What’s the purpose of a New Year’s resolution anyway?

by Shiela Reed

So,  another year has come and gone…  I’ve been reflecting just as most people probably do.  I found myself with this question and figured it would be as good as any of a way to start off.   So, I guess, “let the blogging begin”!  🙂

What’s the purpose of a “New Year’s Resolution” anyway?

Have you noticed that the energy and excitement often increases as we plan for “newness” no matter when that is during the year?  That is especially true at the start of a new year.  It seems to be a “natural” or automatic way our systems are wired as we are drawn to a time when we can make a fresh start .  To find and hold onto what seems to be a “solid starting point”…  this time of year feels a little like “book ends” to me.  The end of one and beginning of another… But why now?  Why “January 1st” all the time?

In reality – this could happen anytime we choose – but commonly we all feel the energetic “pull/push/draw” to certain times of the year (i.e. New Years) because the larger group/collective adds their energy too .  A bit like “everybody’s doing it” maybe.

Although that  might make a bit of sense, there is more to it than that.  The rest of the story is what makes it tricky.  It’s actually important for us to have an understanding of “why are we” making this particular choice at this particular time?

We may get a hint of this, if after the initial “surge and spike” with everyone else’s energy (i.e. everyone talking about their new years resolutions) – we make note of where our own energy goes when it’s time to sustain and maintain the new decision/commitment a few days, or weeks or months later.

Are we still as excited and focused?  That actually tends to end up depending on the true “root” of our own “why” for this new “plan”, endeavor, change, commitment, in the first place….

To me this ends up being a significant difference between when we find ourselves sticking with something vs quitting or becoming “bored” with the idea.

For example – if I were to start with my own “soul search” and that leads me to make a certain change or shift, it will be more likely to sustain and make it through the “hard times” or struggles.  If it’s due to outside expectations or “joining the crowd” and not what I “really” want or am ready to do – it will not.

It’s so subtle – we are barely ever aware.   Which is why the more we can spend time nurturing the growth of that inner connection… that “knowing” part of us that comes from that special inner true self we each have –

The more “true” our choices and commitments will be, because we will begin to more consistently feel them coming from our true heart space.

So – to test it out- see what “resolutions” stick for you this year and which do not.  And NO this is not permission to “beat ourselves up” if we don’t “stick something out”.  Instead consider going back to the beginning and determine our true first reason and starting point and LEARN something new about our individual processing systems.

We will learn to know if we are “in-tune” or not… and if we are not – we can begin to practice simply letting it go, re-assessing from our heart space – and either try again or go another direction.

On our site this year, we hope you will be able to find some new and meaningful connections with yourselves and others while sparking fresh thoughts and ideas as we each walk into this new year with a sense of opportunity for new beginnings…

Here’s to wishing you all a 2018 filled with what YOU choose, need, and create – remember – our life lessons will come in many forms, so try to be open to them all.

Peace, love, serenity

Shiela