by Shiela Reed
Think before speaking.. sounds like it should be easy right?
Well, not always… when tragedy strikes everyone tends to be so quick to jump to conclusions. Everyone has opinions, but that’s all they are, they rarely have all the information, yet they pass it around like they have all the answers and know it all or have always made correct and perfect decisions themselves.
Why does everyone have to pass judgement so quickly when there is always more to a story? It’s sad that all the opinions and rhetoric rarely ends up changing anything. In actuality we end up spending so much more time crushing, demoralizing, and knocking people down rather supporting and building each other up. Where is the compassion for a fellow lost sole? Or for ALL involved, even the ones we classify as being “their fault”?
As an energetic empath/sensitive these days I am actually more saddened and effected by HOW people are treating each rather than the events and disasters that occur. It’s interesting how easy it is to accept the sadness when there doesn’t appear to be anyone to blame. (i.e. natural disaster) But in reality, we tend to dig really hard to find SOMEONE to blame and condemn.
Is this a part of the human condition that we can never escape from? Are we “destined” to live in hate, fear, and judgement? Honestly I don’t think everyone is. There are plenty of people trying hard to NOT live like that because they don’t want to. But sometimes it’s overwhelming so it seems easier to hide and be silent. No, there isn’t really a reason to “shout from the roof top” that hey look “I AM RIGHT”! It’s pointless if it ends up feeding a fight or battle or debate that has no end. Everyone chooses. The end…
So share a different view point, stance, or “opinion” in a loving, kind, genuine way, WITHOUT an outcome expectation that the “masses will see it my way” because THAT is when you are most likely sharing from your heart and likely to be heard…
I tell ya, I wish it didn’t seem so hard to “live in peace” all the time, but I recently heard a good reminder about how without the differences (in thoughts and opinions in this case) that everything would already be construed as “perfect” because it would all be the same.
Thinking on that puts it in perspective – because depending on the group you are part of, their definitions seem “perfect” to them and they want others to be like or with them… so it’s great when we think and act alike, and agree but we just don’t seem to know how to handle it when we don’t.
Although this too is just “an opinion”, one of which you may or may not “agree” with, it’s hoped that it sparks additional thought in your mind because in the end, one of the best things we can do is quiet our mouths long enough to listen and hear and contemplate about other possibilities before we jump to our own and assuming it as the “only way” or “right” one.
For me, this is one of the best parts of writing… it forces me to slow down, think about my words, and what I’m really trying say from my heart. So, take your time… with yourself and others before putting something “out there” that you can’t take back.
I hope for compassion without judgement for us all.
Blessings and peace