is to me that “good” or “bad” are meaningless terms/concepts. Certainly NOT the sacred rules of life, nor my personal journey. I’m learning my favorable choices are made from discernment.
 The bottom line: Under the Truth umbrella: Choices=Discernment From My Heart
 In other words, instead of relying on evidence from “out there” to give me the tools to make choices in life, I always go within my Heart and then observe any situation from there.
 And then listen….and FEEL the choice before making it. Everyone has “Heart Strings” within. Play those strings with music of introspection, learn how to discern and then choose. If it turns out to be the wrong choice? Write it up to experience and make another choice.
 My journey has been, and will continue to be, about Choices.
With Respect and Love,
Bryan

The Enlightenment Mouse Trap by Bryan Moss

  Enlightenment….When one chooses to go the spiritual route, she/he can encounter a multitude of mouse traps along the way. These traps have you thinking you’re progressing along your journey when, in fact, you’re going around and around the merry-go-round.
 Enlightenment…. Not the average goal for your ordinary kind of guy, or gal. To shed off the weight of society’s  expectations and rules and regulations to a state of “nothingness/absolute awareness/pure bliss”…. Enlightenment is the main goal. We begin our journeys and breathe for it, eat for it, turn our bodies into pretzel shapes for it, buy books on it, sing for it, hum for it, chant for it, we want..want..want..<snap!> the Enlightenment mouse trap just got you!
 Here’s a secret about achieving enlightenment…it most likely isn’t going to happen. Stop wasting your time and energy. Watch out!! Just when I figured out how to look within and not “out there” somewhere, then <snap!> I find myself going for the enlightenment goal. I know from my own experiences it can be exhausting and frustrating. I suggest there’s another way that’s way more productive. I had to change my perspective. The actual goal isn’t about reaching an “end’ (enlightenment).
 The goal, in this case,………….is ongoing.
 Get that? The goal ISN’T the end..it’s ONGOING. The goal IS THE JOURNEY ITSELF. Focusing on the actual work I’m doing within myself IS the journey. I’ve come to realize this is how I can achieve wisdom. This is how I can become responsible for what I’ve created in my life. Paying attention to my journey I find a new found love and respect for myself and others. Nothing goes by unnoticed. I now proudly wear the cloak of gratitude with each experience I live within my journey. What relief! It’s not about striving for anything or looking into the future. It’s about “being” and “feeling” the experiences of life on a moment to moment basis. That’s it! Now we can avoid the enlightenment smoke screen and, literally, tend to matters at hand.
With respect and Love,
Bryan

Are you IN or OUT? by Bryan Moss

 I think of some words from the opening remarks from that old 1960’s Star Trek series, “..to boldly go where no man has gone before.” Who needs outer space exploration when there’s already plenty of exploring within your own body, mind and Soul/Heart? We’re raised to go ‘outward’ for help whenever something occurs. We’re told to ‘seek professional help’ when in all sorts of troubles. [Don’t get me wrong. If all of the sudden you’re having major chest pains get medical help ASAP. Don’t be stupid. Use discernment.] We’re raised to think, for the most part, that we can’t do it ourselves. ‘It’– meaning handling life’s circumstances as they occur. We’re raised to seek power. Seek ‘out there’ for answers. Look for that book with all the answers. Buy all the ‘spiritual’ gizmos and gadgets to help your life.
 But there’s one problem. You’re never happy and satisfied. You’re always looking for more. What’s that definition of ignorance? To keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results? So if looking ‘out there’ is a never ending quest of unsatisfying answers, then what?
 A suggestion….go the other way. WITHIN……. Within yourself. First and foremost, get back in touch with your Heart. Learn to feel again. Some of us have to relearn how to feel with our hearts again. We’ve become so busy protecting them, because of past heartaches, that we’ve forgotten how to feel again. And I mean REALLY feel…not think you know how to still feel. Really get in touch with your Heart. How? Remember how you use to love whomever or whatever? A past romance? The smell of your favorite thing baking in the oven? Your favorite pet? A rainbow after a rain? The tender kiss of a loved one? Just recall what that felt like. And then try an experiment. Take that feeling and apply it to yourself. How does that feel? Grateful or disdainful? Do you feel worthy of being loved? Of loving yourself? Or can you even do it? Chances are, like most of us at the start of our journey, you’re not that comfortable with it.
 Where does one go from there? Take a look at it. Why are you not comfy? When in your life did that mindset start? Not to get all New Agey and all, but usually everyone’s ‘stuff’ originates from childhood. I found when I started to take a look at those patterns in life I didn’t care for, and followed the patterns into the past, they always took me into my childhood. All of the programming and conditioning, all of the ‘free will thinking’ that was learned, any fears, phobias, reactions….all of it originated from when I was a very young whipper snapper. Can we blame our parents and teachers for raising us this way? Not really. It’s not their fault because they were raised the same way. They didn’t know any better.
 Your Heart always has the answers. Start feeling with your Heart again.  Treat yourself and meet your inner child. Get to know her/him again. Many people are afraid to do this journey. It’s confronting. It reveals our shadow aspects. It requires honesty. It  requires persistence. It requires patience to listen to our inner child’s needs and unexpressed feelings. And in time, we find ourselves reframing our perspectives of past hurts and heartaches to healthier ones. We find little “lessons”. We start to rediscover and feel the Love within. We rediscover the God source as we remove the layers of hurts and heartaches from our past.
 A quick personal experience: A few years ago, through Self-Unification and Transcodes, I did my first Inner Child transmission. After closing my eyes and recalling heartfelt feelings with the intention of meeting “little Bryan”, there was 5 yr. old Bryan standing in front of me. Shy. Not sure what to do. I greeted him and asked him if he’d like to sit beside me and talk. He began sharing stories of perceived past ‘wrongs’ at his age that mom and dad did. He eventually sat on my lap and I held him as we cried in each other’s arms. I remember telling ‘little Bryan’, “They (my parents) didn’t know any better Bryan. They truly did love you. They were trying the best they could with whatever they knew at that time. They always loved you. They just didn’t know any better.”
 After that session I felt like a million pounds was lifted off my shoulders. I felt noticeably lighter. These days, because of having done several sessions with ‘little Bryan’, I’m more understanding of other people. Eventually I realized all of those other people have their own ‘little Bryans, or Berthas, or Gertrudes, or Sams..within them…just waiting to be acknowledged and loved again.
 So are you In or Out?
 With respect and Love,
Bryan