Knowing Someone… What to Consider

Knowing someone… what to consider.

By Shiela Reed

It’s funny how we can think we know someone through social media..or simple encounters and forget these “reflections” are just glimpses of a whole. These partial aspect of a person, come forward for many reasons and it can be easy to “judge” or “perceive” as if we know them.

I imagine this is often how celebrities must feel, as they put forth a part of them or a projection but have many more components that are missed by those that don’t “know them” deeply or personally.
We all do this, we all even share and project without thinking why we are even doing it. Sometimes we are left wondering why we received certain “reactions” – without realizing we may have kind of “invited it”. Yet we hope for and usually are wishing for something else.

Our depth of mindfulness helps us gain some navigation skills in these areas and I always find it interesting how I (we) can fluctuate so much from day to day.
This is the part that has my most attention and awareness these days as the true effort (in my “world” anyway) is being able to learn how to stay closer to the “center”. It is and can be a daily challenge. We are human beings after all.. with free will. We do not all choose the same. We do not see things the same. Yet the many underlying similarities are very much the same. Call them “innate needs” maybe but it goes deeper than that. A deeper desire for compassion, love, and understanding. The other layers of emotions block us from seeing THOSE similarities. Fear, guilt, shame, hate.. take us in the opposite direction and it becomes hard to “see” our own truth.

So we project, we reach out in awkward ways. We assume we know others when we don’t. Others assume they know us, when they don’t. We can easily feel struggles of the insecurities and loneliness this brings and if we succumb to that or become stuck on that loop… the despair, depression, hopelessness, and anxiety that we have “lost control” takes over.

It is my hope that we all are given the Grace and find the opportunities to be REAL people with one another. Minus our judgements and freeing us up to be ok with choosing who is “good for us” (and wanted in our lives) and who is not. While also remembering it is absolutely OK when someone else chooses that we are not for them. It means nothing more than that we are not a good match. Or maybe even not a good match “anymore”. It is OK.

It’s a bit ironic maybe that we also need to learn to do this for ourselves as well. Letting go of habits, routines, thought patterns, etc that no longer serve our higher good, can be just as tough, but equally necessary for our growth.
I guess I share this as a long version of my own thought process and feeling into my emotions utilizing Facebook as one of my main social media platforms. I both enjoy it and dislike it. I have learned I have to be VERY aware of the technological manipulation that surrounds us and how easy it is to “get played”. I’m actually a rather private person. While I will “share” things, I am very conscious of the fact that it is “out there” and can never be taken back. I do not want to “fear” it, but it is a reality. I also know that when I am feeling that place of loneliness and disconnectedness – this (i.e. social media- Facebook) can be both a place of huge support or a driver of further sadness and loneliness. So, yes it can be hard to “choose” how I will “react” – and it is much more so when I don’t know why I am even trying to “know” someone else when I don’t know where I am at for that moment.

I’m kind of laughing right now as I think of the many ways I’ve wanted to “lash out” on Facebook when I am feeling no responses or unsupported. I’ve thought about closing it out completely, I’ve thought I’d do a “lecture” to my “friends” – I’ve thought I’d silently just let it go and delete everyone and start over with individual friend requests. Lol Then I realize it’s silly to have spent that time on something that isn’t even vital to my daily life. Yet I acknowledge my enjoyment on being “in touch” with as many people out there as possible because there is no other platform to do so in such magnitude.

So, I am reminded to “take it all with a grain of salt” – enjoy the parts that like, remember I only know the aspects of people as they show me and they only know me for what I choose to show them. Beyond that, the closest parts of my life are within me and those I choose to physically, emotionally and energetically surround myself with… and the same is true for each of  you.  🙂

Many blessings and open awareness to all – Shiela 🙂

Thinklessness / Think-less-ness by Bryan Moss

Such a long word for such a split second, moment to moment process. All of us on auto pilot using our thinking caps. We’re always either looking ahead and anticipating what the future holds, or looking back and holding onto past experiences/memories with fondness or regrets. All of us raised and conditioned to believe that in order to resolve any situation we have to think our way out of it. We think in order to control the outcome. We think so we can out fox our creator.
Yet we never consider the consequences of being unknowingly programmed by parents, teachers and “authority figures”, to be the chess masters of our lives. Do we ever consider the stress we put ourselves through by doing this? The fears, the worries, the pressures, and the anxieties we’re constantly trying to control and minimize? Then there’s the “diagnosed” physical and mental symptoms all of this thinking can contribute to, if not flat out create. We’d like to think everything is being “done” to us. Outside circumstances are being thrown at us. Skin disorders, depression, heart attacks, high blood pressure, suicide…the list is endless.
So let me ask you and me. Is it worth it? All of this thinking? I suggest that perhaps we all need to practice the art of thinking less. We humanoids are so arrogant to believe we can think our way through life and control our outcomes so we can live happily ever after. What if it’s the other way around? What if we didn’t try to anticipate? What if we didn’t hang on to our past experiences? What if we didn’t compare the past to the present? NOT thinking would eliminate all of that.
I’ve been testing this simple exercise to stop the thinking……paying 100% attention to the present moment. As I’m currently writing the first draft of this blog, pressing ink pen to paper, I notice the formation of inked letters across the paper’s lines. I’m feeling the pressure my thumb and first two fingers use to hold the pen. I feel the slight breeze as I sit outside. Am I anticipating any future actions? No. Am I rethinking any, what’s already occurred, past experiences, misfortunes, love lives? No. Am I creating anxiety, fear, and any sort of physical discomfort? No. I’m being present and paying 100% attention to what I’m doing right now. I’m not thinking of what to write next. The words are simply flowing. I’m writing this very blog by thinking less from split second to split second. Moment to moment. Unintentionally being present.
Less thinking. Think-less-ness. Such a long  word for a split second of presence. This will give you something to think about.

“It’s All The Same Stuff.” by Bryan Moss

WARNING: The blog/article you are about to read is very up front and direct. If this makes you upset in any way, shape or form then that means, in the grand scheme of things, this is for YOU. This blog is my view point only and not anyone else’s associated with this site.
“IT’S ALL THE SAME STUFF.” This is a comment I read from time to time. “It’s all the same stuff. I’ve read similar things here before.” Those are comments from a few readers who return to see what new blog has appeared on this website. Comments like that make me chuckle. And I’ll tell you why.
Of course it’s all going to read the same. THEY ARE! The messages are the same. The lessons are the same. The “insights” are the same. The themes are the same. Now why is that, do you suppose?
Are you’re ready? Here’s the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth…..
ONLY A FEW practice any of the principles we write about. THEY DON’T TAKE ANY ACTION AND APPLY THEM TO 3D REALITY!!! And because of this everyone is busy seeking the ‘magic cure’, so they can be ‘fixed’. THEY DON’T WANT TO DO IT THEMSELVES!!!
They don’t take the 10 to 20 minutes a day to meditate on a regular basis.
They have a constant chatter (critical inner voice) in their heads but don’t want to do the disciplines to quiet it, LET ALONE ACCEPT THEY HAVE ONE.
They’re not willing to look, and accept, their shadows.
They’re always shopping for the latest books, weekend workshops, and methods to provide the answers for them.
They’re not willing to take the disciplines to tend to their 3D bodies.
They’re not willing to take responsibility for what they created in their present circumstances.
I was the same way years ago. I would read something on..say..”coming from the heart”. I would ‘conceptually understand’ how coming from my heart means ‘feeling’ from my heart, as opposed to thinking of the emotion with my brain. And there lies the rub. I conceptually understood what ‘love’ or ‘compassion’ or ‘anger’ meant by “remembering” when I was in love, or had compassion toward another, or when I was truly angry at a situation.
“THINKING” = “REMEMBERING” = “EGO”. (These terms have nothing to do with the Heart.)
But I didn’t RE-FEEL it. I didn’t allow myself to do that because of the fear of experiencing being VULNERABLE again. I thought ‘re-thinking’ the experience of being sad was enough to get it out of my system and move on.
WRONG.
All I was doing was burying it deeper into the rabbit hole. Thinking about a feeling is another form of denial. I was using my ego (thinking brain) to handle my feelings, which can’t be done. I had to re-feel the experience and past feelings. Feelings come from the Heart. Emotions come from the brain. There’s a HUGE difference.
Why is this so hard to comprehend? Because the ego has it’s limits. The Heart is limitless and the only way to access the Heart’s limitless boundaries is through feelings.
There’s a stage in one’s life when you’re brought up to think it’s weak to show your vulnerability. That’s the ego speaking. The ego has you thinking you have to keep finding more answers to figure out life. All of that brain noise is nothing but a distraction to keep you from feeling from your Heart.
A previous blog I wrote called “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS” touches on this aspect. To show and feel your feelings isn’t weak. That’s backwards. Being vulnerable is strength personified.
That’s another component of the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth….VULNERABILITY. It’s one of the other keys to your Heart. And in order to feel you have to be vulnerable. It’s a strength. As I mentioned in that earlier blog of mine, “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS”, collective society has it all backwards.
So…… are many of the blogs/articles we share and write essentially the same? Hell yes they are!!
It’s because too many “new agers” or “spiritual types” are TOO LAZY to put anything into 3D reality. They’re too busy EXTERNALIZING everything from looking for their ‘start seeds’ to praying to a statue hanging on a wall. No one wants to take the time and practice to look within themselves. It’s too painful and confronting for them. They’d rather try to find the prancing and dancing unicorn at the the end of the rainbow that whispers sweet ‘profound’ nothings in their ears.
As one of my mentors would hammer into me, “In order to heal, you have to FEEL”.
Is it an easy journey, the spiritual life? NO. It’s not meant to be. If it was, everyone would take it for granted. This is what ‘being present’ is all about. This is what ‘self love’ is all about. This is what ‘do unto others’ is all about. I’m sorry to break the bad news to you, but if you were harmed in any way, shape, or form you need to acknowledge and RE-FEEL the experience again to get it out of your system…and then reframe it so you can forgive the perpetrators, and/or yourself, for the experience that happened. Simply understanding the past just won’t cut it. (A hint, free of charge…. applying, “If they/I knew better, they/I would’ve done better”… to those that did harm to you….or better yet–what you did to others, will help you reconcile your victimhood/deeds).
So if you find yourself whining because this site and others seem to be writing the same stuff over and over, maybe it’s because you expect us, and others, to give you the “keys” to enlightenment, when in fact, we can only point the way.
And guess where my finger is pointing right now?…..AT YOU….at your chest…your Heart. Your True Self.
Don’t look at us.
Look to yourself. ALL the answers are inside YOU!
WAKE UP!!!!
Consider this a public service announcement from your own Heart.

Food and Eating – the Connection to Choices

Food and Eating – the Connection to Choices

by Shiela Reed

This topic comes around off and on for me every once in a while but this year I have noticed myself having a whole new level of inner dialogue about it.  I’ve always had some points of personal awareness regarding food and eating and I haven’t had a life long struggle – but I have for sure had my moments and found myself learning something new about myself and my relationship with food.

I have ALWAYS loved food and to loved to eat it!  I have been an athlete, active, and probably have a decent “genetic make up” that would be considered mostly healthy – so in reality, I can’t complain much.  Instead – what I notice more and more is the INNER connection to food and “pings” I get with the thought of it, the types of it, the purposes of it, and all aspects of it – (for example, I don’t enjoy cooking, I enjoy eating, I see a social opportunity, I see connections to my inner being – both my heart moments AND I now also recognize the ego moments/payoffs).  So this year, as I personally have been feeling a need for expanding beyond this “basic” understanding and “need” – not just because I am hitting a mid-life point, haha, but also because I have recognized that there is a bit of a common “theme” going on in general for many folks.

So now appears to be a pivotal time to be paying attention to your body and it’s “true needs”. While that is widely individualized, one thing I have noticed for myself starting to come in this year is regarding the need to limit and maybe even begin to eliminate eating meats.
The whole topic of food for me has been a life long “thing” but not necessarily because I “struggled with my weight”. I really haven’t had that too bad. Yes there have been points here and there that got “out of control” and I had a few extremes but in reality, I have been fairly in tune with my body my whole life regarding what it “felt like eating”. Part of that reality was admitting/incorporating the fact that emotional and mental components totally played a part in this and as long as I remained aware and sometime a bit more “vigilant” about being on a more nutritious track, I knew very well how to “maintain” or loose 5 to 10 pounds.
I had my hardest struggle when I lost all “vigilance” and the next thing I knew I was over 50 pounds over weight. I simply didn’t know how to loose that much! So I needed some help during those times…
What I’m talking about here is the “knowing” what my true self body is guiding me toward and trusting that, even if I don’t understand “why”.

I’d like to share some observations and tid bits of information that have come to me and maybe spark your own interest in researching it further and “checking within yourself” to see where you are on this topic if you too have had some promptings to “change things” regarding food this year- beyond the usual “let’s get healthy”, I have a health condition so I better do it, etc..
I want to talk about how our body FEELS after consuming different things. Being in tune with that is super important. By adding the level of awareness that both our physical bodies and emotional bodies can “crave” or have a “need” – and knowing which and why we choose one or the other is a cool level of helpful awareness that really connects us to our physical bodies here on Earth.

For example as I feel deeper into this new “need” to let go of the dense nature of meat, it actually makes sense to my spiritual body and is in my own “right timing”. I say that because many people take stances on eating or not eating meat for a multitude of reasons, none of which is what I’m referring to here since it can lead to forms of judgement and defensiveness and then we may not see our own deep needs or connections to the topic. For example, I am an avid animal lover and while it may seem odd to some that I have continued to eat meat, it is part of my own journey into awaking that is for me to go through and discover.
What I find fascinating is that this year, this “change” has naturally started to occur from WITHIN me, not pressure from others or any form of guilt or any such thing. It is truly what my energy system is “telling me” it needs for my physical body to “conform to” as it is important for my own spiritual awakening.

Ironically (or really not so much LOL – thank you universe 😁) I have stumbled onto supporting information from several sources that support the notion that for our physical bodies to be best prepared to remain on physical Earth during these changing energy times (from 3D to 4 and 5D) our bodies need to be less dense to allow for abilities to move within and throughout the new grids more easily.
I know, I know, to some it may sound woowoo still, but every time I check within on this, I am given a definitive “YES” this is accurate. I have also noted random conversations with many people, many who are not connected to energy related work at all, and they too are reporting this “strange draw or desire” to physically “lighten up” and adjust the intake of meat in particular.
How wild is that?!
So that leads one to believe there is something to the collective shift and the universal energy message to help us prepare – IF we are at least in-tune within enough to hear some of it.

So where are you in all this “physical body shifting” thing? How do these words make you feel? Are you like “duh! That makes total sense?- I knew that?” – are you like “hmm now that you mention it, that actually sounds and feels accurate” or “um. Nope, doesn’t make any sense and I don’t get what you are talking about”.
Regardless, I sure hope you look and feel further into it for yourself and see what is there and make note of how it guides your future directions. Maybe it’s just a new eye opener to finding your hearts path. Maybe it’s the “ah ha I’m onto something new to learn about myself”, or maybe it’s a confirmation that I’m on the right track.

To check in regarding this for yourself, ask some clarifying questions from a deeper place within you, like: “Is that what I was going for or do I need to adjust things next time?” Do I recognize that maybe I ate a “bad” for me food but it met a “need”? Then go further and notice “Did my body feel bad or better?” If bad, then probably another choice in handling the “why” for that food choice, would likely be better the next time. If my body felt “good”, then it was probably a congruent choice and what both (body and energy) may have needed as a way to help release something blocked. (Often the deeper aspects of recognition, awareness, and acknowledgement are a catalyst for supporting this part of “letting go” as it can help diminish the amount of “power” the unknown/hidden parts of us had in the situation and we can actually be hanging on.  So an AWARE emotional eating release – i.e. I am choosing to eat this piece of cake and I know it is not the most physically healthy choice, but the sugar in it is going to assist me mentally to work through an emotional issue at this moment and once it is gone/over, I can/will release it – freeing me up to be open to a new or different choice the next time – as I simultaneously recognize I do NOT have to utilize this as a defense mechanism to blindly follow when I become emotional the next time – since I am now more AWARE than I was, about the ego pay-off/reasoning for the choice in the first place)

As always I hope this sparks curiosity and wonder about our body connections and our future connection here on planet Earth. 🌎  Be well…

Peace and love
Shiela

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A Special Tribute – A Soulmate Animal

A Heartfelt Tribute – by Shiela Reed

I would like to share a special tribute to my special dog Bosco on what would have been his 17th birthday today.  As anyone that connects to animals will know, they can hold a deeply impactful place in our hearts.  And while I easily connect to animals and nature in general and enjoy their presence, I have been profoundly impacted by this particular bond/relationship.  So much so, I hope you can also feel what I mean and strength of such a connection.  May it also provide those of you that have had similar experiences, with a bit of comfort in the words and knowing that while we love, cherish, and hold these bonds, it is ok to “let go” and allow for them to be “free” as we know the true love and memories the relationship has held will forever be tucked sweetly in the graciousness of our hearts.

Bosco tribute

{I started his “tribute” before I knew it was going to end so soon

(10-8-18)

My love for you is unmeasurable. You have taught me much about unconditional love and how just a presence can be enough. When I think of you my heart explodes with a feeling so strong that I’m overcome with emotion. It amazes me that a little animal can have this effect on me, but what it is is a true vulnerability I feel safe to allow with your little heart and I just can’t quite seem to reach that space as easily any other time. I guess that is why I consider you my “soulmate dog”.

From day one when I saw you on Pet Finder I just knew you belonged with me and I would be your person to care for you for the rest of your life. When I got to see you in real life, the bond was equally set as you jumped from that tiny crate from a van that traveled from Kansas to St Charles with many other dogs. I waited patiently as others got their dogs until finally it was my turn and then there you were! They said you were “mean”, didn’t like men, but to me it was obvious you just didn’t “trust” and you needed someone with patience and understanding to help you. You must have sensed that too as you immediately became attached to me and is how it has always been from that day forward.

You have been my most stable and consistent part of my life and I am forever grateful. I know I have given you a wonderful life and you are appreciative of it all, yet imagining life without you is a little unbearable.

I have so many stories and forever memories, as we grew and survived some of the worst and best times together. You have heard my cries, seen me tears, felt my pain, and been a solid dependable life for my heart to cling to. We have ended up going many places and being together nonstop when it was just us.

Your love for the drive thru (notably french fries) and a little cappuccino here and there were bonding food moments. There is nothing I wouldn’t share with you or do for you. I love my car rides and you ended up loving them too. You are the best travel buddy and as bonded as we have been, I could take you anywhere and know you would be close by. I’ll never forget taking you to a horse show and how I could let you walk by me without a leash and nothing distracted you from me. ❤ You would sit and watch me play ball and anywhere we were, the world was good as long as you could see me and I you.
You are one of a kind and my heart will forever be connected with yours.

I have so many stories (who wouldn’t after 16 years) –  too many to share but I’ll remember them all within my heart.  I know we are both grateful to Nana Sandy for her equally loving care of you and special times you and she had too over the years.  The lessons of life I’ve learned from our special relationship continues to unfold and I am so grateful for you.  Each day is a gift. I am trying to remember this. Your looks at me were always trying to tell me that, funny how I missed that message far too often… for that I’m sorry, “life” sometimes seems to take over and we easily forget to slow down and enjoy “the little things/times”. But I know we did our best and we have had a wonderful life together.  Yet, I still would wish to have extra time with you.. To pet your head, be near, sit on the couch, hear you snore, and be still. Even when you would pace around and follow me and my crazy chaotic mornings all you wanted by the end of the day was for me to sit on the couch with you and just be close.. and I’m here.. I’ll always be here… And you will always be with me.. for that I am eternally grateful .

So here even at the end (Dec 2018) –I “hear” you. We have had many “talks” and our “agreement” is being met. When you were diagnosed with heart failure at 12 you agreed to stay until after you were 16. You have kept that… not always totally easy, but we kept “checking in” and agreed it was ok to keep going. We also agreed when the time came I would “be with you”. Which is what I did during your last week, until our last goodbye. We also agreed we needed to be at home – and you would go on your own.  That too was met… we remained open to a backup plan of someone coming here to help the transition IF needed, but it wasn’t necessary… we did it and it was just “us” as always… I am here, I will always be here and know part of you will always live in my heart.

Although you are gone, I feel the ways you will remain with me.
Despite the days that pass, I still miss you
I know this heartache… I’ve decided it’s a small price to pay for the pure joy, unconditional love, and life lessons you have given in return.
How blessed I’ve been to know such companionship. Thank you always for picking me to be your person.

Peace to you my Bosco –  my “soulmate dog”.}

Bosco
His watchful eye always upon me.

Thank you for allowing me to “let go” a little more and tuck a bit more of the pain of his loss into the safety of my heart space.

Much love and peace

Shiela

DIGGING UP THE PAST TO KNOW MY ENERGY by Bryan Moss

When I began to learn about energy work I was surprised to find out that in order to really be proficient at it (whether reading my own or others) I needed to be willing to look at my past. The good, the bad, and even the very ugly.

Why?

Well, to spell it out in basic steps:

*We’re born as energetic beings right off the bat! This is our divine right. Feeling and reading energies is a basic skill set, just as speaking is to most. We are born to read energies!

* However, while being raised and taught by others (parents, teachers, caretakers) we’re influenced by THEIR interpretation of life. What THEY learned. What THEY think is best for us as we’re growing up. Good, or not so good, many of these “lessons” were ingrained in our ‘caretakers’ way of life back when THEY were young whipper snappers.

*What happens is, as we grow up, anything taught is either consciously on our minds AND/OR stored in our subconscious, and forgotten about by our conscious minds. Events, emotions not expressed, rules, regulations, all of the “how to’s”….EVERYTHING is stored there. We take the ‘caretakers’ words for granted. Like their ways and means is the law of life, we accept them as the only truths without questioning them.

*When adulthood comes upon us, often we feel conflicted about certain feelings we’re having in regards to relationships and experiences. When a different view, or mind set, is presented to us one can start to feel confused and mixed up. Perhaps “things” just don’t make sense. Yet we feel a pull to honor our teachings because we were raised “that way”. So we immediately dismiss, or negate, anything that “goes against the grain” in spite of our inner promptings which are making us question those very ways.

*It’s well known throughout the health community those buried, unacknowledged emotions can create a host of “problems”. Mental illness, physical symptoms, dysfunctional relationships are a few examples. Along with all of this we’re trying to discern what’s of use to us, or not useful and can be discarded.

I’ll give a couple of examples from my own journey to help illustrate how it’s beneficial to look at past programming instilled in us:

Recently, I recalled being around 4 or 5 and was angry and upset with my mother earlier that day. I decided I was going to run away. So I loaded up my radio flyer red wagon with my favorite toys in my bedroom, rolled it through the living room and out the front door while my mom was gossiping on the phone in the kitchen to one of the next door neighbors. She assumed I was going out front to play. I rolled my red wagon of toys as far as half way down the block, got scared, turned around, and went back home. At this time I don’t remember what I was mad about and that really isn’t important. But what is important is for me to acknowledge I had anger towards my mother even at that age. I was too young to express it constructively and thought I just had to get away from her. So I used the “flight” response in order to cope with my anger. Not knowing how to release the anger it was shoved to the side and forgotten about..buried. So it’s tossed into the “piggy bank of anger” and accumulates interest stored as anger towards not only my mother, but, unintentionally, can affect my views towards women in general. This can certainly create the perfect set up for a dysfunctional relationship with any future partner down the road. It’s impossible to discern specific anger issues in another until I’ve become familiar with feeling my own anger.

Another example is how it was ingrained in me that whatever problem or question I had, I needed to look outside of me for answers. Rather than figure it out myself, or even suggested to me that many answers are already within, I was taught to go to an “expert”. They would know better than me–about me. Externalization is promoted in collective society. Being taught to look to others for answers indirectly disempowers ones own innate, God given right to look within. Religion is a great example of this. One has to go through a middle man (clergy, priest, minister, rabbi..) in order to learn and communicate with God (higher power). Often it’s not encouraged for one to go about their spiritual journey without the approval of others. As mentioned in the previous example, it’s all of the programming and trained responses drilled into us, so much so, we begin taking on a false identity to appease others to make them happy. Before you know it you’ve become a person that the “real you”, your True Self, doesn’t really know but patiently puts up with knowing that the time will eventually come when you realize most everything you thought was the law of the land is, at best, all backwards and full of bullocks. Programmed to follow along with the collective herd, you never took the time to discover those “rules and ways” yourself, thus, never getting to know the essence of YOU, your inherited True Self. The Self that is already complete with the peace, love and any of the bells and whistles you may need. You start to figure out the journey isn’t about learning and accumulating more paradigms. It’s about getting rid of all of that and getting back to the basics you were born with…your True Self.

Re-experiencing (meaning NOT conceptualizing but FEELING it out) and accepting the fact those events happened to me allows the experience to go through me instead of hanging on to it by hiding it in the corners of my mind and trying to put it out of my memory. You see? By ignoring those feelings I was throwing gasoline onto those simmering embers where the inevitable spontaneous combustion was, and is, bound to happen ( as suggested above in the various forms of illnesses and dysfunctional behaviors). Over time, I’ve been willing to “let my guard down” and feel into the uncomfortable memories/ experiences in my past. I found that stripping away all of the conditioned and programmed B.S. actually allows me to feel more and ACCEPT what happened to me, not ignore it. Thus enabling me to get to know my self, True Self, better. Is this easy to do? NO. My critical inner voice, or ego (as other energy workers refer to it), kicks, screams, and throws temper tantrums because it’s sole purpose is to feel safe and survive at any cost, including preventing me from feeling and experiencing life fully with my Heart, the doorway to understanding my own energies.

I hope my examples may provide you with a clearer idea why we all should be willing to look into our past. Not to remind ourselves what injustices may of happened, but as a learning tool of accepting those experiences and enabling us to know ourselves (energies) a little bit better as we move forward on our own Heart felt journeys. It’s in the understanding of the lessons from our past, we can let go and grow. Grow into the expansive energy field of compassion and empathy for Self and others.

Digging up the past to utilize as a lesson, and NOT to dwell on it and cave into self shame, guilt, anger, (nor the popular mental gymnastics “could ofs, would ofs, should ofs”) is actually a very powerful energy modality for one’s growth.

Excuse me while I go to the hardware store and purchase a big snow shovel.

GETTING PAST THE JIBBER JABBER by Bryan Moss

What do I mean by getting past the jibber jabber? You know, the brain noise. The, what seems like to be, 5 zillion voices demanding dominance inside our 3D skulls. The voice of reason..whatever THAT is. The ‘critical inner voice’ (which was the topic of the previous blog about the critical inner voice), the self pronounced decision maker. The self-acclaimed ruler with enough voices to drive a ventriloquist mad. I know I’ve been, and still am from time to time, the puppet to my Ego’s** ventriloquist act.

**Definition of Ego in this blog:——-> Ego = ALL voices inside of your thinking Head/Mind, brain noise, jibber jabber, the countless decisions, the countless answers, the even more countless unanswered questions, the second guessing, the judge, the executioner…get the picture?

What to do when presented with multiple options to mull over, or the opposite happens, a decision has to be made that instant? I’ve found that both may be resolved with the same simple solution. Now it doesn’t get rid of the brain noise. Actually part of this solution is ALLOWING the Ego’s jibber jabber talk away. It’s going to anyway. Please take my word for it. Use my blood, sweat and tears of years of trying to eradicate the Ego. Myself, and others, have come to a realization the mind doesn’t need to have a solution to anything. I could write a long 1000 word article on this but I can’t stand long winded ‘anythings’ when explanations can be short and sweet.

How to get past the jibber jabber?

The secret is under your nose. It’s your Heart. Your Heart’s brain. Others describe it as a ‘hunch’, ‘gut feeling’, ‘instinct’, ‘a knowing’…you know what I mean. It’s that first, initial nano-second of a thought the appears right before the brain noise invades. I try to use my Heart’s FEELINGS to make my choices. That gut feeling…does it feel like the right thing to do? Or, in spite of a mountain of evidence supporting it, does it FEEL funny? Funny as in….I should walk away from it? Or do nothing and be still and sit with it?

Yes. It’s scientifically proven the Heart has a brain of it’s own, separate from the cranial’s brain. There are cells in the Heart that can communicate to everything within the body on it’s own. Unlike the thinking brain upstairs, the Heart’s brain can discern decisions more accurately through feeling from our innate, born given, divinity of Love. Don’t get me wrong. This takes practice. Practice to stop the knee jerk reactions programmed into us. Practice to allow yourself to fail and learn through trial and error by listening to your Heart. Practice to place your trust in your Heart, not in the ‘rational’ thinking in your head. Though simple and effective, it means to practice, practice, and more practice in going with your Heart. The brain noise is going to try to out fox you, put doubt in you, give you every reason to listen to it. The trick is NOT to ignore it. Let it rant and rave. I know when I finally accepted the fact that the Ego is hard wired in me and just as much a part of me as my left arm, I accepted it and let it blah, blah, blah on and on. I envision ‘little Bryan’/Ego sitting in a corner, like a classroom in my mind just whining away. Over time, as I practice going with my Heart, the Ego’s noise is more in the background and not as annoying.

The truest answers are the simplest. What’s sad is that it’s the simple answers no one is willing to believe and try. We’re all programmed  to make everything difficult with lots of steps and rituals. We feel like we’re not worthy unless we go through a ‘test’ to prove our worthiness for any answers.

Keep it simple.

Go past the jibber jabber. End the insanity and dare to go a different path. Decide from your Heart. There’s a saying I go to all the time, “Simplicity is the highest form of art”. The Heart is my art on that canvas. I try to keep the lines simple. I suggest you do the same. It can help you get past the jibber jabber.

Technology and Judgement

by Shiela Reed

While the advancement of our technological world has great benefits, it is also extremely important to remember the need to connect within and truly know your inner self.
We can utilize technology in very positive ways but it can also hijack our energy systems if we are not careful.
Here are some examples that just pop into my head- people have cameras and ways to watch EVERYONE these days, so while it is great for “catching” and seeing people in terrible acts, it can also feed the judgement machine and create an atmosphere void of the ability to show compassion or even forgive. It can push down the energy of someone else. And while we may “feel justified” based on our own moral compass, we might consider using caution about how far we go.
Today let’s say your minding your own business walking in your neighborhood and people have cameras up. You don’t really know or notice it think about it, but as you walk you have a wedgie (you know, underwear stuck uncomfortably in the wrong spot) and you go to digging to get it loose. And go on about your walk. A week or so goes by and some tags you on social media as a video is circulating making fun of what you did because you were “caught” on someone’s camera!
So what is “fair” here? The technology wins and you are just a “spectacle” for everyone’s amusement? Some will claim you are too sensitive.. (this may even add to why people become so “paranoid”).. these are things that can just go too far and instead of the human race showing compassion (hey I bet we have all picked the underwear out of our butt at some point) – is THIS what we are about now? Jumping to conclusions, making our own stories up about others? Putting people down or making fun when we have our own imperfections?… of course things can be funny and amusing. But remember, it’s better to be laughed WITH than AT…
One could stick with the argument that people have gotten “too sensitive” and while there is absolutely truth to the fact that many of us get really good and comfortable playing “the victim” and don’t look within either- instead we project and judge in those situations too and “blame others” for “picking on us”..

I guess what I keep noticing and what keeps getting brought back to my attention and what I was led to share is that without a healthy true inner compass connected to your true you and the divine creator of life, we’re just a bunch of ego heads running around banging into each other. Feeling “justified”, self righteous, judgey, and disconnected …
Remember too, we cannot truly whole heartedly connect with others if we are not first connected to our real self in divine light and love. I get that it sounds woowoo, but I bet you know that feeling point I’m referencing.
So in this world of growing technology, stop and think.. I know it doesn’t lend itself to that because everything is moving so fast and then our systems try to keep up, so we think we should also be moving faster. But this is why we end up exhausted and depleted and “crash” energetically = Physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and/or etherically.
It’s not to “bash” technology – our own awareness and choices about it is what makes it turn out as a “good” thing for us or not. I’ll leave you with what I find to be a cool example, at least in my mind. 😊
When I am centered and aligned within, and need an “answer” or some guidance on a topic, I take a moment to focus in on being open to what I “need” – what is “best” according to my true self – and I do not focus in on judging whatever comes forward. I then may look something up on the internet and “happen” to find exactly what I am “needing” at the moment. (And I can just “feel” that it is “true” to me)
It may be looking for a new doctor, it may be looking for a certain crystal, or oil.. I just try to remain “open” and this is when technology has helped me a great deal.
It really is a big topic and I’m sure one that has layers upon layers of “debate” and discussion. But at the core, at least how it comes forward to me, is that it boils down to our own connection first and then our CHOICE.
Where is your heart aligned?

Deep thoughts and heartfelt guidance sent your way..
Shiela

Accomplished: a personal share for 2019

Sharing some accomplishments- a summary from 2018 that carries into 2019 – by Shiela Reed
You know, there are just times when it’s really important to state out loud how proud we are of ourselves. And I’m going to make that moment now and share it with anyone that is interested.
It is not a boastful pride. Instead it is deeply reflective and very much a summary of many things that have added up to this moment. Including a LOT of personal sessions as recent as this week (written March 30th 2019) that have truly helped me through another “rough spot”.
But today as I received another certificate of accomplishment and smiled from ear to ear thinking about what it took to get this this year, I felt my heart beam with the kind of pride only born of a true heartfelt deep self love and a respect for the deeper processes that have been at work within my life the last many years of this lifes journey.
Today I am also humbled and filled with gratitude for the connection I have been able to continue to foster and grow along with and between my inner self and divine creator. It truly amazes me… ❤
I received an official certificate of completion of the 100 hr QiFit Instructor program from the medical Qi Gong program at Zen Wellness. 🧘‍♀️
As some may know, this year I have decided it’s time for me to pull together what I’ve been working on and start my own Energy guidance business. This is so I can share with others the things I have been learning and offer assistance to others in my own unique way.
As I’m working on that, this was a beautiful reminder to reflect on WHAT I have recently accomplished and WHY I started doing it all in the first place.
I recall being both nervous and excited in May 2018 when I completed certification as a Level I and II Energy Coach through transCODES with a Mastery certificate in GRACE Integrity. It took around 2 years AFTER several years of other individual year long programs. 🙏🧘‍♀️❤
Then in December 2018 I finally tested and officially earned my License in Social Work! 🤓 And Iiterally cried!
In all I am realizing that 2018 was a hell of a summary of MANY things I had been working on and can now see why I’m being led to focus this year on putting it all together in a form that expresses this all from my heart. 💖
So as I both excitedly AND humbly started to reflect on all that I have been doing, I cannot help but feel very proud of the fact that I have COMPLETED things I started and felt were so important for me personally as well as discovered how my heart has felt it will be important to share with others within and through my new endeavor. ❤
I truly hope you keep an eye out for the services I will be offering in case they are things you or someone you know might find interesting. 🌹
I am so grateful for the multiple layers of support in my life and appreciate you for reading to the end. Thank you for taking the time and sharing in my joy. 😊🙏
Peace, Love, and Blessings
Shiela