March Message of the Month: Common Sense

March Message of the Month: Common Sense

by Shiela Reed

Having so called “common sense” is not something we are born with. It is learned as we are taught the fundamentals of life. We learn from our parents, family members, friends, schools, religious affiliations, and basically society as a whole. Sure some have a propensity to learning, but most can still grasp basic reasoning when done early and simply- BUT with a specific focus.
Whether anyone wants to believe it or not, like it or not, we do NOT LIVE ALONE on this planet. Sure there are varying degrees of freedoms which makes it appear that “free will” might even be questioned. But at the core, there is always a choice. When we checked in to this lifetime, we checked in for the “ride” and what there is to learn. About ourselves, the families we ended up in, the cultures we are in, the communities and even the country.

There is always good, bad, ugly, beautiful and every other description of human nature. We see it every day if we choose to. There are wonderful acts of kindness and compassion, there are horrible activities that are full of hate, and there is every degree in between which is where many struggle to decide “where they want to be today”.

This message came in this morning as many contemplate the behaviors of others lately. It sure has been an array of bizarre, kind, helpful, scared, panicked, angry and compassionate. The words “Common sense” came in and it seemed interesting to observe and contemplate my own reaction to that.

As I realized we probably all have a slight degree of difference in what that may be, it does seem that most of us act as if we are on the same page about it a lot of the time. Yet in reality, I notice that people seem to assume that everyone “gets it”. Even that kids should “just get it”.

What becomes apparent is that the reality is that most people DON’T get it because we have been “off” as a collective for so long that we no longer can even communicate about the basics. So we either march along to our own drum or follow the crowd without much given thought. Most folks are so incredibly focused on their own agendas that they do not realize or care that there still is a communal component to our existence. And with this comes “agreements” that we will behave together in certain ways.

Now I am not saying that all of these are necessarily good or bad, I am just pointing out that they exist and this may be where disagreements and division sets in. Over time, living like this with no discussion about the effects on each other, and only thinking individually, takes a toll on a group. THIS is the hard part! My individual wants and needs plus yours… what if they don’t fit together? Who determines that one is more important than the other?

I’m sure I don’t have to point out that rabbit hole.. 😉 But what popped in here was the connection to common sense. When there are no discussions and learning early in life about choices – natural consequences along with personal and group balanced living – we struggle. Both individually and as a whole. Again, I am not implying that everyone should just “march in line” and follow the status quo. That is missing the deeper point. It ALWAYS boils down to our individual choices and WHERE those are truly coming from. THEN our behaviors.

None of us can “save humanity”. But it does not mean we cannot do compassionate things out of love to help a neighbor. If our level of “common sense” is based off of selfishness or entitlement- our view of the world and what we do will be different than those that base it off of expansiveness and inclusion.

Think about how our children are learning today. Do they learn to include and think of others? Are they being taught to solve age appropriate problems of their own? Or are they being taught that they are the only ones that matter. That they can get things for “free”. Or that they are not capable of working something out with their peers…

There are so many examples and we all have been struggling to find our way. It’s been going on a LONG time! And it is summarizing right now in front of our eyes throughout the world.

What kind of society DO we want to live in? What does common sense look like? One where we are in a “free for all” all the time to survive? One where we work through hard stuff together? One where we have individual choices and freedoms yet still group rules and norms for basic order?

This is how big this is… it WILL create change. There are things that WILL be different.
Where it goes from here is up to US.

So, what is common sense to you today? Carry on like nothing is happening? Take it as it is and roll with it? Take precautions for the greater good, even though you don’t think you personally need them?

Personally I’m glad we have the freedoms to work through this “hard stuff”. Even if I wish everyone saw “common sense” the way I do. 😉 Still, I do hope and pray for more opening in all of our hearts to be able to communicate and work together- even if they/we disagree.

The life we are given is ours to do what we CHOOSE with… we don’t have to all be trailblazers – but we all do count and what we do with our life choices DOES matter to those around us.

May there be much love, peace, and blessings shared from your presence. 💓

Shiela Reed

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