September Message of the Month: Gaining Clarity – Finding Stillness

September Message of the Month – Gaining Clarity – Finding Stillness

By Shiela Reed

This month seems to have been about finding stillness in the midst of “chaos” and thus gaining clarity for ourselves.

This can be tough to do when the world around us is just speeding up and seems faster than ever. I myself have been feeling kind of overwhelmed this month partly because I know there are so many new opportunities, partly because I feel like I haven’t finished things I’ve already started, partly because I can feel everybody else feeling the same things… in reality I’m able to slowly see what that means as far as connection to my choices and how this is an important part of me being able to help slow myself down and really let what needs to be important to me come forward rather than trying to find it and grab it and control or manipulate it or project on it.

Some key examples for me this month have been once again noticing how much outside influences (collective energies) can feel like a “bombardment” to my energetic, emotional and physical systems. While mentally I know my “choices” in reaction and projection actually are more influential on the “outcome” (for me personally of course) – it is imperative that I find my place of “stillness” within to “survive” that feeling of overwhelm and bombardment.
Work, personal relationships, being around others and our own mental mind chatter can wreck havoc on us without learning to reconnect to the “still small voice” and quietness within. It does not always mean we have to be in a forest or physically quiet serene place – but at first – when we are learning that reference point again – it absolutely may be necessary. That’s why our environments really do still very much matter!

It is also very easy to retreat and withdraw too far and this isn’t necessarily the best way to balance out the overwhelm either. Yes, it’s necessary sometimes, just to get some “rest” – which can help to regain some clarity. It is important to pay attention to what “comes in for you NEXT” – that we can so easily miss. Kind of like the old saying, if we fall off the bike or horse, get back on and try again. If we are overwhelmed with others we may need a break, but just don’t stay “hidden” too long, right? 🙂 Same goes for if we stay engaged in 3D life and become too engaged in drama or chaos- don’t stay there too long and be fed by the “craziness” of it all and increase the anxiety- allow your heart to lead you to a safe “space” for “retreat”, rest, and stillness – so you can “hear” your inner guidance.

This next month I intend to work on being connected with others a bit more. I have been a bit “retreated” for a little too long, so it’s time to spread my wings a bit and become a more opened soul.
I hope you find some support and guidance in this message of the month and have connected within or will be “still” soon- as you connect with your own loving guidance and awareness.  All the source I have been connected with this month have repeated the importance of being in tune with inner self and more accurate with what you are manifesting through your choices.  The future months in the remainder of this year may be a bumpy ride, but the outcome after the first of the year is very much connected to what we are doing, thinking, and choosing to be connected to RIGHT NOW>

Be well and take care of YOU!
Much love and peace to you all
Shiela

Knowing Someone… What to Consider

Knowing someone… what to consider.

By Shiela Reed

It’s funny how we can think we know someone through social media..or simple encounters and forget these “reflections” are just glimpses of a whole. These partial aspect of a person, come forward for many reasons and it can be easy to “judge” or “perceive” as if we know them.

I imagine this is often how celebrities must feel, as they put forth a part of them or a projection but have many more components that are missed by those that don’t “know them” deeply or personally.
We all do this, we all even share and project without thinking why we are even doing it. Sometimes we are left wondering why we received certain “reactions” – without realizing we may have kind of “invited it”. Yet we hope for and usually are wishing for something else.

Our depth of mindfulness helps us gain some navigation skills in these areas and I always find it interesting how I (we) can fluctuate so much from day to day.
This is the part that has my most attention and awareness these days as the true effort (in my “world” anyway) is being able to learn how to stay closer to the “center”. It is and can be a daily challenge. We are human beings after all.. with free will. We do not all choose the same. We do not see things the same. Yet the many underlying similarities are very much the same. Call them “innate needs” maybe but it goes deeper than that. A deeper desire for compassion, love, and understanding. The other layers of emotions block us from seeing THOSE similarities. Fear, guilt, shame, hate.. take us in the opposite direction and it becomes hard to “see” our own truth.

So we project, we reach out in awkward ways. We assume we know others when we don’t. Others assume they know us, when they don’t. We can easily feel struggles of the insecurities and loneliness this brings and if we succumb to that or become stuck on that loop… the despair, depression, hopelessness, and anxiety that we have “lost control” takes over.

It is my hope that we all are given the Grace and find the opportunities to be REAL people with one another. Minus our judgements and freeing us up to be ok with choosing who is “good for us” (and wanted in our lives) and who is not. While also remembering it is absolutely OK when someone else chooses that we are not for them. It means nothing more than that we are not a good match. Or maybe even not a good match “anymore”. It is OK.

It’s a bit ironic maybe that we also need to learn to do this for ourselves as well. Letting go of habits, routines, thought patterns, etc that no longer serve our higher good, can be just as tough, but equally necessary for our growth.
I guess I share this as a long version of my own thought process and feeling into my emotions utilizing Facebook as one of my main social media platforms. I both enjoy it and dislike it. I have learned I have to be VERY aware of the technological manipulation that surrounds us and how easy it is to “get played”. I’m actually a rather private person. While I will “share” things, I am very conscious of the fact that it is “out there” and can never be taken back. I do not want to “fear” it, but it is a reality. I also know that when I am feeling that place of loneliness and disconnectedness – this (i.e. social media- Facebook) can be both a place of huge support or a driver of further sadness and loneliness. So, yes it can be hard to “choose” how I will “react” – and it is much more so when I don’t know why I am even trying to “know” someone else when I don’t know where I am at for that moment.

I’m kind of laughing right now as I think of the many ways I’ve wanted to “lash out” on Facebook when I am feeling no responses or unsupported. I’ve thought about closing it out completely, I’ve thought I’d do a “lecture” to my “friends” – I’ve thought I’d silently just let it go and delete everyone and start over with individual friend requests. Lol Then I realize it’s silly to have spent that time on something that isn’t even vital to my daily life. Yet I acknowledge my enjoyment on being “in touch” with as many people out there as possible because there is no other platform to do so in such magnitude.

So, I am reminded to “take it all with a grain of salt” – enjoy the parts that like, remember I only know the aspects of people as they show me and they only know me for what I choose to show them. Beyond that, the closest parts of my life are within me and those I choose to physically, emotionally and energetically surround myself with… and the same is true for each of  you.  🙂

Many blessings and open awareness to all – Shiela 🙂

Thinklessness / Think-less-ness by Bryan Moss

Such a long word for such a split second, moment to moment process. All of us on auto pilot using our thinking caps. We’re always either looking ahead and anticipating what the future holds, or looking back and holding onto past experiences/memories with fondness or regrets. All of us raised and conditioned to believe that in order to resolve any situation we have to think our way out of it. We think in order to control the outcome. We think so we can out fox our creator.
Yet we never consider the consequences of being unknowingly programmed by parents, teachers and “authority figures”, to be the chess masters of our lives. Do we ever consider the stress we put ourselves through by doing this? The fears, the worries, the pressures, and the anxieties we’re constantly trying to control and minimize? Then there’s the “diagnosed” physical and mental symptoms all of this thinking can contribute to, if not flat out create. We’d like to think everything is being “done” to us. Outside circumstances are being thrown at us. Skin disorders, depression, heart attacks, high blood pressure, suicide…the list is endless.
So let me ask you and me. Is it worth it? All of this thinking? I suggest that perhaps we all need to practice the art of thinking less. We humanoids are so arrogant to believe we can think our way through life and control our outcomes so we can live happily ever after. What if it’s the other way around? What if we didn’t try to anticipate? What if we didn’t hang on to our past experiences? What if we didn’t compare the past to the present? NOT thinking would eliminate all of that.
I’ve been testing this simple exercise to stop the thinking……paying 100% attention to the present moment. As I’m currently writing the first draft of this blog, pressing ink pen to paper, I notice the formation of inked letters across the paper’s lines. I’m feeling the pressure my thumb and first two fingers use to hold the pen. I feel the slight breeze as I sit outside. Am I anticipating any future actions? No. Am I rethinking any, what’s already occurred, past experiences, misfortunes, love lives? No. Am I creating anxiety, fear, and any sort of physical discomfort? No. I’m being present and paying 100% attention to what I’m doing right now. I’m not thinking of what to write next. The words are simply flowing. I’m writing this very blog by thinking less from split second to split second. Moment to moment. Unintentionally being present.
Less thinking. Think-less-ness. Such a long  word for a split second of presence. This will give you something to think about.