THE ART OF CRYING by Bryan Moss

As an energy worker I found myself wondering, for the past number of weeks, if I was still in touch with my Heart. Things that would normally move me to tears just weren’t doing it anymore. Mentioning of my mother’ name (she made her transition back in 1995 due to cancer), observing a stray dog or cat wandering the streets, or seeing an elderly person in a room full of younger people and not one person talking to them, all would wet my eyes. But lately, not anymore.
 My critical inner voice would heckle me with: “I’ve become cold hearted.” “I don’t seem to care about anything anymore.” “I’ve lost touch with my soul.” Within collective society the majority of people are conditioned to believe crying is a form of weakness. Now it’s acceptable if you initially cry over unexpected bad news, but don’t let that crying linger on. “Real men don’t cry, they just handle it” (whatever ‘it’ is). It’s crammed down everyone’s throats to “be strong and tough”. “Don’t let people know you’re weak.” “Don’t show people you’re vulnerable.” All programmed collective B.S.!!!…… mmmmmmm……
 A little research shows there are substantial benefits in the art of crying. The tears we shed have chemicals  that actually make us feel good! Oxytocin and endorphins are released to help relieve pain and elevate our moods. Tears help to kill bacteria and keep the eyes clean with a fluid called lysozyme. Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which helps us to relax. Little did I know of the physical benefits of crying, other than it usually feels good to get that ‘stuff’ out afterwords.
 Now, what’s got me writing about crying? A series of recent personal events all manifested within a 3 week period. One right after another, culminating with one of my best friends dying in a car accident, first thing in the morning on Valentine’s Day. As I was leaving my work place for lunch, a mutual friend called  to let me know. After disbelief passed through me, I cried and cried and cried in the cab of my truck for the hour, not even touching my lunch. Memories flooding my brain with all of the times we spent together. How we met each other. How we hit it off immediately through the same sense of humor and observations. The mutual respect and admiration we had for one another. After lunch, I went back into work sobbing. For the next couple of days I alternated between crying and sobbing. Reflecting, I was also aware I wasn’t only crying because I lost a best friend. I was releasing stress built up over all of the unexpected events that slammed me from the last weeks.
 What was cool was I had made the transition from feeling guilty and self conscious for crying to knowing it was my God given right to cry…and I was proud of it! I looked at the ‘gifts’ my pal gave to me. His humor, understanding, and most of all, his humbleness. He was a very knowledgeable man who knew a little of just about anything and yet very humble. I guess you could say he taught me, by example, the virtues of humbleness.  My friend’s passing couldn’t have happened on a more appropriate day, Valentine’s Day, for he had a BIG Heart!
  I realized I had to ‘let him go’. I also realized dwelling on and on about the ‘news’ of his passing wasn’t fair to him as well. The stray animals, my mom’s passing, the elders being neglected…gradually I had to let them all go and not ‘hang on’ to them. Energetically it could be stagnating if I didn’t, for all concerned.
 Acceptance gradually entered my life over the past number of months. Accepting that “everything’s perfect the way it is”. And in  accepting life as it unfolds I come from the power of choice. Do I choose to engage in conversation with the lady in the wheelchair? Do I feed the stray cat at work?  I wasn’t becoming cold hearted or insensitive. Instead it’s the opposite. I was becoming more accepting and compassionate without judgement as life’s events unfolded. I never did lose touch with my Heart. Out of acceptance I  was nurturing it.
 All of these realizations wouldn’t have come to me if I didn’t participate in the art of crying. Pass me a tissue please.
 With Respect and Love,
 Bryan

February Monthly Message – Until You’re Ready – Hold Steady

by Shiela Reed

I would like to share an idea with you that came to me as part of my shamanism training/practice.

I found that there were frequently times I was receiving “guidance” and “messages” from the spirit realms that prompted me to share in some way.  Before I would just share a quick message of positive affirmations based on a word and saying I was led to share on my Facebook page – HHOP – Holistic Healthy Optimistic and Positive.

I don’t believe the true depth or meaning was really ever conveyed well, so it never really meant much more than it being “just another positive quote to share”.

So I have felt compelled to begin a bit of a more focused “sharing” of these type of “messages”, if you will, by doing a Monthly Message blog here around the beginning of the month.  The information will be from my intentional shaman journey seeking such guidance to share.  I may end up sharing other prompted messages or journey outcomes in this forum if that is how I am led.

So far my experience has shown me that the messages come forward in a rather specific way and “who” they are for – really ends up being unknown to me.   I actually just trust that it will “land where it needs to” and at the right time.

With that I will share a prompting from a bit earlier this month:

“Until you are ready – hold steady”.

There is and has been much changing and shifting the last few years and the shift will continue for a relatively lengthy time into the future.  (a meditative journey a few years ago gave me information  about how we have around 10 or so years of significant shifting and adjusting to go through as a world people).

So it becomes very important to find your OWN inner compass and stay close to that.

Not to be easily and quickly swayed

Not to speak before a thorough self reflection

and Not to take the importance of all forms of self care for granted

Basically this message was about an overall reminder to spend extra quality time learning the art of inner reflection and reconnecting to your own inner life spark/source.

This will be what helps you “hold steady” and then more confidently “know when you are ready”.

Blessings and Peace and remember to take care of yourselves

Shiela

What are you giving life?

by Shiela Reed

What are you giving life?

Have you ever really deeply contemplated this? I frequently do. I also realize on almost a daily basis I am having some form of a conversation with many different people on many different life topics.    Basically I then realize almost every time my “advice” or guidance seems to frequently end up with this as the “theme” to be considered.

In a way it seems like it could appear complicated or time-consuming, but in reality it’s just like anything, it takes some practice and doing it over and over before it becomes like “second nature”. Even then we all still have times when we will naturally just go back to using old mechanisms for dealing with things because we kind of “forget”.

This is why it is almost of an utmost importance to become “aware” of how this can affect us.   If we cannot find our way to a place of truly being open to other possibilities and concepts, we will likely stay within the confines of our current limited awareness. (As I’m writing this I realize this is a whole other topic 🙂 to just share later on regarding how to open up to awareness.. so stay tuned)

Today I want to share some thoughts and ponderance regarding how we feed and grow every single thing in our lives and how as our awareness grows, those things change and shift.  It is not really as random as our mind would like us to believe. This is the entering of our “will” to decide our own current reality – make” predictions” for future – while learning from our past without are an ego attached judgement

Here’s an example I have been using the last few years:  recently there was a full moon.  It was a super blue blood moon packed with powerful Energies( lots and lots of stuff written on that and where this energy can and does tend to go). The reality is simply stated – “packed with powerful energy”.  This is true, I have yet to meet or talk to anyone that disagrees with that.  Where there are variances is in regards to the “interpretations” of how this manifests in people’s daily lives.  So bear with me as I try to break this down-  because it ends up that everyone is correct, but there’s more to the story – and that’s the part I hope to help people see.  Another version if you will….

An interpretation – prediction- even all the way to a stereotype – is based on some element of an apparent consistency.  In this case one statement may be that “full moons bring out all the crazy people and behavior”.   If that’s the version of the story I latch onto, then it will manifest right before my eyes and I will for sure see it everywhere – thus “supporting” my interpretation of a full moon.  And YES, there are plenty of those exact things to find, see, and use as “proof”  to support that “stereotypical” Full Moon fever.

However, what if one’s awareness shifted a bit and we became aware of some other, almost as common but maybe appearing to be subtle occurrences during a full moon?

– like boosts of energy that if focused could be utilized to make big progress on a task

–  like emotions that flood us and are begging for attention because we have likely held them at bay so long, they now force their way through on the tides of the full moon energy flow.

– or like the natural draw to awe and wonder of the sky and the ebb and flow of life

How different could this or any other version of a concept, situation, or person be shifted in our current and future lives, while also allowing us to now see some new learning elements from our past?

So I invite you to contemplate this question with an open heart, allowing your mind to be free to wander with the understanding that what we hone in on and focus on, we “give life to and grow”.

So, “What if it was different than the way I currently see it?”  Would we then continue with our current thoughts about it? Or would we choose to shift that and allow things to change and become something new for us? As this sets in – is when we really begin to realize – in the end – WE always have a choice in the matter.  🙂

I hope you each grow and give life to the things, people/relationships, feelings, concepts, situations, etcetera…. that your heart actually chooses.

Blessings and Peace today and always

Shiela