August message of the month – Embrace the Journey –

By Shiela Reed

Sometimes looking around and appreciating where we have come from is more important than being “right” in a debate or discussion. Whether with ourselves or others, what if instead of being aggravated or “disappointed” or angry, we were appreciative, humbled, and excited about how far we have come in our life? Whether leaps and bounds or tiny steps – it doesn’t really even matter the “direction”… our labeling and judgement about it is what gets us side tracked and we end up missing the true point in our journey.

While we are here to grow and learn and have a physical experience in our humanness and there is individuality in that, we also are part of a larger collective (society, communities, etc.) that very much impacts our world.
I often think about my own experiences and the impacts they have had on my journey and find even the hardest of them I have found appreciation for. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to see the growth we gain from the difficulties we encounter.

Similarly when we can appreciate the same flow of nature and our world… acknowledging that without rain, there is no growth or life. Without some natural “destruction” there is no “rebuilding” (i.e. fires, hurricanes, tornadoes). The earth system naturally will “rebalance” and it’s not about the “good or bad” of it.
It’s what ends up happening “with it” and after it that counts. Which way will it go? What is the overall reaction?

Nature and Earth – Gaia – will “balance” out. Our own energetic reactions is part of it all as well… if we (individually and/or collectively) react in extreme ways, there will be counter reactions from elsewhere too. It’s as if what we “create” gets “fed” and grows… panic, worry, fear, hostility… just as will safety, peace, comfort, and love. As we go through our own individual journeys and find our ways to become “balanced” (which is that ebb and flow of all the emotions in a closer, smoother and “truer” to our heart center) we can find a sense of peace here.

We will naturally know this state of being… it’s from where we came… embracing the journey through it all is when we can find peace and acceptance in allowing ourselves and others to truly be in harmony, despite our different paths.

As “kumbaya” as this all sounds, the realities of the facts are, not everyone will see it this way, and their journey may appear to be in conflict with our own. Take note and make your own boundaries as respectfully as can be done, and determine your own choices and own them.
At the end of it all, YOU are responsible for YOU and where your journey has been and where it is headed, all based on your moment by moment choices each day.

So, I hope you deeply embrace your journey from your heart, are open to the acceptance of your past by releasing all judgement, and gain exitment in allowing for your future to unfold without fear or restriction.
Much love and blessings
Shiela

Compassion before Judgement

by Shiela Reed

Think before speaking.. sounds like it should be easy right?

Well, not always…  when tragedy strikes everyone tends to be so quick to jump to conclusions. Everyone has opinions, but that’s all they are, they rarely have all the information, yet they pass it around like they have all the answers and know it all or have always made correct and perfect decisions themselves.

Why does everyone have to pass judgement so quickly when there is always more to a story? It’s sad that all the opinions and rhetoric rarely ends up changing anything. In actuality we end up spending so much more time crushing, demoralizing, and knocking people down rather supporting and building each other up.   Where is the compassion for a fellow lost sole?  Or for ALL involved, even the ones we classify as being “their fault”?

As an energetic empath/sensitive these days I am actually more saddened and effected by HOW people are treating each rather than the events and disasters that occur. It’s interesting how easy it is to accept the sadness when there doesn’t appear to be anyone to blame. (i.e. natural disaster) But in reality, we tend to dig really hard to find SOMEONE to blame and condemn.

Is this a part of the human condition that we can never escape from? Are we “destined” to live in hate, fear, and judgement? Honestly I don’t think everyone is. There are plenty of people trying hard to NOT live like that because they don’t want to. But sometimes it’s overwhelming so it seems easier to hide and be silent. No, there isn’t really a reason to “shout from the roof top” that hey look “I AM RIGHT”!   It’s pointless if it ends up feeding a fight or battle or debate that has no end. Everyone chooses. The end…

So share a different view point, stance, or “opinion” in a loving, kind, genuine way, WITHOUT an outcome expectation that the “masses will see it my way” because THAT is when you are most likely sharing from your heart and likely to be heard…

I tell ya, I wish it didn’t seem so hard to “live in peace” all the time, but I recently heard a good reminder about how without the differences (in thoughts and opinions in this case) that everything would already be construed as “perfect” because it would all be the same.

Thinking on that puts it in perspective – because depending on the group you are part of, their definitions seem “perfect” to them and they want others to be like or with them… so it’s great when we think and act alike, and agree but we just don’t seem to know how to handle it when we don’t.

Although this too is just “an opinion”, one of which you may or may not “agree” with, it’s hoped that it sparks additional thought in your mind because in the end, one of the best things we can do is quiet our mouths long enough to listen and hear and contemplate about other possibilities before we jump to our own and assuming it as the “only way” or “right” one.

For me, this is one of the best parts of writing… it forces me to slow down, think about my words, and what I’m really trying say from my heart.  So, take your time… with yourself and others before putting something “out there” that you can’t take back.

I hope for compassion without judgement for us all.
Blessings and peace

Shiela