by Bryan Moss
Collective society’s influence on family has always had the male be the protector, provider, and the decision maker of ‘his’ tribe. Throughout the ages fathers have always been considered the bread winners of the family. The mothers of those families were always looked upon as the gatherers and their femininity provided the love that held the family together. It’s always been expected of the wife to follow the husband’s lead and keep the children in order. It’s up to the father to get what the family needs. Masculinity has always been considered a more dominant force over femininity. Therefore, force equals masculinity. Men are strong and women are weaker than men. This conditioning has been ingrained in our heads throughout history. I was certainly brainwashed and conditioned to think that way. However, as I grew into adulthood, these traditional views didn’t make sense, but I just couldn’t put my finger on ‘why’ they didn’t make sense to me. Until I was schooled in energy work. Education has changed. Technology certainly has changed. I think the majority’s concepts of what Fathers Day and Mothers Day are about is in need of a change.
From an energy workers perspective, our bodies contain the two energy frequencies of the feminine and masculine, God given gifts from the Divine spirit. The two give birth to the Divine Child creating form to family. This is where the truth ends and the conditioned lies begin. The collective takes this literally and keeps it all separate. Thus we assign specific qualities to the mother, father, and child. We externalize these qualities and attributes without realizing we’re giving away our inherited divine powers and virtues. Energetically, Feminine and Masculine attributes aren’t divided and ‘assigned’ to specific genders. On the contrary, BOTH Feminine and Masculine energies are within the human body, which us Energetic Beings live in. Man or woman, it’s our responsibility to seek the union of the energies WITHIN us first. In my humble opinion, this is one of the main reasons why most people are wrapped up in their major conflicts. They don’t take time to care for, or even acknowledge, the feminine and masculine sides within. Historical views are out of balance, as far as the two energies are concerned. Men and women need to learn how to reconnect with both before continuing on their life’s journey.
It’s important for the male to see that power doesn’t mean force. Media, social venues and society in general promote and encourage this way of thinking. Real power doesn’t come from dominating and controlling anything or anyone. Real power is the recognition of the necessity of these two energies merging as one and only then acting from the feelings of our heart. Every man needs to understand the feminine aspects of himself. When a man begins merging his masculine energy with the feminine energy, that’s been dormant for years, he develops compassion for others. He begins to experience truth in action first hand. He finds himself not judging others as much, for when he really looks at things, he’s done those same things himself in one way or the other. Self-responsibility takes the place of accusations and externalizations. Reflecting, learning and reframing his mistakes and misperceptions takes the place of victimhood and pride. He learns his very inaccurate mind/ego is always going to be there and real wisdom is gained from feeling with his Heart.
Naturally, the woman needs to nurture her masculine side as much as the male needs to nurture his feminine side. And when all is said and done, maintaining a balance with the two energies becomes the foundation for true growth from within……your Heart.
Energy is constantly changing. Our journeys are constantly changing. It seems to me the perception of Fathers Day needs to change too. Nevertheless, regardless of your views on this topic, if you’re a Dad to any extent: children, pets, plants….allow me to wish you a Happy Fathers Day!!