August Message of the Month: Taking Care of Self

by Shiela Reed

It’s very interesting how all the “little messages” throughout the month have been related to taking care of ourselves.  So it must mean that the full message of the month this month needs to be about pulling that all together and finding our own “take-aways” regarding – self-care.

At the beginning of the month – I officially started a new journey of following through with years of “hints” about the importance of re-connecting my physical body back with my mental, emotional, spiritual, and etheric selves.  I had a very distinct inner prompting that NOW was the time to do this…  Over the years my physical body took kind of a backseat to my other efforts and for me, well, that’s just how it needed to be I suppose.  It’s funny because odd little ailments would pop up over the years and kind of “force me” to stay out of my usual “physical mode”. In the past I was very much connected to all things “physical” and while of course there are always components of all of these other areas present – often times I would  feel a bit “heavy” or “depleted” in certain areas over others. This easily happens for many of us and while I have been on my own personal journey to balance these out, I have found that the energetic work I have experienced and done has significantly supported bringing things into proper balance and most importantly – assisted me in gaining the much needed reference points for recognizing when things felt like they were going “off tract” prior to it becoming a crisis.

Of course this has taken and continues to take “practice” and regular personal “check-ins” with myself to assure that I am still functioning within my own inner awareness and thus be able to follow my inner promptings without the usual layers of doubt our minds like to throw in the mix… as I’ve said before, it really is a place we just “know” and will recognize once we have that experience… we just have to be able to be in a space that allows us to “hear” it and then recognize that we need to make an immediate adjustment before we spiral too far one way or the other.

This has especially been true of anxiety and depression related symptoms.  Today this topic came as something to expand upon further next month, but know that it is very much how and why so many of us suffer from one or usually BOTH!  We just “miss” our cues to stop the spiral and we get “caught” – until we can find our way out again… this has basically become nonexistent for me anymore thanks to the totality of efforts to balance the mental and emotional and finally the energetic which allowed for ultimate relief.  In the past these states could last for days, weeks, or months.  Obviously this has allowed for very significant changes to occur in my life and is directly related to the multiple parts of self-care I have utilized.

While we learn to catch “cues” – there is another interesting component to taking care of ourselves that came in regarding the importance and need for reflection – but also utilizing that same sense of awareness mentioned above.   I know it often seems important and even necessary to reflect on past life events but I have also been reminded this month that while it is helpful to” look back” – it is important to be aware of why we are doing so.  As an emotional component of self-care – it is crucial to understand the connection this has to our mental and energetic states.  A question that popped up this month regarding this is “am I looking back out of some form of fear?  Or to gain clarity or understanding about a life lesson?”  We will know this by noticing how we “feel” about it or what we “sense” about it – i.e. are we learning and “moving on” or are we dwelling and lamenting over memories?  Some good food for thought…

Overall I have noticed many conversations this month revolving around the importance of “well-being”.  Local gym’s trying to help people get physically fit, local yoga studio’s trying to help guide mental/emotional parts of us with our bodies, spiritual components are found in different forms offering different perspectives for contemplation and I’m even finding my new personal website trying to work on reflecting this concept of how it all connects as the vision of that deepens.  What I have experienced is that a pivotal part of keeping our overall system balanced is realizing that there is an energetic/etheric component to it all and by learning to keep our energy body well – we find deeper connections to the real reason we want to put importance on keeping our physical body well, and our mind emotionally well and our soul spiritually well.  I find the use of energy supporting techniques to be vital to keeping up my energetic immunity and therefore find myself less likely to take on/absorb other energies that are negative and would normally be depleting of my own system.  This has been a new and recent realization and a wonderful take away from my own forever journey to overall well-being.

Clearly, there is a need for balance of each and every aspect of our human existence.  It’s important to remember that they are all connected and being able to discern our own inner promptings about when to adjust is ultimately the goal.  After-all, when we can feel this centered place within us, we find we are much less likely to be caught in extremes one way or the other and more able to function and flow more peacefully throughout our daily lives.

I want to also share something that came in this month as a reminder for those of us that may tend to talk ourselves out  of “taking care of ourselves” –( for whichever number or reasons)  As I thought about my broader “journey” and a desire to help others and how that connects with my personal “journey” of helping myself become a truer version of myself – I also found that I felt some thoughts of “selfishness” – thank goodness my inner connection quickly helped me realize that what I was talking about regarding “taking care of myself” was actually not selfish at all!  In reality it is the best way I/we can be and thus be in positions to help others.  As I had asked my higher self – “what would be the most important focus in regards to helping others and myself/ourselves” – and the answer was “to continue to be focused on me and my journey and the self-love that shines forth will be what helps others to see – not any one particular thing I would “do”.

I am sure this is true of each of us…we are each important to ourselves first and then how we are connected to the world around us.  So focus on you and listen to what your system tells you you need.  Remember there is an ebb and flow of each component.  Changes and adjustments are often needed and are ok along the way.  May you find a solid connection to your inner compass (your true you) by learning to utilize your energy body and connecting within to continue your own journey to well-being and balanced.

And so it is…

Shiela

“It’s All The Same Stuff.” by Bryan Moss

WARNING: The blog/article you are about to read is very up front and direct. If this makes you upset in any way, shape or form then that means, in the grand scheme of things, this is for YOU. This blog is my view point only and not anyone else’s associated with this site.
“IT’S ALL THE SAME STUFF.” This is a comment I read from time to time. “It’s all the same stuff. I’ve read similar things here before.” Those are comments from a few readers who return to see what new blog has appeared on this website. Comments like that make me chuckle. And I’ll tell you why.
Of course it’s all going to read the same. THEY ARE! The messages are the same. The lessons are the same. The “insights” are the same. The themes are the same. Now why is that, do you suppose?
Are you’re ready? Here’s the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth…..
ONLY A FEW practice any of the principles we write about. THEY DON’T TAKE ANY ACTION AND APPLY THEM TO 3D REALITY!!! And because of this everyone is busy seeking the ‘magic cure’, so they can be ‘fixed’. THEY DON’T WANT TO DO IT THEMSELVES!!!
They don’t take the 10 to 20 minutes a day to meditate on a regular basis.
They have a constant chatter (critical inner voice) in their heads but don’t want to do the disciplines to quiet it, LET ALONE ACCEPT THEY HAVE ONE.
They’re not willing to look, and accept, their shadows.
They’re always shopping for the latest books, weekend workshops, and methods to provide the answers for them.
They’re not willing to take the disciplines to tend to their 3D bodies.
They’re not willing to take responsibility for what they created in their present circumstances.
I was the same way years ago. I would read something on..say..”coming from the heart”. I would ‘conceptually understand’ how coming from my heart means ‘feeling’ from my heart, as opposed to thinking of the emotion with my brain. And there lies the rub. I conceptually understood what ‘love’ or ‘compassion’ or ‘anger’ meant by “remembering” when I was in love, or had compassion toward another, or when I was truly angry at a situation.
“THINKING” = “REMEMBERING” = “EGO”. (These terms have nothing to do with the Heart.)
But I didn’t RE-FEEL it. I didn’t allow myself to do that because of the fear of experiencing being VULNERABLE again. I thought ‘re-thinking’ the experience of being sad was enough to get it out of my system and move on.
WRONG.
All I was doing was burying it deeper into the rabbit hole. Thinking about a feeling is another form of denial. I was using my ego (thinking brain) to handle my feelings, which can’t be done. I had to re-feel the experience and past feelings. Feelings come from the Heart. Emotions come from the brain. There’s a HUGE difference.
Why is this so hard to comprehend? Because the ego has it’s limits. The Heart is limitless and the only way to access the Heart’s limitless boundaries is through feelings.
There’s a stage in one’s life when you’re brought up to think it’s weak to show your vulnerability. That’s the ego speaking. The ego has you thinking you have to keep finding more answers to figure out life. All of that brain noise is nothing but a distraction to keep you from feeling from your Heart.
A previous blog I wrote called “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS” touches on this aspect. To show and feel your feelings isn’t weak. That’s backwards. Being vulnerable is strength personified.
That’s another component of the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth….VULNERABILITY. It’s one of the other keys to your Heart. And in order to feel you have to be vulnerable. It’s a strength. As I mentioned in that earlier blog of mine, “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS”, collective society has it all backwards.
So…… are many of the blogs/articles we share and write essentially the same? Hell yes they are!!
It’s because too many “new agers” or “spiritual types” are TOO LAZY to put anything into 3D reality. They’re too busy EXTERNALIZING everything from looking for their ‘start seeds’ to praying to a statue hanging on a wall. No one wants to take the time and practice to look within themselves. It’s too painful and confronting for them. They’d rather try to find the prancing and dancing unicorn at the the end of the rainbow that whispers sweet ‘profound’ nothings in their ears.
As one of my mentors would hammer into me, “In order to heal, you have to FEEL”.
Is it an easy journey, the spiritual life? NO. It’s not meant to be. If it was, everyone would take it for granted. This is what ‘being present’ is all about. This is what ‘self love’ is all about. This is what ‘do unto others’ is all about. I’m sorry to break the bad news to you, but if you were harmed in any way, shape, or form you need to acknowledge and RE-FEEL the experience again to get it out of your system…and then reframe it so you can forgive the perpetrators, and/or yourself, for the experience that happened. Simply understanding the past just won’t cut it. (A hint, free of charge…. applying, “If they/I knew better, they/I would’ve done better”… to those that did harm to you….or better yet–what you did to others, will help you reconcile your victimhood/deeds).
So if you find yourself whining because this site and others seem to be writing the same stuff over and over, maybe it’s because you expect us, and others, to give you the “keys” to enlightenment, when in fact, we can only point the way.
And guess where my finger is pointing right now?…..AT YOU….at your chest…your Heart. Your True Self.
Don’t look at us.
Look to yourself. ALL the answers are inside YOU!
WAKE UP!!!!
Consider this a public service announcement from your own Heart.