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Please have a safe and healthy New Year!

 

SAY YES TO YOURSELF by Bryan Moss

I’ve noticed many people on the spiritual path don’t have an issue when it comes to helping others in need, it’s when asked if they’ve accepted and love themselves they tend to give some interesting reactions.
The most common reaction is one of being slightly annoyed, responding with an empty, “Of course I accept and love myself.”
Some people are caught off guard with that question because they never even thought about the subject.
Then some people look at you with, “What do you mean?

THE TRUTH IS many on the spiritual journey aren’t used to accepting and giving themselves love. Don’t get me wrong, most have noble intentions and mean well. However, they’re always projecting love out to others first. Like being on auto-pilot. They believe that their sole duty is to serve others, putting themselves on the back burner.

I know I’m going to catch a lot of flack for what I’m going to say next, but these are my true feelings and I wouldn’t be true to my soul if I sugar-coated what I believe just to make readers happy.

In my opinion “sacrifice” is a dirty nine-letter word. I think sacrificing oneself is the ego’s way of making someone feel like they’re special. On a “special mission” to save mankind. To be a “holy hero” among fellow souls. I’ve touched on this in different ways in my previous writings. Putting yourself on the back burner shows you don’t really care about your own well being. Think about it. What difference can you make for others when you don’t care enough to tend to your own needs? What good are you? If you don’t care of your own business first how are you going to be able to give the full, proper attention to anyone else? And I mean taking care of yourself on all levels. Emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually. Getting enough rest, enough water intake, proper nutrition, exercising on a regular basis, having a regular meditation routine, the list goes on.

Self -Love is NOT about loving yourself, it’s about learning the truth about yourself. Read that line again and let it really sink in. Self-Love is NOT about loving yourself, it’s about LEARNING THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF. And ONLY then, when you begin to learn the truth about yourself, can you begin to accept, forgive, and then love yourself FIRST. Only then can you move on and compassionately give that acceptance, forgiveness, and love to others.

It’s no big secret that you can’t accept another person’s faults until you’ve accepted similar faults within your own self. The energetic rule of thumb is, if someone is doing something that makes you angry, or hurt, or even slightly irritated, then you most likely have those same qualities in you that are unresolved. We’re all mirrors of one another. Our egos don’t want us to acknowledge this but it’s true.

The same applies to forgiveness. Have you ever been told by someone they forgive you and it seems ‘robot-like’? It’s just because ‘they’re spiritual’ and this makes them bigger than you because, after all, that’s what spiritual people do is forgive? Start taking an honest look at yourself. Notice any shame or guilt you kept stored inside you for months or most likely YEARS. The stuff you can’t seem to look at again. But do it with a soft eye and remember at that time you handled the experience the best you could. Even if you knew at the time it was a stupid mistake, then acknowledge you made a stupid choice. This is when you begin to take true responsibility for yourself. Forgive yourself for any harm you did at the time, whether it was to yourself or others. Only then can you unconditionally start forgiving others and grow during your journey.
Accepting the truth about yourself is the only way you can even begin to accept the truth about others. It’s not even about two sides of the coin, coming from Yourself vs. Them. The truth is people life is a one-sided coin. We all deal with the same experiences in different shapes and forms. The sooner you wake up to that fact the sooner you’ll begin to eliminate frustration and victimhood from your path.

Here’s another line I’ll probably get grief over: You’re wasting your time giving to others until you unconditionally give to yourself. Everything I’ve previously said applies to this fact. Be vigilant in rediscovering all of the corners in your shadow’s closet. But do it without judging yourself. Acknowledge it and move on. You don’t need permission from anyone to liberate those hidden emotions within. Let me put it this way…..you’re eventually going to do it anyway. Whether it’s now from your own honest efforts or on your death bed. Most people, out of fear, wait until circumstances appear that have them contemplating all of this for months, weeks, days, and at times..moments before they know they’re going to die. It’s only then they realize all of those ‘hidden truths’ were not that important to keep hidden. It’s only then they realize all of the wasted effort and energy it took for them NOT to be truthful with themselves. All of that effort and energy….which could’ve been utilized in more supportive and productive ways, for themselves, and then for others.

DON’T WAIT. Don’t procrastinate in taking a look at the truth of yourself. The number one dreaded enemy of procrastination is “the sooner the easier”.
Say “YES” to discovering all of the truth about yourself.
Why wait?

“Come To The Cliff” by Bryan Moss

In the late 1990s, I came across a poem shared by a metaphysician and philosopher Stuart Wilde. It spoke volumes to me and on one of my cross country visits I read it to my dad. Sometime later, in the early 2000’s, he called asking me to send him a copy of the poem.

Fast forward to December 2017, I was visiting dad. At the time dad was using the wheelchair on a regular basis. One evening, after dinner, he inquired about that poem again. I asked him why that poem made such an impression on him. He thought it illustrated one’s undying faith in our Creator.

I recently returned from my father’s funeral services. The minister asked that his family members submit their reflections of our father in writing, to insert into the service program and those attending could read them. At the conclusion of what I wrote, I included the following poem. As far as I know, the author is unknown.

I’d love to share that poem with you.

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COME TO THE CLIFF

“Come to the cliff,” he said.

They said, “But we’re afraid.”

“Come to the cliff,” he said.

They came.

He pushed them.

And they flew.

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BE YOUR OWN JOURNEY by Bryan Moss

Be your own journey. What do I mean by that?

**Don’t make “searching out there” for answers your priority. There’s a difference between educating yourself and constantly seeking. Rely more on your intuition, gut, inner guidance, hunches, (all of which is basically coming from your Heart) because all of that is coming from within yourself. Think about it. Who knows YOU better than YOU? A textbook? A Guru? A priest? I don’t think so. All of those can be good guideposts, or suggestions, to help you on your journey. But who REALLY knows you? An honest look will reveal…….. it’s yourself.

**Don’t compare your journey to others. You can have 100 people be of the same religion, attend the same church, all go to that place of worship at the same time of the week, and have the same belief systems and….so what? Each individual is on their own journey. Each is unique in how they go about their own quest. 100 people may sing the same song, recite the same prayer together, and listen to the church practitioner together, attend the exact same service/ritual, but the only one quality they will have in common is….they WON’T have the same spiritual journey.
After all, this is not a race to see who gets “there” before the other, or who “gets it” first. Us humanoids are so conditioned, early in life, to compare ourselves to others that we don’t realize it. It becomes second nature fast. Look at nature. Do you think if you planted an evergreen tree next to an oak tree the trees are going to care who grows the tallest? Comparing your “progress” (I hate that term) to another’s is a waste of energy. Be comfortable in your own skin. “Know” wherever you’re at in the present is exactly where you need to be for your own journey. All paths/journeys lead to the same source.

**Be your own expert. How? Duh? Get to know yourself. Be relentless to find the true you. Be honest with yourself at all costs. This loops back to my first point. No one really knows you better than You. If your health isn’t the greatest and you’re tired of going to doctors with little, if no results, start educating yourself on your condition. Don’t be afraid to be your own lab rat and experiment on yourself. Don’t be afraid to look outside of the box.
You find that you’re curious about which belief system to adopt? Explore all belief systems and choose the one that resonates. Better yet, do the unthinkable…create your own belief system. Who says you can’t? Do what works for you, not what works for others.

**Don’t sit around expecting answers to come to you. You have to go to the answers. In other words, don’t procrastinate. Be active. Sure, there’s a time for being still and reflecting. There’s a time for meditating. And just as importantly, there’s always time to actually DO something. I heard a saying years ago, “God (Universe..Source..insert whatever you call that) helps those that help themselves”.
In other words, take responsibility for yourself and don’t give it away to other people. That’s a dead-end street. Listen to your Heart, not the rational mind of the crowd. Eventually, be your own expert. Refer to an earlier post I wrote, “YOUR HEART’S BRAIN”, for more on this particular point.

Take the above steps and eliminate years of frustration. Trust me. I wish I did. I think of all of the energy I spent towards externalizing my efforts when I should’ve been putting all of that energy towards responsibility for my own being. Don’t expect “experts” to have all of the answers if any at all when it comes to your-SELF. Don’t misunderstand me. There are some wonderful GUIDElines out there but FEEL them out first. USE WHAT’S USEFUL FOR YOU AND THROW OUT THE REST.

Take the one and only proven true path…Be YOUR OWN Journey. The tickets are cheaper and you won’t have to put up with smaller airline seats. (wink)

OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE: THE SEQUEL by Bryan Moss

Before you set eyes on this blog you may want to check out my previous blogs where the first blog I wrote, when creating Your Heart’s Wisdom, is titled OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE. It’s not really necessary but it definitely touches on aspects concerning that little dominant voice in our head that can really play games, screw us up, and make us believe it’s for our best intentions…WHEN IT’S NOT.
I get an inquiry, once in a while, in regards to the critical inner voice and how to handle it. Apparently, after reading OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE a few readers started to take notice and realized that little voice in their head wasn’t the “real” them/ or “you”.

This particular chapter, or sequel if you will, of OUR CRITICAL INNER VOICE, is about IDEALIZATIONS. Our C.I.V. (critical inner voice), or Ego, or mind, or (insert name) loves for us to think we have to live up to certain rules, or regulations, or morals, or standards in order to be the “ideal” student, or human, or soul. We exhaust our energy trying to live up to an established image which, in reality, is impossible to achieve. These idealizations, most likely, were programmed in us at an early age through life’s experiences. Of course, those experiences arose from a multitude of sources. Parents, school teachers, religious influences, and peers are all possible contributors. Not to mention from outside agencies such as social media, news, or good old Hollywood by-products (television, movies, commercials, youtube, etc.). “Set Standards” to live up too. Let me give you a personal example.

If you’ve read my brief bio you know I was raised by a minister. I had all sorts of dogma programmed into me. Certain “ideals” to live by. Anything Bible-related, of course. Then there was the social expectations of being a preacher’s son. These expectations had me thinking I had to be a step ahead of others. In a weird way, those expectations had me being a rebel in many ways. I guess one could say I was a “closet rebel”. Haha! I kept to myself conflicting thoughts and feelings pertaining to how I was “suppose to be”. I was slowly going against the “norm”. Very confusing times consisting of pain, anger, sadness, and nobody to share my thoughts with.
ONE OF THOSE IDEALS: we are all supposed to have perfect, loving relationships with all family members. The 1960s LEAVE IT TO BEAVER television series kind of family relations. Ward and June were the gentle and understanding parents with their sons Wally and Theodore, nicknamed Beaver. Whatever conflicts the family had everyone lived happily ever after in a lovey-dovey respectful manner. All family members went to bed every night with smiles on their faces. I grew up thinking all family members had each other’s back.
Flash forward to my high school years and my mother wasn’t such a nice person towards me. She had mood swings, with me not knowing when she was going to lash out at me. Most of the time it was over the most ridiculous things. I couldn’t wait to leave the house, and the moment I had a chance to get a scholarship in college I went for it, got it, and got the hell out of there. I was hurt and damaged goods with very low self-esteem. I was Mr. Victim personified!

What saved my butt was that “closet rebel” within myself. I became a seeker of sorts. No longer under the religious dogma of my parents, I looked into a variety of religions, philosophies, hobbies, you name it. My brother called me the black sheep of the family.
You can only imagine when my family found out I was learning how to walk on fire in my late 20’s. Judgments definitely came out at me big time. In their minds, I was definitely playing with dark influences, or even “the devil”. Whenever I shared I was enrolling in any type of mind expansion course, or alternate spiritual teachings, I was considered “misguided”. Whenever I came home to visit my mother made sure I received a fair dose of guilt and doubt in whatever I was pursuing. All along I was hurt that I wasn’t living up to my mother’s expectations of me. I was supposed to get married and have her grandchildren by the time I was 30. Sorry, mom (not really).
I frowned upon seeking had me learning there was a difference between “love” and “like”. I eventually came to terms that, though I loved my mom because she was my mom, I didn’t like her as a person. Now that really messed with my ideal mom/son relationship. I learned that even though you loved a family member it was perfectly okay NOT to like the person they were.
In my early 30’s my mother called me up one Saturday morning.

“Son, I have something I need to tell you.”
“Okay, mom.”
She informed me, “I just kicked a 15-year addiction to valium.”

BOOM!
I did the math. That meant she started to take valium when I was 16 years old. Now those mood swings and bouts of irrational anger, all of a sudden, made sense. No wonder I didn’t have it a LEAVE IT TO BEAVER upbringing. After mom shared about her addiction I slowly was able to forgive all of those irrational experiences I had with her. It wasn’t easy, and it took a number of years to release those memories of anguish but I was able to eventually forgive her.

Years later I was able to recontextualize those events, and the actions of my mom, with compassion. If my mom knew better she would’ve done better. But at that time of her life her only “out”, or way to cope with whatever she was dealing with, was to resort to valium to “calm her down”, or to put it in energetic terms, to “numb” her from dealing with her life in a more supportive way. Being a registered nurse, those were the tools available for her to use. If you have a problem, get medicated to take care of it. That was her way of thinking. Under the influence of that drug, she was raising me the best way she knew how too. In my 30’s, I gradually learned how to like my mom as a person, but it did take a while.

Idealizations can really mess you up. If I wasn’t programmed into thinking families have to be picture-perfect, but instead raised with the teachings of members being allowed to express themselves according to their own heart’s desire, I might’ve been spared a lot of painful growing experiences.

Not to say there isn’t a lot to be said about basic morals, but all of collective society’s IDEALS are purely based on what they were taught when they grew up…and then living their lives thinking those are the laws of the lands and imposing them, at times with various types of force. Whether that force is shame, guilt, fear, or punishment of any kind. “Prisoners” of their own ideals (constructs) teaching/raising others to become “prisoners” and all along believing they are free and teaching love.

THE KICKER: The CRITICAL INNER VOICE LOVES IDEALIZATIONS. Ideals are safe. They’re predictable. The mind loves “knowing” what’s next. Ideals serve as road maps to how we should behave. Ideals are already planned out preconceived lives for us. Does the term “robot” ring a bell? They have nothing to do with living from the Heart. The thinking mind can’t imagine living without ideals/constructs. Anything out of that “box” induces fear. And we’re already taught how fear is to be avoided and NOT experienced (which is another falsehood). We’re not raised to even conceive that the Heart has its own brain. To feel from the Heart, make decisions from the Heart, and not our C.I.V.. (Refer to a previous blog THE HEART’S BRAIN to learn about our second and REAL brain).

Be careful beautiful souls. Idealizations are not our friends. If anything, do the opposite of any ideals. If the crowd is moving towards the right, quietly walk to the left. The crowd, out of fear, will say you’ll be lonely. Gently give them a smile, knowing that looking within your Heart there’s a whole loving world that welcomes you, thus, you can never be alone. Keep walking towards the left.
Lose the idealizations…..then you’ll be on the path to FREEDOM.

Knowing Someone… What to Consider

Knowing someone… what to consider.

By Shiela Reed

It’s funny how we can think we know someone through social media..or simple encounters and forget these “reflections” are just glimpses of a whole. These partial aspect of a person, come forward for many reasons and it can be easy to “judge” or “perceive” as if we know them.

I imagine this is often how celebrities must feel, as they put forth a part of them or a projection but have many more components that are missed by those that don’t “know them” deeply or personally.
We all do this, we all even share and project without thinking why we are even doing it. Sometimes we are left wondering why we received certain “reactions” – without realizing we may have kind of “invited it”. Yet we hope for and usually are wishing for something else.

Our depth of mindfulness helps us gain some navigation skills in these areas and I always find it interesting how I (we) can fluctuate so much from day to day.
This is the part that has my most attention and awareness these days as the true effort (in my “world” anyway) is being able to learn how to stay closer to the “center”. It is and can be a daily challenge. We are human beings after all.. with free will. We do not all choose the same. We do not see things the same. Yet the many underlying similarities are very much the same. Call them “innate needs” maybe but it goes deeper than that. A deeper desire for compassion, love, and understanding. The other layers of emotions block us from seeing THOSE similarities. Fear, guilt, shame, hate.. take us in the opposite direction and it becomes hard to “see” our own truth.

So we project, we reach out in awkward ways. We assume we know others when we don’t. Others assume they know us, when they don’t. We can easily feel struggles of the insecurities and loneliness this brings and if we succumb to that or become stuck on that loop… the despair, depression, hopelessness, and anxiety that we have “lost control” takes over.

It is my hope that we all are given the Grace and find the opportunities to be REAL people with one another. Minus our judgements and freeing us up to be ok with choosing who is “good for us” (and wanted in our lives) and who is not. While also remembering it is absolutely OK when someone else chooses that we are not for them. It means nothing more than that we are not a good match. Or maybe even not a good match “anymore”. It is OK.

It’s a bit ironic maybe that we also need to learn to do this for ourselves as well. Letting go of habits, routines, thought patterns, etc that no longer serve our higher good, can be just as tough, but equally necessary for our growth.
I guess I share this as a long version of my own thought process and feeling into my emotions utilizing Facebook as one of my main social media platforms. I both enjoy it and dislike it. I have learned I have to be VERY aware of the technological manipulation that surrounds us and how easy it is to “get played”. I’m actually a rather private person. While I will “share” things, I am very conscious of the fact that it is “out there” and can never be taken back. I do not want to “fear” it, but it is a reality. I also know that when I am feeling that place of loneliness and disconnectedness – this (i.e. social media- Facebook) can be both a place of huge support or a driver of further sadness and loneliness. So, yes it can be hard to “choose” how I will “react” – and it is much more so when I don’t know why I am even trying to “know” someone else when I don’t know where I am at for that moment.

I’m kind of laughing right now as I think of the many ways I’ve wanted to “lash out” on Facebook when I am feeling no responses or unsupported. I’ve thought about closing it out completely, I’ve thought I’d do a “lecture” to my “friends” – I’ve thought I’d silently just let it go and delete everyone and start over with individual friend requests. Lol Then I realize it’s silly to have spent that time on something that isn’t even vital to my daily life. Yet I acknowledge my enjoyment on being “in touch” with as many people out there as possible because there is no other platform to do so in such magnitude.

So, I am reminded to “take it all with a grain of salt” – enjoy the parts that like, remember I only know the aspects of people as they show me and they only know me for what I choose to show them. Beyond that, the closest parts of my life are within me and those I choose to physically, emotionally and energetically surround myself with… and the same is true for each of  you.  🙂

Many blessings and open awareness to all – Shiela 🙂

Thinklessness / Think-less-ness by Bryan Moss

Such a long word for such a split second, moment to moment process. All of us on auto pilot using our thinking caps. We’re always either looking ahead and anticipating what the future holds, or looking back and holding onto past experiences/memories with fondness or regrets. All of us raised and conditioned to believe that in order to resolve any situation we have to think our way out of it. We think in order to control the outcome. We think so we can out fox our creator.
Yet we never consider the consequences of being unknowingly programmed by parents, teachers and “authority figures”, to be the chess masters of our lives. Do we ever consider the stress we put ourselves through by doing this? The fears, the worries, the pressures, and the anxieties we’re constantly trying to control and minimize? Then there’s the “diagnosed” physical and mental symptoms all of this thinking can contribute to, if not flat out create. We’d like to think everything is being “done” to us. Outside circumstances are being thrown at us. Skin disorders, depression, heart attacks, high blood pressure, suicide…the list is endless.
So let me ask you and me. Is it worth it? All of this thinking? I suggest that perhaps we all need to practice the art of thinking less. We humanoids are so arrogant to believe we can think our way through life and control our outcomes so we can live happily ever after. What if it’s the other way around? What if we didn’t try to anticipate? What if we didn’t hang on to our past experiences? What if we didn’t compare the past to the present? NOT thinking would eliminate all of that.
I’ve been testing this simple exercise to stop the thinking……paying 100% attention to the present moment. As I’m currently writing the first draft of this blog, pressing ink pen to paper, I notice the formation of inked letters across the paper’s lines. I’m feeling the pressure my thumb and first two fingers use to hold the pen. I feel the slight breeze as I sit outside. Am I anticipating any future actions? No. Am I rethinking any, what’s already occurred, past experiences, misfortunes, love lives? No. Am I creating anxiety, fear, and any sort of physical discomfort? No. I’m being present and paying 100% attention to what I’m doing right now. I’m not thinking of what to write next. The words are simply flowing. I’m writing this very blog by thinking less from split second to split second. Moment to moment. Unintentionally being present.
Less thinking. Think-less-ness. Such a long  word for a split second of presence. This will give you something to think about.

“It’s All The Same Stuff.” by Bryan Moss

WARNING: The blog/article you are about to read is very up front and direct. If this makes you upset in any way, shape or form then that means, in the grand scheme of things, this is for YOU. This blog is my view point only and not anyone else’s associated with this site.
“IT’S ALL THE SAME STUFF.” This is a comment I read from time to time. “It’s all the same stuff. I’ve read similar things here before.” Those are comments from a few readers who return to see what new blog has appeared on this website. Comments like that make me chuckle. And I’ll tell you why.
Of course it’s all going to read the same. THEY ARE! The messages are the same. The lessons are the same. The “insights” are the same. The themes are the same. Now why is that, do you suppose?
Are you’re ready? Here’s the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth…..
ONLY A FEW practice any of the principles we write about. THEY DON’T TAKE ANY ACTION AND APPLY THEM TO 3D REALITY!!! And because of this everyone is busy seeking the ‘magic cure’, so they can be ‘fixed’. THEY DON’T WANT TO DO IT THEMSELVES!!!
They don’t take the 10 to 20 minutes a day to meditate on a regular basis.
They have a constant chatter (critical inner voice) in their heads but don’t want to do the disciplines to quiet it, LET ALONE ACCEPT THEY HAVE ONE.
They’re not willing to look, and accept, their shadows.
They’re always shopping for the latest books, weekend workshops, and methods to provide the answers for them.
They’re not willing to take the disciplines to tend to their 3D bodies.
They’re not willing to take responsibility for what they created in their present circumstances.
I was the same way years ago. I would read something on..say..”coming from the heart”. I would ‘conceptually understand’ how coming from my heart means ‘feeling’ from my heart, as opposed to thinking of the emotion with my brain. And there lies the rub. I conceptually understood what ‘love’ or ‘compassion’ or ‘anger’ meant by “remembering” when I was in love, or had compassion toward another, or when I was truly angry at a situation.
“THINKING” = “REMEMBERING” = “EGO”. (These terms have nothing to do with the Heart.)
But I didn’t RE-FEEL it. I didn’t allow myself to do that because of the fear of experiencing being VULNERABLE again. I thought ‘re-thinking’ the experience of being sad was enough to get it out of my system and move on.
WRONG.
All I was doing was burying it deeper into the rabbit hole. Thinking about a feeling is another form of denial. I was using my ego (thinking brain) to handle my feelings, which can’t be done. I had to re-feel the experience and past feelings. Feelings come from the Heart. Emotions come from the brain. There’s a HUGE difference.
Why is this so hard to comprehend? Because the ego has it’s limits. The Heart is limitless and the only way to access the Heart’s limitless boundaries is through feelings.
There’s a stage in one’s life when you’re brought up to think it’s weak to show your vulnerability. That’s the ego speaking. The ego has you thinking you have to keep finding more answers to figure out life. All of that brain noise is nothing but a distraction to keep you from feeling from your Heart.
A previous blog I wrote called “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS” touches on this aspect. To show and feel your feelings isn’t weak. That’s backwards. Being vulnerable is strength personified.
That’s another component of the one million dollar answer to spiritual growth….VULNERABILITY. It’s one of the other keys to your Heart. And in order to feel you have to be vulnerable. It’s a strength. As I mentioned in that earlier blog of mine, “IT’S ALL BACKWARDS”, collective society has it all backwards.
So…… are many of the blogs/articles we share and write essentially the same? Hell yes they are!!
It’s because too many “new agers” or “spiritual types” are TOO LAZY to put anything into 3D reality. They’re too busy EXTERNALIZING everything from looking for their ‘start seeds’ to praying to a statue hanging on a wall. No one wants to take the time and practice to look within themselves. It’s too painful and confronting for them. They’d rather try to find the prancing and dancing unicorn at the the end of the rainbow that whispers sweet ‘profound’ nothings in their ears.
As one of my mentors would hammer into me, “In order to heal, you have to FEEL”.
Is it an easy journey, the spiritual life? NO. It’s not meant to be. If it was, everyone would take it for granted. This is what ‘being present’ is all about. This is what ‘self love’ is all about. This is what ‘do unto others’ is all about. I’m sorry to break the bad news to you, but if you were harmed in any way, shape, or form you need to acknowledge and RE-FEEL the experience again to get it out of your system…and then reframe it so you can forgive the perpetrators, and/or yourself, for the experience that happened. Simply understanding the past just won’t cut it. (A hint, free of charge…. applying, “If they/I knew better, they/I would’ve done better”… to those that did harm to you….or better yet–what you did to others, will help you reconcile your victimhood/deeds).
So if you find yourself whining because this site and others seem to be writing the same stuff over and over, maybe it’s because you expect us, and others, to give you the “keys” to enlightenment, when in fact, we can only point the way.
And guess where my finger is pointing right now?…..AT YOU….at your chest…your Heart. Your True Self.
Don’t look at us.
Look to yourself. ALL the answers are inside YOU!
WAKE UP!!!!
Consider this a public service announcement from your own Heart.

Food and Eating – the Connection to Choices

Food and Eating – the Connection to Choices

by Shiela Reed

This topic comes around off and on for me every once in a while but this year I have noticed myself having a whole new level of inner dialogue about it.  I’ve always had some points of personal awareness regarding food and eating and I haven’t had a life long struggle – but I have for sure had my moments and found myself learning something new about myself and my relationship with food.

I have ALWAYS loved food and to loved to eat it!  I have been an athlete, active, and probably have a decent “genetic make up” that would be considered mostly healthy – so in reality, I can’t complain much.  Instead – what I notice more and more is the INNER connection to food and “pings” I get with the thought of it, the types of it, the purposes of it, and all aspects of it – (for example, I don’t enjoy cooking, I enjoy eating, I see a social opportunity, I see connections to my inner being – both my heart moments AND I now also recognize the ego moments/payoffs).  So this year, as I personally have been feeling a need for expanding beyond this “basic” understanding and “need” – not just because I am hitting a mid-life point, haha, but also because I have recognized that there is a bit of a common “theme” going on in general for many folks.

So now appears to be a pivotal time to be paying attention to your body and it’s “true needs”. While that is widely individualized, one thing I have noticed for myself starting to come in this year is regarding the need to limit and maybe even begin to eliminate eating meats.
The whole topic of food for me has been a life long “thing” but not necessarily because I “struggled with my weight”. I really haven’t had that too bad. Yes there have been points here and there that got “out of control” and I had a few extremes but in reality, I have been fairly in tune with my body my whole life regarding what it “felt like eating”. Part of that reality was admitting/incorporating the fact that emotional and mental components totally played a part in this and as long as I remained aware and sometime a bit more “vigilant” about being on a more nutritious track, I knew very well how to “maintain” or loose 5 to 10 pounds.
I had my hardest struggle when I lost all “vigilance” and the next thing I knew I was over 50 pounds over weight. I simply didn’t know how to loose that much! So I needed some help during those times…
What I’m talking about here is the “knowing” what my true self body is guiding me toward and trusting that, even if I don’t understand “why”.

I’d like to share some observations and tid bits of information that have come to me and maybe spark your own interest in researching it further and “checking within yourself” to see where you are on this topic if you too have had some promptings to “change things” regarding food this year- beyond the usual “let’s get healthy”, I have a health condition so I better do it, etc..
I want to talk about how our body FEELS after consuming different things. Being in tune with that is super important. By adding the level of awareness that both our physical bodies and emotional bodies can “crave” or have a “need” – and knowing which and why we choose one or the other is a cool level of helpful awareness that really connects us to our physical bodies here on Earth.

For example as I feel deeper into this new “need” to let go of the dense nature of meat, it actually makes sense to my spiritual body and is in my own “right timing”. I say that because many people take stances on eating or not eating meat for a multitude of reasons, none of which is what I’m referring to here since it can lead to forms of judgement and defensiveness and then we may not see our own deep needs or connections to the topic. For example, I am an avid animal lover and while it may seem odd to some that I have continued to eat meat, it is part of my own journey into awaking that is for me to go through and discover.
What I find fascinating is that this year, this “change” has naturally started to occur from WITHIN me, not pressure from others or any form of guilt or any such thing. It is truly what my energy system is “telling me” it needs for my physical body to “conform to” as it is important for my own spiritual awakening.

Ironically (or really not so much LOL – thank you universe 😁) I have stumbled onto supporting information from several sources that support the notion that for our physical bodies to be best prepared to remain on physical Earth during these changing energy times (from 3D to 4 and 5D) our bodies need to be less dense to allow for abilities to move within and throughout the new grids more easily.
I know, I know, to some it may sound woowoo still, but every time I check within on this, I am given a definitive “YES” this is accurate. I have also noted random conversations with many people, many who are not connected to energy related work at all, and they too are reporting this “strange draw or desire” to physically “lighten up” and adjust the intake of meat in particular.
How wild is that?!
So that leads one to believe there is something to the collective shift and the universal energy message to help us prepare – IF we are at least in-tune within enough to hear some of it.

So where are you in all this “physical body shifting” thing? How do these words make you feel? Are you like “duh! That makes total sense?- I knew that?” – are you like “hmm now that you mention it, that actually sounds and feels accurate” or “um. Nope, doesn’t make any sense and I don’t get what you are talking about”.
Regardless, I sure hope you look and feel further into it for yourself and see what is there and make note of how it guides your future directions. Maybe it’s just a new eye opener to finding your hearts path. Maybe it’s the “ah ha I’m onto something new to learn about myself”, or maybe it’s a confirmation that I’m on the right track.

To check in regarding this for yourself, ask some clarifying questions from a deeper place within you, like: “Is that what I was going for or do I need to adjust things next time?” Do I recognize that maybe I ate a “bad” for me food but it met a “need”? Then go further and notice “Did my body feel bad or better?” If bad, then probably another choice in handling the “why” for that food choice, would likely be better the next time. If my body felt “good”, then it was probably a congruent choice and what both (body and energy) may have needed as a way to help release something blocked. (Often the deeper aspects of recognition, awareness, and acknowledgement are a catalyst for supporting this part of “letting go” as it can help diminish the amount of “power” the unknown/hidden parts of us had in the situation and we can actually be hanging on.  So an AWARE emotional eating release – i.e. I am choosing to eat this piece of cake and I know it is not the most physically healthy choice, but the sugar in it is going to assist me mentally to work through an emotional issue at this moment and once it is gone/over, I can/will release it – freeing me up to be open to a new or different choice the next time – as I simultaneously recognize I do NOT have to utilize this as a defense mechanism to blindly follow when I become emotional the next time – since I am now more AWARE than I was, about the ego pay-off/reasoning for the choice in the first place)

As always I hope this sparks curiosity and wonder about our body connections and our future connection here on planet Earth. 🌎  Be well…

Peace and love
Shiela

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