FEAR by Bryan Moss

FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL…is what each letter from the word ‘FEAR’ really stands for. This acronym was introduced to myself and 14 others during a fire walking workshop back in the early 1980’s. There I was, standing barefoot in snow, in front of a 3 foot wide path that’s a good 10 footsteps long, with burning coals from a 2 hour bonfire (which took place during an outdoor, evening, winter workshop). I was instructed to stand before the path of burning embers and say to myself, “I’m going to walk on fire now.” And then pay attention to how my body feels. If it’s totally relaxed then that was a good sign to go for it. I was relaxed everywhere except my butt cheeks. They were puckered and tight. What can I say? So since I wasn’t totally relaxed, I elected to step aside and, following the advice of the fire walking instructor, wait another turn. I didn’t want to take a chance and go for it anyway with only something going wrong and then have to end up eating God awful hospital food for days on end.
 When my 2nd turn did come I said to myself, “I’m going to walk on fire now.” Body check….. I had happy, relaxed butt cheeks so forward I went!  Walking across that path of burning embers unscathed really messed with my belief system. Yet it showed me physically things we’re brought up to believe in aren’t necessarily so. There are alternatives, or choices, in everything presented to us on our journey.
 It’s been my experience that fear happens because we don’t know what the future will hold. We want control of what’s going to happen, we want to know what the outcome is. “Going with the flow” is pretty to say, but out of the question when it comes to actually applying it. Then we start with, what I call, the ‘brain noise’ and imagine all sorts of creative stuff to support the fear of not knowing.
 I’m going to lay something on you: ‘Fear of not knowing’ is a conditioned/learned pattern. ‘Not knowing’ is a natural condition. It’s our birth right. We’re not meant to know what is going to happen next. Did you ever think about that? And out of ‘not knowing what’s next’, and just plain accepting that fact, you can’t help but to accept the given moment in front of you and pay attention to only that.
 You want to talk about miracles? Moment to moment…is where all the miracles you could ever need are. ‘Moment to moment’ takes your head out of thinking about the immediate future or past. It pauses the ‘brain noise’. It’s being present. And when you’re present you’re able to discern your next move based from your Heart’s energy/wisdom (or instinct, or gut feeling, or intuition, or higher self, or God Force or..or….or whatever you want to call it) and NOT what others think you should do. It takes a bit of discipline but can be achieved. ‘Not knowing’ naturally produces a fear within the mind/ego. As stated before, it wants to control everything. I have to remember that control equals restriction, not happiness/freedom. To want to know is NOT Heart based. I suggest it’s specialness from the ego.
 Now maybe a situation happened in the past and you can’t help but think it will repeat itself in the future. How do you ‘know’ it will? Your ego is playing with you. All of that anticipated anxiety and fear is that brain noise I mentioned earlier. Smoke screens. To divert your attention from that moment live in the moment with feelings from your heart, and abolish the fear. Or at least put it on “pause”….
 With Respect and Love,
Bryan

What’s the purpose of a New Year’s resolution anyway?

by Shiela Reed

So,  another year has come and gone…  I’ve been reflecting just as most people probably do.  I found myself with this question and figured it would be as good as any of a way to start off.   So, I guess, “let the blogging begin”!  🙂

What’s the purpose of a “New Year’s Resolution” anyway?

Have you noticed that the energy and excitement often increases as we plan for “newness” no matter when that is during the year?  That is especially true at the start of a new year.  It seems to be a “natural” or automatic way our systems are wired as we are drawn to a time when we can make a fresh start .  To find and hold onto what seems to be a “solid starting point”…  this time of year feels a little like “book ends” to me.  The end of one and beginning of another… But why now?  Why “January 1st” all the time?

In reality – this could happen anytime we choose – but commonly we all feel the energetic “pull/push/draw” to certain times of the year (i.e. New Years) because the larger group/collective adds their energy too .  A bit like “everybody’s doing it” maybe.

Although that  might make a bit of sense, there is more to it than that.  The rest of the story is what makes it tricky.  It’s actually important for us to have an understanding of “why are we” making this particular choice at this particular time?

We may get a hint of this, if after the initial “surge and spike” with everyone else’s energy (i.e. everyone talking about their new years resolutions) – we make note of where our own energy goes when it’s time to sustain and maintain the new decision/commitment a few days, or weeks or months later.

Are we still as excited and focused?  That actually tends to end up depending on the true “root” of our own “why” for this new “plan”, endeavor, change, commitment, in the first place….

To me this ends up being a significant difference between when we find ourselves sticking with something vs quitting or becoming “bored” with the idea.

For example – if I were to start with my own “soul search” and that leads me to make a certain change or shift, it will be more likely to sustain and make it through the “hard times” or struggles.  If it’s due to outside expectations or “joining the crowd” and not what I “really” want or am ready to do – it will not.

It’s so subtle – we are barely ever aware.   Which is why the more we can spend time nurturing the growth of that inner connection… that “knowing” part of us that comes from that special inner true self we each have –

The more “true” our choices and commitments will be, because we will begin to more consistently feel them coming from our true heart space.

So – to test it out- see what “resolutions” stick for you this year and which do not.  And NO this is not permission to “beat ourselves up” if we don’t “stick something out”.  Instead consider going back to the beginning and determine our true first reason and starting point and LEARN something new about our individual processing systems.

We will learn to know if we are “in-tune” or not… and if we are not – we can begin to practice simply letting it go, re-assessing from our heart space – and either try again or go another direction.

On our site this year, we hope you will be able to find some new and meaningful connections with yourselves and others while sparking fresh thoughts and ideas as we each walk into this new year with a sense of opportunity for new beginnings…

Here’s to wishing you all a 2018 filled with what YOU choose, need, and create – remember – our life lessons will come in many forms, so try to be open to them all.

Peace, love, serenity

Shiela