by Shiela Reed
Sadly there is much talk the last few weeks about depression and suicide. Take heed and make sure you are taking good care of yourself and being aware of what is around you. Your choice in people and environment can also effect you. Remember to be kind and reach out to someone that could use a hello.
It’s probably not as likely as you might think that you would for sure know when someone is contemplating suicide.
It’s a darkened state that never really seems to lift, or at least not for long. A person probably gets good at “fitting in” and “putting on a happy face”. It starts to feel like that’s the only way it will ever be.
Maybe one day the darkness doesn’t feel like it will ever lift again, or maybe it becomes too hard to put on the show any longer.
It’s probably impossible to ever really know “why” or “what was the final straw”, if there is even such a thing.
I can only tell you from my own experience, that after struggles with depression and having continued to seek out ways to “feel better”, I can now put things together that work for me.
Today, most times are a moment by moment assessment of what my mood is and after having learned about energetic awarenss, I can now actually find relief in knowing it has helped me change enough to not get “caught up in an emotional roller coaster ride” like I used to.
Instead, now I feel like I can honestly CHOOSE and I can “let go” without as much guilt or self judgement.
Don’t get me wrong, it sure the hell doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings, down days, sour moods, or anything else that can come out of the blue. But what doesn’t happen as often is that I don’t feel “trapped there” forever.
It’s hard… it’s not easy when all you want is to talk to someone, a hug, a friend, to feel important, someone to pay attention to you, but you end up sad and looking at “everyone else” and comparing what you “think” others have… when in reality, we all struggle. It’s just that most hide it well or have learned to not linger there as long anymore. In reality, we ALL need connections.
Sadly we often don’t know how to ask or share experiences genuinely with others because we’ve been wounded. While in the end, the truth is that we have the hardest time truly loving and accepting ourselves first… so we silently struggle.
So to family and friends and survivors, there may have never been anything you could actually have “prevented”, instead the biggest challenge may really be within ALL of us… as every single one of us can learn to be kinder to ourselves, show grace and mercy to ourselves and others, with a genuine human compassion for the life struggles that are unseen in us all.
Again, reach out, be kind, make a positive difference.
Here is a good resource for anyone that needs help for themselves or a friend or loved one.