August Message of the Month: What are we really doing?
By Shiela Reed
It can be so disheartening when we watch friends and family bicker and banter over differing options and opinions. Or when we notice we have engaged in something that isn’t exactly of the highest integrity. It feels worse than ever these days and creates a dip in our sense of hope.
It can be surprising how neither side sees that they are both doing the exact same thing. Interrupting, not listening, sticking to a self imposed agenda. Feeling entitled to comment and push – calling it a “friendly/healthy” debate. And “good” for everyone to “hear opposing views”.
While there are elements of truth to all of it, there is also just as much untruth.
And we need to recognize that we really do have the ability to sense when we are honestly and openly around real TRUTH- because it will not feel “bossed”, forced, angry, or with “ulterior motives”.
Instead it will feel expansive and open to question, seek, and learn. It will be collaborative and inclusive, even if it’s different.
Bullies and aggressive agenda minded people often tell you “you’re too sensitive”. But that is for their own intention. But to be clear, this is NOT the same as when we actually ARE being a bit overly “sensitive” (you know what I mean, sultry, sulking etc because of our own missing needs).
It is confusing as hell being in this space!
I have found myself here many times. And over the years I’ve begun to learn to trust when I feel that difference and confirmed it for myself.
For each of us, WE CAN and we NEED to learn how to tap in to our own truth – our heart space or we will never really know if our efforts to discern are really accurate in that truth or not.
Yes, it all seems “real” and yet it also all seems like “lies”. When we are stressed, un-cared for, with unmet needs, or inflated egos – we will always run the risk of unknowingly following others belief systems.
This is internal. While yes, we have different external “connections” – our truth is more about why and how those connections exist. Do we know this? From a deeper perspective or are we remaining on the surface? Allowing ourselves to not “really” take our part of the responsibility. Leaving a way for us to claim we are a victim in it all?
There is so much depth in this learning and the transitions right now can feel very overwhelming. At a time like this it is necessary to both pull our heads out of the sand while ALSO quickly learning to hear and trust in that inner guidance.
For those that have just pulled heads up and are looking around, it can sure feel pretty scary! But if you have, then you ALREADY KNOW your inner self is nudging you awake. And it’s time to listen….
I admit, it takes practice reconnecting with this. And a true deep sense of love for ourselves to try and fail and try again… there are many “voices” and “agendas” vying for our attention and energy. So it can be easy to be “led astray” if you will.
But know, there is NO RULE that says you are not allowed to re-calibrate yourself and set sail into another direction if you find deep down your heart tells you this path isn’t working or best for you.
We all have the personal responsibility to listen to this. To learn how to balance this. And while we do this for ourselves, there is added healing for our surrounding space and the world when we can truly allow others to learn to experience this for themselves as well.
Today I hope you all remember the time you said or thought or believed deep down that “people are good, they mean well”.
I hope we see it and act it out ourselves. Toward ourselves and others.
And I hope we all keep asking “What are we REALLY doing?”
Peace, love, and full moon blessings