“Come To The Cliff” by Bryan Moss

In the late 1990s, I came across a poem shared by a metaphysician and philosopher Stuart Wilde. It spoke volumes to me and on one of my cross country visits I read it to my dad. Sometime later, in the early 2000’s, he called asking me to send him a copy of the poem.

Fast forward to December 2017, I was visiting dad. At the time dad was using the wheelchair on a regular basis. One evening, after dinner, he inquired about that poem again. I asked him why that poem made such an impression on him. He thought it illustrated one’s undying faith in our Creator.

I recently returned from my father’s funeral services. The minister asked that his family members submit their reflections of our father in writing, to insert into the service program and those attending could read them. At the conclusion of what I wrote, I included the following poem. As far as I know, the author is unknown.

I’d love to share that poem with you.

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COME TO THE CLIFF

“Come to the cliff,” he said.

They said, “But we’re afraid.”

“Come to the cliff,” he said.

They came.

He pushed them.

And they flew.

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BE YOUR OWN JOURNEY by Bryan Moss

Be your own journey. What do I mean by that?

**Don’t make “searching out there” for answers your priority. There’s a difference between educating yourself and constantly seeking. Rely more on your intuition, gut, inner guidance, hunches, (all of which is basically coming from your Heart) because all of that is coming from within yourself. Think about it. Who knows YOU better than YOU? A textbook? A Guru? A priest? I don’t think so. All of those can be good guideposts, or suggestions, to help you on your journey. But who REALLY knows you? An honest look will reveal…….. it’s yourself.

**Don’t compare your journey to others. You can have 100 people be of the same religion, attend the same church, all go to that place of worship at the same time of the week, and have the same belief systems and….so what? Each individual is on their own journey. Each is unique in how they go about their own quest. 100 people may sing the same song, recite the same prayer together, and listen to the church practitioner together, attend the exact same service/ritual, but the only one quality they will have in common is….they WON’T have the same spiritual journey.
After all, this is not a race to see who gets “there” before the other, or who “gets it” first. Us humanoids are so conditioned, early in life, to compare ourselves to others that we don’t realize it. It becomes second nature fast. Look at nature. Do you think if you planted an evergreen tree next to an oak tree the trees are going to care who grows the tallest? Comparing your “progress” (I hate that term) to another’s is a waste of energy. Be comfortable in your own skin. “Know” wherever you’re at in the present is exactly where you need to be for your own journey. All paths/journeys lead to the same source.

**Be your own expert. How? Duh? Get to know yourself. Be relentless to find the true you. Be honest with yourself at all costs. This loops back to my first point. No one really knows you better than You. If your health isn’t the greatest and you’re tired of going to doctors with little, if no results, start educating yourself on your condition. Don’t be afraid to be your own lab rat and experiment on yourself. Don’t be afraid to look outside of the box.
You find that you’re curious about which belief system to adopt? Explore all belief systems and choose the one that resonates. Better yet, do the unthinkable…create your own belief system. Who says you can’t? Do what works for you, not what works for others.

**Don’t sit around expecting answers to come to you. You have to go to the answers. In other words, don’t procrastinate. Be active. Sure, there’s a time for being still and reflecting. There’s a time for meditating. And just as importantly, there’s always time to actually DO something. I heard a saying years ago, “God (Universe..Source..insert whatever you call that) helps those that help themselves”.
In other words, take responsibility for yourself and don’t give it away to other people. That’s a dead-end street. Listen to your Heart, not the rational mind of the crowd. Eventually, be your own expert. Refer to an earlier post I wrote, “YOUR HEART’S BRAIN”, for more on this particular point.

Take the above steps and eliminate years of frustration. Trust me. I wish I did. I think of all of the energy I spent towards externalizing my efforts when I should’ve been putting all of that energy towards responsibility for my own being. Don’t expect “experts” to have all of the answers if any at all when it comes to your-SELF. Don’t misunderstand me. There are some wonderful GUIDElines out there but FEEL them out first. USE WHAT’S USEFUL FOR YOU AND THROW OUT THE REST.

Take the one and only proven true path…Be YOUR OWN Journey. The tickets are cheaper and you won’t have to put up with smaller airline seats. (wink)

October Message of the Month: Follow Your Truth- Don’t be Fooled by “false profits”

Don’t be “fooled”…

by Shiela Reed

This months message came in strong about how our own inner awareness is truly our ultimate “safety net” for following truth and not being victim of being only a “follower”. This can be true of anything we cling so strongly to as a sole solution for “answers”, that we actually end up missing the deeper truth of love that comes from within.

The importance of tapping into our own connection to this sacred space and divine knowledge is ever important. It is what will keep us on our own true path and thus not be misled or misguided by others (or our ego mind) when our hearts “know better”. I’m sure you know what I mean. The conflict of when we are or have been told a certain thing we have taken as truth- yet deep inside our inner systems churn in discomfort as it seems “not so”. Similarly when we do not follow our inner prompting to do or go in a direction but we resist and do not, (usually out of fear). These are all different examples of the same “point”, which I realize comes up often in our blogs.

It is just that it is such an important concept, yet it is not meant to mean we are automatically “wrong” if we do go on one of these “other paths”, it is more that we will end up needing to understand that we just may not be living our “truest lives” as based on our own “purpose” which is given to us from our creator and source.

Although it sounds daunting (at least it kind of goes to me) it is really exactly what we are all going through every day anyway. The difference is the levels or degrees of awareness we are able to tap into and then what we choose to do with or about it.
This might come across “woowoo” or mystical, or even religious, or maybe selfish to some. A “reaction” to this is likely due to an ego attachment of some kind trying to label and then control how to react and then what to do…

I offer the words and concept as something to simply consider and let it land where it needs to land. Tapping in to your inner place of knowledge and connection to our divine spark and creation will help you utilize information you receive however it is needed for you at the time. It is very common for that to “change” over time as we have more life experiences and allow new perspectives to be considered. Thus our changes in perspectives and considerations leading to an increased knowledge and hopefully levels of wisdom as we truly listen from within.

In the end, the point is for it to be about where WE truly are and our ability to be in tune to that inner space as we navigate the never ending barrage of energy, projections, and information coming at us, all while sifting and sorting through our own energy, projections and personal experiences from past and present.

I realize that the potential here is counter intuitive as it creates a sense of seeming to need to “seek” and look harder, yet in reality the truth is quite the opposite… it’s that the stillness we find and quieter we are in a moment through which we actually receive information, the guidance that we actually need which seems darn near impossible when in the midst of crisis, anxiety, and feelings of urgency.

Sometimes it feels a bit like a “set up”, like it should not be this difficult, yet I suspect that is part of the free will that we have all been granted as humans. I really find myself noticing the need to “come to terms” with my humanness and stop trying to act as if I should be better or know more. While it is important to be gentle with ourselves, I also find a delicate balance between giving in to this and teetering on the verge of complacency.

While we are all on our own journey and doing the best we can at the moment, remember to allow the awakening to stir within you so you can be open to what is in the name of good for you and all… not just be a follower without knowing what, who, or why you follow and that is actually aligns with your true self.

I hope everyone finds their own unique “north star” while realizing deep within our hearts, we truly do follow the same light.

Peace and blessings to you and yours, may the final months of this year provide you with the information and guidance to prepare you for your next new year.

Shiela

OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE: THE SEQUEL by Bryan Moss

Before you set eyes on this blog you may want to check out my previous blogs where the first blog I wrote, when creating Your Heart’s Wisdom, is titled OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE. It’s not really necessary but it definitely touches on aspects concerning that little dominant voice in our head that can really play games, screw us up, and make us believe it’s for our best intentions…WHEN IT’S NOT.
I get an inquiry, once in a while, in regards to the critical inner voice and how to handle it. Apparently, after reading OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE a few readers started to take notice and realized that little voice in their head wasn’t the “real” them/ or “you”.

This particular chapter, or sequel if you will, of OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE, is about IDEALIZATIONS. Our C.I.V. (critical inner voice), or Ego, or mind, or (insert name) loves for us to think we have to live up to certain rules, or regulations, or morals, or standards in order to be the “ideal” student, or human, or soul. We exhaust our energy trying to live up to an established image which, in reality, is impossible to achieve. These idealizations, most likely, were programmed in us at an early age through life’s experiences. Of course, those experiences arose from a multitude of sources. Parents, school teachers, religious influences, and peers are all possible contributors. Not to mention from outside agencies such as social media, news, or good old Hollywood by-products (television, movies, commercials, youtube, etc.). “Set Standards” to live up too. Let me give you a personal example.

If you’ve read my brief bio you know I was raised by a minister. I had all sorts of dogma programmed into me. Certain “ideals” to live by. Anything Bible-related, of course. Then there was the social expectations of being a preacher’s son. These expectations had me thinking I had to be a step ahead of others. In a weird way, those expectations had me being a rebel in many ways. I guess one could say I was a “closet rebel”. Haha! I kept to myself conflicting thoughts and feelings pertaining to how I was “suppose to be”. I was slowly going against the “norm”. Very confusing times consisting of pain, anger, sadness, and nobody to share my thoughts with.
ONE OF THOSE IDEALS: we are all supposed to have perfect, loving relationships with all family members. The 1960s LEAVE IT TO BEAVER television series kind of family relations. Ward and June were the gentle and understanding parents with their sons Wally and Theodore, nicknamed Beaver. Whatever conflicts the family had everyone lived happily ever after in a lovey-dovey respectful manner. All family members went to bed every night with smiles on their faces. I grew up thinking all family members had each other’s back.
Flash forward to my high school years and my mother wasn’t such a nice person towards me. She had mood swings, with me not knowing when she was going to lash out at me. Most of the time it was over the most ridiculous things. I couldn’t wait to leave the house, and the moment I had a chance to get a scholarship in college I went for it, got it, and got the hell out of there. I was hurt and damaged goods with very low self-esteem. I was Mr. Victim personified!

What saved my butt was that “closet rebel” within myself. I became a seeker of sorts. No longer under the religious dogma of my parents, I looked into a variety of religions, philosophies, hobbies, you name it. My brother called me the black sheep of the family.
You can only imagine when my family found out I was learning how to walk on fire in my late 20’s. Judgments definitely came out at me big time. In their minds, I was definitely playing with dark influences, or even “the devil”. Whenever I shared I was enrolling in any type of mind expansion course, or alternate spiritual teachings, I was considered “misguided”. Whenever I came home to visit my mother made sure I received a fair dose of guilt and doubt in whatever I was pursuing. All along I was hurt that I wasn’t living up to my mother’s expectations of me. I was supposed to get married and have her grandchildren by the time I was 30. Sorry, mom (not really).
I frowned upon seeking had me learning there was a difference between “love” and “like”. I eventually came to terms that, though I loved my mom because she was my mom, I didn’t like her as a person. Now that really messed with my ideal mom/son relationship. I learned that even though you loved a family member it was perfectly okay NOT to like the person they were.
In my early 30’s my mother called me up one Saturday morning.

“Son, I have something I need to tell you.”
“Okay, mom.”
She informed me, “I just kicked a 15-year addiction to valium.”

BOOM!
I did the math. That meant she started to take valium when I was 16 years old. Now those mood swings and bouts of irrational anger, all of a sudden, made sense. No wonder I didn’t have it a LEAVE IT TO BEAVER upbringing. After mom shared about her addiction I slowly was able to forgive all of those irrational experiences I had with her. It wasn’t easy, and it took a number of years to release those memories of anguish but I was able to eventually forgive her.

Years later I was able to recontextualize those events, and the actions of my mom, with compassion. If my mom knew better she would’ve done better. But at that time of her life her only “out”, or way to cope with whatever she was dealing with, was to resort to valium to “calm her down”, or to put it in energetic terms, to “numb” her from dealing with her life in a more supportive way. Being a registered nurse, those were the tools available for her to use. If you have a problem, get medicated to take care of it. That was her way of thinking. Under the influence of that drug, she was raising me the best way she knew how too. In my 30’s, I gradually learned how to like my mom as a person, but it did take a while.

Idealizations can really mess you up. If I wasn’t programmed into thinking families have to be picture-perfect, but instead raised with the teachings of members being allowed to express themselves according to their own heart’s desire, I might’ve been spared a lot of painful growing experiences.

Not to say there isn’t a lot to be said about basic morals, but all of collective society’s IDEALS are purely based on what they were taught when they grew up…and then living their lives thinking those are the laws of the lands and imposing them, at times with various types of force. Whether that force is shame, guilt, fear, or punishment of any kind. “Prisoners” of their own ideals (constructs) teaching/raising others to become “prisoners” and all along believing they are free and teaching love.

THE KICKER: The CRITICAL INNER VOICE LOVES IDEALIZATIONS. Ideals are safe. They’re predictable. The mind loves “knowing” what’s next. Ideals serve as road maps to how we should behave. Ideals are already planned out preconceived lives for us. Does the term “robot” ring a bell? They have nothing to do with living from the Heart. The thinking mind can’t imagine living without ideals/constructs. Anything out of that “box” induces fear. And we’re already taught how fear is to be avoided and NOT experienced (which is another falsehood). We’re not raised to even conceive that the Heart has its own brain. To feel from the Heart, make decisions from the Heart, and not our C.I.V.. (Refer to a previous blog THE HEART’S BRAIN to learn about our second and REAL brain).

Be careful beautiful souls. Idealizations are not our friends. If anything, do the opposite of any ideals. If the crowd is moving towards the right, quietly walk to the left. The crowd, out of fear, will say you’ll be lonely. Gently give them a smile, knowing that looking within your Heart there’s a whole loving world that welcomes you, thus, you can never be alone. Keep walking towards the left.
Lose the idealizations…..then you’ll be on the path to FREEDOM.

September Message of the Month: Gaining Clarity – Finding Stillness

September Message of the Month – Gaining Clarity – Finding Stillness

By Shiela Reed

This month seems to have been about finding stillness in the midst of “chaos” and thus gaining clarity for ourselves.

This can be tough to do when the world around us is just speeding up and seems faster than ever. I myself have been feeling kind of overwhelmed this month partly because I know there are so many new opportunities, partly because I feel like I haven’t finished things I’ve already started, partly because I can feel everybody else feeling the same things… in reality I’m able to slowly see what that means as far as connection to my choices and how this is an important part of me being able to help slow myself down and really let what needs to be important to me come forward rather than trying to find it and grab it and control or manipulate it or project on it.

Some key examples for me this month have been once again noticing how much outside influences (collective energies) can feel like a “bombardment” to my energetic, emotional and physical systems. While mentally I know my “choices” in reaction and projection actually are more influential on the “outcome” (for me personally of course) – it is imperative that I find my place of “stillness” within to “survive” that feeling of overwhelm and bombardment.
Work, personal relationships, being around others and our own mental mind chatter can wreck havoc on us without learning to reconnect to the “still small voice” and quietness within. It does not always mean we have to be in a forest or physically quiet serene place – but at first – when we are learning that reference point again – it absolutely may be necessary. That’s why our environments really do still very much matter!

It is also very easy to retreat and withdraw too far and this isn’t necessarily the best way to balance out the overwhelm either. Yes, it’s necessary sometimes, just to get some “rest” – which can help to regain some clarity. It is important to pay attention to what “comes in for you NEXT” – that we can so easily miss. Kind of like the old saying, if we fall off the bike or horse, get back on and try again. If we are overwhelmed with others we may need a break, but just don’t stay “hidden” too long, right? 🙂 Same goes for if we stay engaged in 3D life and become too engaged in drama or chaos- don’t stay there too long and be fed by the “craziness” of it all and increase the anxiety- allow your heart to lead you to a safe “space” for “retreat”, rest, and stillness – so you can “hear” your inner guidance.

This next month I intend to work on being connected with others a bit more. I have been a bit “retreated” for a little too long, so it’s time to spread my wings a bit and become a more opened soul.
I hope you find some support and guidance in this message of the month and have connected within or will be “still” soon- as you connect with your own loving guidance and awareness.  All the source I have been connected with this month have repeated the importance of being in tune with inner self and more accurate with what you are manifesting through your choices.  The future months in the remainder of this year may be a bumpy ride, but the outcome after the first of the year is very much connected to what we are doing, thinking, and choosing to be connected to RIGHT NOW>

Be well and take care of YOU!
Much love and peace to you all
Shiela

Knowing Someone… What to Consider

Knowing someone… what to consider.

By Shiela Reed

It’s funny how we can think we know someone through social media..or simple encounters and forget these “reflections” are just glimpses of a whole. These partial aspect of a person, come forward for many reasons and it can be easy to “judge” or “perceive” as if we know them.

I imagine this is often how celebrities must feel, as they put forth a part of them or a projection but have many more components that are missed by those that don’t “know them” deeply or personally.
We all do this, we all even share and project without thinking why we are even doing it. Sometimes we are left wondering why we received certain “reactions” – without realizing we may have kind of “invited it”. Yet we hope for and usually are wishing for something else.

Our depth of mindfulness helps us gain some navigation skills in these areas and I always find it interesting how I (we) can fluctuate so much from day to day.
This is the part that has my most attention and awareness these days as the true effort (in my “world” anyway) is being able to learn how to stay closer to the “center”. It is and can be a daily challenge. We are human beings after all.. with free will. We do not all choose the same. We do not see things the same. Yet the many underlying similarities are very much the same. Call them “innate needs” maybe but it goes deeper than that. A deeper desire for compassion, love, and understanding. The other layers of emotions block us from seeing THOSE similarities. Fear, guilt, shame, hate.. take us in the opposite direction and it becomes hard to “see” our own truth.

So we project, we reach out in awkward ways. We assume we know others when we don’t. Others assume they know us, when they don’t. We can easily feel struggles of the insecurities and loneliness this brings and if we succumb to that or become stuck on that loop… the despair, depression, hopelessness, and anxiety that we have “lost control” takes over.

It is my hope that we all are given the Grace and find the opportunities to be REAL people with one another. Minus our judgements and freeing us up to be ok with choosing who is “good for us” (and wanted in our lives) and who is not. While also remembering it is absolutely OK when someone else chooses that we are not for them. It means nothing more than that we are not a good match. Or maybe even not a good match “anymore”. It is OK.

It’s a bit ironic maybe that we also need to learn to do this for ourselves as well. Letting go of habits, routines, thought patterns, etc that no longer serve our higher good, can be just as tough, but equally necessary for our growth.
I guess I share this as a long version of my own thought process and feeling into my emotions utilizing Facebook as one of my main social media platforms. I both enjoy it and dislike it. I have learned I have to be VERY aware of the technological manipulation that surrounds us and how easy it is to “get played”. I’m actually a rather private person. While I will “share” things, I am very conscious of the fact that it is “out there” and can never be taken back. I do not want to “fear” it, but it is a reality. I also know that when I am feeling that place of loneliness and disconnectedness – this (i.e. social media- Facebook) can be both a place of huge support or a driver of further sadness and loneliness. So, yes it can be hard to “choose” how I will “react” – and it is much more so when I don’t know why I am even trying to “know” someone else when I don’t know where I am at for that moment.

I’m kind of laughing right now as I think of the many ways I’ve wanted to “lash out” on Facebook when I am feeling no responses or unsupported. I’ve thought about closing it out completely, I’ve thought I’d do a “lecture” to my “friends” – I’ve thought I’d silently just let it go and delete everyone and start over with individual friend requests. Lol Then I realize it’s silly to have spent that time on something that isn’t even vital to my daily life. Yet I acknowledge my enjoyment on being “in touch” with as many people out there as possible because there is no other platform to do so in such magnitude.

So, I am reminded to “take it all with a grain of salt” – enjoy the parts that like, remember I only know the aspects of people as they show me and they only know me for what I choose to show them. Beyond that, the closest parts of my life are within me and those I choose to physically, emotionally and energetically surround myself with… and the same is true for each of  you.  🙂

Many blessings and open awareness to all – Shiela 🙂

Thinklessness / Think-less-ness by Bryan Moss

Such a long word for such a split second, moment to moment process. All of us on auto pilot using our thinking caps. We’re always either looking ahead and anticipating what the future holds, or looking back and holding onto past experiences/memories with fondness or regrets. All of us raised and conditioned to believe that in order to resolve any situation we have to think our way out of it. We think in order to control the outcome. We think so we can out fox our creator.
Yet we never consider the consequences of being unknowingly programmed by parents, teachers and “authority figures”, to be the chess masters of our lives. Do we ever consider the stress we put ourselves through by doing this? The fears, the worries, the pressures, and the anxieties we’re constantly trying to control and minimize? Then there’s the “diagnosed” physical and mental symptoms all of this thinking can contribute to, if not flat out create. We’d like to think everything is being “done” to us. Outside circumstances are being thrown at us. Skin disorders, depression, heart attacks, high blood pressure, suicide…the list is endless.
So let me ask you and me. Is it worth it? All of this thinking? I suggest that perhaps we all need to practice the art of thinking less. We humanoids are so arrogant to believe we can think our way through life and control our outcomes so we can live happily ever after. What if it’s the other way around? What if we didn’t try to anticipate? What if we didn’t hang on to our past experiences? What if we didn’t compare the past to the present? NOT thinking would eliminate all of that.
I’ve been testing this simple exercise to stop the thinking……paying 100% attention to the present moment. As I’m currently writing the first draft of this blog, pressing ink pen to paper, I notice the formation of inked letters across the paper’s lines. I’m feeling the pressure my thumb and first two fingers use to hold the pen. I feel the slight breeze as I sit outside. Am I anticipating any future actions? No. Am I rethinking any, what’s already occurred, past experiences, misfortunes, love lives? No. Am I creating anxiety, fear, and any sort of physical discomfort? No. I’m being present and paying 100% attention to what I’m doing right now. I’m not thinking of what to write next. The words are simply flowing. I’m writing this very blog by thinking less from split second to split second. Moment to moment. Unintentionally being present.
Less thinking. Think-less-ness. Such a long  word for a split second of presence. This will give you something to think about.

August Message of the Month: Taking Care of Self

by Shiela Reed

It’s very interesting how all the “little messages” throughout the month have been related to taking care of ourselves.  So it must mean that the full message of the month this month needs to be about pulling that all together and finding our own “take-aways” regarding – self-care.

At the beginning of the month – I officially started a new journey of following through with years of “hints” about the importance of re-connecting my physical body back with my mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric selves.  I had a very distinct inner prompting that NOW was the time to do this…  Over the years my physical body took kind of a backseat to my other efforts and for me, well, that’s just how it needed to be I suppose.  It’s funny because odd little ailments would pop up over the years and kind of “force me” to stay out of my usual “physical mode”. In the past I was very much connected to all things “physical” and while of course there are always components of all of these other areas present – often times I would  feel a bit “heavy” or “depleted” in certain areas over others. This easily happens for many of us and while I have been on my own personal journey to balance these out, I have found that the energetic work I have experienced and done has significantly supported bringing things into proper balance and most importantly – assisted me in gaining the much needed reference points for recognizing when things felt like they were going “off tract” prior to it becoming a crisis.

Of course this has taken and continues to take “practice” and regular personal “check-ins” with myself to assure that I am still functioning within my own inner awareness and thus be able to follow my inner promptings without the usual layers of doubt our minds like to throw in the mix… as I’ve said before, it really is a place we just “know” and will recognize once we have that experience… we just have to be able to be in a space that allows us to “hear” it and then recognize that we need to make an immediate adjustment before we spiral too far one way or the other.

This has especially been true of anxiety and depression related symptoms.  Today this topic came as something to expand upon further next month, but know that it is very much how and why so many of us suffer from one or usually BOTH!  We just “miss” our cues to stop the spiral and we get “caught” – until we can find our way out again… this has basically become nonexistent for me anymore thanks to the totality of efforts to balance the mental and emotional and finally the energetic which allowed for ultimate relief.  In the past these states could last for days, weeks, or months.  Obviously this has allowed for very significant changes to occur in my life and is directly related to the multiple parts of self-care I have utilized.

While we learn to catch “cues” – there is another interesting component to taking care of ourselves that came in regarding the importance and need for reflection – but also utilizing that same sense of awareness mentioned above.   I know it often seems important and even necessary to reflect on past life events but I have also been reminded this month that while it is helpful to” look back” – it is important to be aware of why we are doing so.  As an emotional component of self-care – it is crucial to understand the connection this has to our mental and energetic states.  A question that popped up this month regarding this is “am I looking back out of some form of fear?  Or to gain clarity or understanding about a life lesson?”  We will know this by noticing how we “feel” about it or what we “sense” about it – i.e. are we learning and “moving on” or are we dwelling and lamenting over memories?  Some good food for thought…

Overall I have noticed many conversations this month revolving around the importance of “well-being”.  Local gym’s trying to help people get physically fit, local yoga studio’s trying to help guide mental/emotional parts of us with our bodies, spiritual components are found in different forms offering different perspectives for contemplation and I’m even finding my new personal website trying to work on reflecting this concept of how it all connects as the vision of that deepens.  What I have experienced is that a pivotal part of keeping our overall system balanced is realizing that there is an energetic/etheric component to it all and by learning to keep our energy body well – we find deeper connections to the real reason we want to put importance on keeping our physical body well, and our mind emotionally well and our soul spiritually well.  I find the use of energy supporting techniques to be vital to keeping up my energetic immunity and therefore find myself less likely to take on/absorb other energies that are negative and would normally be depleting of my own system.  This has been a new and recent realization and a wonderful take away from my own forever journey to overall well-being.

Clearly, there is a need for balance of each and every aspect of our human existence.  It’s important to remember that they are all connected and being able to discern our own inner promptings about when to adjust is ultimately the goal.  After-all, when we can feel this centered place within us, we find we are much less likely to be caught in extremes one way or the other and more able to function and flow more peacefully throughout our daily lives.

I want to also share something that came in this month as a reminder for those of us that may tend to talk ourselves out  of “taking care of ourselves” –( for whichever number or reasons)  As I thought about my broader “journey” and a desire to help others and how that connects with my personal “journey” of helping myself become a truer version of myself – I also found that I felt some thoughts of “selfishness” – thank goodness my inner connection quickly helped me realize that what I was talking about regarding “taking care of myself” was actually not selfish at all!  In reality it is the best way I/we can be and thus be in positions to help others.  As I had asked my higher self – “what would be the most important focus in regards to helping others and myself/ourselves” – and the answer was “to continue to be focused on me and my journey and the self-love that shines forth will be what helps others to see – not any one particular thing I would “do”.

I am sure this is true of each of us…we are each important to ourselves first and then how we are connected to the world around us.  So focus on you and listen to what your system tells you you need.  Remember there is an ebb and flow of each component.  Changes and adjustments are often needed and are ok along the way.  May you find a solid connection to your inner compass (your true you) by learning to utilize your energy body and connecting within to continue your own journey to well-being and balanced.

And so it is…

Shiela

“It’s All The Same Stuff.” by Bryan Moss

WARNING: The blog/article you are about to read is very up front and direct. If this makes you upset in any way, shape or form then that means, in the grand scheme of things, this is for YOU. This blog is my view point only and not anyone else’s associated with this site.
“IT’S ALL THE SAME STUFF.” This is a comment I read from time to time. “It’s all the same stuff. I’ve read similar things here before.” Those are comments from a few readers who return to see what new blog has appeared on this website. Comments like that make me chuckle. And I’ll tell you why.
Of course it’s all going to read the same. THEY ARE! The messages are the same. The lessons are the same. The “insights” are the same. The themes are the same. Now why is that, do you suppose?
Are you’re ready? Here’s the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth…..
ONLY A FEW practice any of the principles we write about. THEY DON’T TAKE ANY ACTION AND APPLY THEM TO 3D REALITY!!! And because of this everyone is busy seeking the ‘magic cure’, so they can be ‘fixed’. THEY DON’T WANT TO DO IT THEMSELVES!!!
They don’t take the 10 to 20 minutes a day to meditate on a regular basis.
They have a constant chatter (critical inner voice) in their heads but don’t want to do the disciplines to quiet it, LET ALONE ACCEPT THEY HAVE ONE.
They’re not willing to look, and accept, their shadows.
They’re always shopping for the latest books, weekend workshops, and methods to provide the answers for them.
They’re not willing to take the disciplines to tend to their 3D bodies.
They’re not willing to take responsibility for what they created in their present circumstances.
I was the same way years ago. I would read something on..say..”coming from the heart”. I would ‘conceptually understand’ how coming from my heart means ‘feeling’ from my heart, as opposed to thinking of the emotion with my brain. And there lies the rub. I conceptually understood what ‘love’ or ‘compassion’ or ‘anger’ meant by “remembering” when I was in love, or had compassion toward another, or when I was truly angry at a situation.
“THINKING” = “REMEMBERING” = “EGO”. (These terms have nothing to do with the Heart.)
But I didn’t RE-FEEL it. I didn’t allow myself to do that because of the fear of experiencing being VULNERABLE again. I thought ‘re-thinking’ the experience of being sad was enough to get it out of my system and move on.
WRONG.
All I was doing was burying it deeper into the rabbit hole. Thinking about a feeling is another form of denial. I was using my ego (thinking brain) to handle my feelings, which can’t be done. I had to re-feel the experience and past feelings. Feelings come from the Heart. Emotions come from the brain. There’s a HUGE difference.
Why is this so hard to comprehend? Because the ego has it’s limits. The Heart is limitless and the only way to access the Heart’s limitless boundaries is through feelings.
There’s a stage in one’s life when you’re brought up to think it’s weak to show your vulnerability. That’s the ego speaking. The ego has you thinking you have to keep finding more answers to figure out life. All of that brain noise is nothing but a distraction to keep you from feeling from your Heart.
A previous blog I wrote called “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS” touches on this aspect. To show and feel your feelings isn’t weak. That’s backwards. Being vulnerable is strength personified.
That’s another component of the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth….VULNERABILITY. It’s one of the other keys to your Heart. And in order to feel you have to be vulnerable. It’s a strength. As I mentioned in that earlier blog of mine, “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS”, collective society has it all backwards.
So…… are many of the blogs/articles we share and write essentially the same? Hell yes they are!!
It’s because too many “new agers” or “spiritual types” are TOO LAZY to put anything into 3D reality. They’re too busy EXTERNALIZING everything from looking for their ‘start seeds’ to praying to a statue hanging on a wall. No one wants to take the time and practice to look within themselves. It’s too painful and confronting for them. They’d rather try to find the prancing and dancing unicorn at the the end of the rainbow that whispers sweet ‘profound’ nothings in their ears.
As one of my mentors would hammer into me, “In order to heal, you have to FEEL”.
Is it an easy journey, the spiritual life? NO. It’s not meant to be. If it was, everyone would take it for granted. This is what ‘being present’ is all about. This is what ‘self love’ is all about. This is what ‘do unto others’ is all about. I’m sorry to break the bad news to you, but if you were harmed in any way, shape, or form you need to acknowledge and RE-FEEL the experience again to get it out of your system…and then reframe it so you can forgive the perpetrators, and/or yourself, for the experience that happened. Simply understanding the past just won’t cut it. (A hint, free of charge…. applying, “If they/I knew better, they/I would’ve done better”… to those that did harm to you….or better yet–what you did to others, will help you reconcile your victimhood/deeds).
So if you find yourself whining because this site and others seem to be writing the same stuff over and over, maybe it’s because you expect us, and others, to give you the “keys” to enlightenment, when in fact, we can only point the way.
And guess where my finger is pointing right now?…..AT YOU….at your chest…your Heart. Your True Self.
Don’t look at us.
Look to yourself. ALL the answers are inside YOU!
WAKE UP!!!!
Consider this a public service announcement from your own Heart.

July Message of the Month: Sharing about Choices

Sharing about Choices…

by Shiela Reed

Once again there is a message about the importance of our choices…
While there was a lot going on in July energetically, it will continue into Aug… It’s important to remember that it can be “better” and it can be “worse” based on our individual choices. This concept and processing of choices comes up again and again in different forms and from different perspectives. As stated before it matters about where our awareness is and where our alliance is.  Is it within our heart or outside of ourselves?

Today I was prompted to share my personal journal entry of the day which just so happens to tie in to this topic on choices… I hope you enjoy the way it came in for me and you find a connection to it as well.

{ Lots of changes energetically the last week or so. Shifts within relationships have been better. I have been more involved with energy working which helps me so much to remain grounded and my soul to feel that I’m “listening”.
Yet, sometimes I end up feeling like I have to force myself to move in the direction of what I think I “believe” my soul self is saying (ego trick) yet I know that is not the way it works. It’s what I call a “doing loop” I often get caught in. Even when I decide to “not do” it feels weird and so much chatter starts in my head, judging.. So it’s been a learning experience for sure.
Today I woke to really feeling this lovely inviting energy opening my eyes further about possibilities and good things in the future. It warms me to being excited and embracing the newness. I seriously feel like all I want to do right now is actually PARTICIPATE in life and go out and have new experiences and see my current ones with fresh eyes.
 It’s a really cool feeling!
It reminds me of the excitement of newness and how that increases the energy needed to actually get something done. Yet I also know (and remember) that in the past this has taken me into another part of the “doing loop” which leads to overwhelm and anxiety. Often increasing feelings of inadequacy and a lack of worthiness.
And sometimes it crashes into the opposite side of the loop – of doing nothing – leading to depression and despair and a different flavor of inadequacy and lack of worth.
With both of these I now more often see doubts and fears attached and try to remember and realize it is due to not being in this present moment. Instead I’m maybe energetically a bit too far forward or backward rather than connecting to the inner guidance and trusting in what is here and “next”.
Interesting…. I have noticed now that I get to this place, I begin to “mentalize” it and try to plan and control it… by saying things like “well, if I just go skipping around picking daisies all day, then not a damn thing will get done!” – lol which is true (to an extent)
Or if I push and am hard core working non stop on list after list just to make it to another list.. I’m exhausted and angry and have no joy or peace. (Been there done that, so that one is much easier to let go of these days as I’ve learned to let go of much of that MOST times anyway 😊)
So.. here I am still working on balance. Which is where I always seem to connect back to my “choices”. Moment to moment- situation to situation- thought to thought. I’m learning to try more often to stop at the beginning and ask “what is this choice connected to?” – my heart and a future self, a past – and just a memory- or is it meant as a reminder of a lesson?
While yes there is no reason to “over analyze” – it is kind of important to ease our human systems into this zone of “stillness” so we can actually “think/feel”- with our inner self energy body.
For me I feel like this is why I’ve learned the way I have in this lifetime. I know what it has felt like to be “go go go crazy busy – don’t sit still – do it – get it done- do it better” and found that is not conducive to my ability to hear my true soul self! Instead I need stillness in all capacities and more and more these days I am the one that MUST create that for myself.
But I am so glad and thankful I even started recognizing that need… many many years ago in therapeutic processes, AA, and ongoing life experiences. What a blessing to be at this point of the journey and have bright eyes today to see opportunities and a promise for a better tomorrow- rather than sadness and defeat.
No, it is NOT always this way… yes things can always be “worse” just as they can always be “better”; just as the night turns to day – we can all hopefully find ways to connect to the openness that change can bring – choice by choice – no matter how small.
Embrace the joy in all those moments- the small and the great. Allow them to be markers for our journeys path. Find peace and gratitude in our aliveness and an ability to have open eyes that are bright with a child like excitement to learn and grow and explore. }
May I and each of you find that now…
Peace, love and blessings
Shiela