June monthly message – Decisions are Choices and they Make a Difference

Decisions are choices it makes a difference

by Shiela Reed

It’s pretty amazing to consider the true depth of how influential are decisions and choices actually are in every part of our lives
From simple things like what to wear (OK maybe not always so simple haha) to things that may make life more “complicated” – like who (if anyone) to spend our time and life with.

In reality – there are so many of these things that go on each day we often just function on “auto pilot” most of the time without much true “awareness”. Now I’m not saying we need to over analyze things or over think every single move we make – but what if we did bring in a level of awareness that came from the heart? You know, our true inner self space and took some time to consider another way or another angle or if we really want that thought, behavior, etc in our space to begin with.

The reality is our decisions and choices matter. Not just to us but others around us. Are we aware enough to consider the current future of effect on ourselves and others while being true to our inner self?
When it comes from the heart and not an ego driven self centered place, it really does end up as a “greater good” or “right”. For example, who we decide to associate with and allow in our lives has an influence on us. Where we choose to go and how we spend our time and money has an effect on our presence. Even something like sharing your DNA may have connections you have not thought of… remember your intentions are within your control while those of others are not.

So do we end up living in fear of making decisions and choices because there are so many directions each one could actually go? Sometimes we do… so I hope we simply become more aware of WHERE our own intentions are coming from while considering that there are also outside influences we may need to become more aware of. Maybe this could help create more of a balance between not being too cautious or “fearful” with also not being “too open” that we are “naive” or “vulnerable” in an unaware kind of way.

I’m so reminded that there is so much that does make a difference – even if it seems small- It will and does ripple out, even a little – which has an impact of energetic frequency on all of us. So yes, what we say and do to ourselves and others has a lasting impact, at least in this lifetime and possibly even beyond (insert golden rule here) 🙂
It also has influence with our Earth and the energetic flows all around us. So we may end up on the “energy river of the collective” or we may “float on a side stream” of our own. Even though it’s usually a little of both, they will eventually mingle and meet in some way and the effect on us greatly depends on where we are energetically, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually – are we balanced? Are we coming at things from a genuine loving place holding a space of respect for ourselves and others as we observe and contemplate how we really want it to be?

I have to say this month’s message came at me from several different angles and it was as if there was a need to share multiple perspectives, so it was tough to get written down – but as pin has made it to paper, it has remained a simple focus on the importance of just learning a deeper level of awareness that allows decisions and choices to be true, honest, genuine, from a place of love, and held in grace, because it does make a difference.

I hope your decisions lead you to choices that make your true heart happy and resonates with the world in a joyous way.

Peace
Shiela

Happy Father’s Day…sort of

by Bryan Moss

Collective society’s influence on family has always had the male be the protector, provider, and the decision maker of ‘his’ tribe. Throughout the ages fathers have always been considered the bread winners of the family.   The mothers of those families were always looked upon as the gatherers and their femininity provided the love that held the family together. It’s always been expected of the wife to follow the husband’s lead and keep the children in order. It’s up to the father to get what the family needs. Masculinity has always been considered a more dominant force over femininity. Therefore, force equals masculinity. Men are strong and women are weaker than men. This conditioning has been ingrained in our heads throughout history. I was certainly brainwashed and conditioned to think that way. However, as I grew into adulthood, these traditional views didn’t make sense, but I just couldn’t put my finger on ‘why’ they didn’t make sense to me. Until I was schooled in energy work. Education has changed. Technology certainly has changed. I think the majority’s concepts of what Fathers Day and Mothers Day are about is in need of a change.
   From an energy workers perspective, our bodies contain the two energy frequencies of the feminine and masculine, God given gifts from the Divine spirit. The two give birth to the Divine Child creating form to family. This is where the truth ends and the conditioned lies begin. The collective takes this literally and keeps it all separate. Thus we assign specific qualities to the mother, father, and child. We externalize these qualities and attributes without realizing we’re giving away our inherited divine powers and virtues. Energetically, Feminine and Masculine attributes aren’t divided and ‘assigned’ to specific genders. On the contrary, BOTH Feminine and Masculine energies are within the human body, which us Energetic Beings live in. Man or woman, it’s our responsibility to seek the union of the energies WITHIN us first. In my humble opinion, this is one of the main reasons why most people are wrapped up in their major conflicts. They don’t take time to care for, or even acknowledge, the feminine and masculine sides within. Historical views are out of balance, as far as the two energies are concerned. Men and women need to learn how to reconnect with both before continuing on their life’s journey.
 It’s important for the male to see that power doesn’t mean force. Media, social venues and society in general promote and encourage this way of thinking. Real power doesn’t come from dominating and controlling anything or anyone. Real power is the recognition of the necessity of these two energies merging as one and only then acting from the feelings of our heart. Every man needs to understand the feminine aspects of himself. When a man begins merging his masculine energy with the feminine energy, that’s been dormant for years, he develops compassion for others. He begins to experience truth in action first hand. He finds himself not judging others as much, for when he really looks at things, he’s done those same things himself in one way or the other. Self-responsibility takes the place of accusations and externalizations. Reflecting, learning and reframing his mistakes and misperceptions takes the place of victimhood and pride. He learns his very inaccurate mind/ego is always going to be there and real wisdom is gained from feeling with his Heart.
 Naturally, the woman needs to nurture her masculine side as much as the male needs to nurture his feminine side. And when all is said and done, maintaining a balance with the two energies becomes the foundation for true growth from within……your Heart.
  Energy is constantly changing. Our journeys are constantly changing. It seems to me the perception of Fathers Day needs to change too. Nevertheless, regardless of your views on this topic, if you’re a Dad to any extent: children, pets, plants….allow me to wish you a Happy Fathers Day!!
..Bryan

Depression and Suicide

by Shiela Reed

Sadly there is much talk the last few weeks about depression and suicide.  Take heed and make sure you are taking good care of yourself and being aware of what is around you.  Your choice in people and environment can also effect you.  Remember to be kind and reach out to someone that could use a hello.

It’s probably not as likely as you might think that you would for sure know when someone is contemplating suicide.

It’s a darkened state that never really seems to lift, or at least not for long. A person probably gets good at “fitting in” and “putting on a happy face”.   It starts to feel like that’s the only way it will ever be.

Maybe one day the darkness doesn’t feel like it will ever lift again, or maybe it becomes too hard to put on the show any longer.

It’s probably impossible to ever really know “why” or “what was the final straw”, if there is even such a thing.

I can only tell you from my own experience, that after struggles with depression and having continued to seek out ways to “feel better”, I can now put things together that work for me.

Today, most times are a moment by moment assessment of what my mood is and after having learned about energetic awarenss, I can now actually find relief in knowing it has helped me change enough to not get “caught up in an emotional roller coaster ride” like I used to.

Instead, now I feel like I can honestly CHOOSE and I can “let go” without as much guilt or self judgement.

Don’t get me wrong, it sure the hell doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings, down days, sour moods, or anything else that can come out of the blue. But what doesn’t happen as often is that I don’t feel “trapped there” forever.
It’s hard… it’s not easy when all you want is to talk to someone, a hug, a friend, to feel important, someone to pay attention to you, but you end up sad and looking at “everyone else” and comparing what you “think” others have… when in reality, we all struggle. It’s just that most hide it well or have learned to not linger there as long anymore.  In reality, we ALL need connections.

Sadly we often don’t know how to ask or share experiences genuinely with others because we’ve been wounded. While in the end, the truth is that we have the hardest time truly loving and accepting ourselves first… so we silently struggle.

So to family and friends and survivors, there may have never been anything you could actually have “prevented”, instead the biggest challenge may really be within ALL of us… as every single one of us can learn to be kinder to ourselves, show grace and mercy to ourselves and others, with a genuine human compassion for the life struggles that are unseen in us all.

Again, reach out, be kind, make a positive difference.

May there be peace in your mind, love in your heart, and blessings that come from your tongue.

Shiela

Here is a good resource for anyone that needs help for themselves or a friend or loved one.

Declutter

Decluttering

By Shiela Reed

The energies have been coming on strong for over a month now and may feel pretty intense to just throw everything away and start over. Yet there is also a bit of a nagging to “hang on” to everything “just in case”!

That can actually be rather anxiety provoking. I have felt it and have had to remind myself daily to check in with my inner self and allow myself to take a little time to determine if I am functioning on fear or everyone else’s energy rather than my own true prompts.

I’m not gonna lie, it’s hard sometimes!!! It can feel like all or nothing at once. We run or freeze or get angry for no reason due to the underlying “frustration” that we probably don’t recognize.

So far the best things I’m doing are literally stopping what I’m doing and sit still for a few minutes (or more) and breath, relax a little (preferably outside or at least somewhere quiet and non distracting or cluttered with stuff or “feelings”).

Then when I ask myself “do I want to really do this now?” – (funny because I literally just had a wasp land on me out of the blue and get my attention to look up her symbolism as a new totem animal/messenger and it’s very much about new beginnings, focusing on what I want and is important to me as well as becoming more clear on the expressions of myself as I shift and change in the new process I’m going through) i.e. welcome to this website and blog! 🙂

Anyway, to continue 😉 – sometimes the answer might be, “no” never, no not right now, yes now, yes, but adjust a little… etc. Regardless, just listen… follow your prompting. Breath and release through the fear and anxiety. Close your eyes, the visions and views they see can be distracting. Take your time. You may even need to leave it be and come back to it later. Insert a healthy physical distraction maybe, like a walk, a nap, a scenic drive…

In the end, give yourself permission to follow your own guidance.

Also know that the “clearing out and de-cluttering pull” is more than about our physical space. There is often a deeper mental and emotional clearing that is needed. We just notice the physical first in most cases because that’s where most of us are used to functioning. Plus, let’s face face it, we can “control”, manipulate, and see results of physical “stuff” right?!… that gives us a sense of accomplishment and a form of temporary relief. Which is great and even necessary at the right times. It can actually set us up for having an improved personal space to work from and go deeper on that mental and emotional “stuff”…. but don’t forget to also pay attention to that underlying part… it’s probably trying to get your attention for a reason.   So, remember to “go back there and revisit it”.

I also know this is when it’s really nice to have someone to reflect with and personally I enjoy having my own energetic support system in place to get some support to go just a little deeper into my own inner connection.   There are many out there and starting up… so just make sure it resonates with your heart.

Well, it is time to continue with some more assessment of my environment and another layer of “de-cluttering” as I too move forward with opening up my space and energetic field a bit more.

I’m trying to remember that holding on to too many things (physical things, mental things, emotional things) not only effects my energetic space and physical body, it also limits me from being as open to the new and wonderful things trying to find their way into my life. ❤

Blessings and best regards during your journey.
Shiela