Another message in March: What is Essential?

Another message in March: What is Essential?

By Shiela Reed

We are in a time of learning. Recognizing we are all “essential” in our right. As we watch things unfold we recognize that things we thought were “true” and/or important- may not have been as much so…

I have observed our country, our states, cities and town, our agencies, and families begin to truly struggle with this. Now acknowledging things that have been taken for granted as actually being “essential” all along while other things had been being treated as “necessary” really are not.

Unfortunately some are still holding onto old ideals and there is a power struggle. All around us as well as within. While I am saddened by the way some are handling it, I am equally refreshed by the fortitude of many others. We individually have many things to “work through” and THIS part of the process will be what heals the whole (the collective).

I hope as the clarity comes, the courage will not be too far behind. I continue to say the serenity prayer in these times as it helps to refocus me.

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

As we settle in the next round of expanding “shelter in place” – I cannot help but feel all the information coming in regarding how to care for ourselves, loved ones, and those most important to us. We may even find ourselves reevaluating who those people truly are. There are some very wonderful things being shared and extremely creative individuals sharing their gifts. Which we each have. I am reminded that even sharing that with one other person makes a difference and expands our vibrations of love by at least ten fold.

As this last week was a personal struggle on some levels, I would like to share why and what clarity came to me at the end of it…

My place of employment (like many) scrambled to come up with ways for the bulk of the workforce to work from home.
I cannot imagine the added layers of thought and debate it took and continues to take to make these hard decisions.
With information changing minute to minute and the overall pressure of the unknown over all.
While I saw the resolve of a large agency workforce – even if it wasn’t always pretty – we made it through one of the toughest weeks.

There was a lot of “hard”.
Struggles to make “office situations” become workable from home.
Shifting very serious policies and procedures to best accommodate the situation so the people we care for could still be cared for.
Deciding who worked from where and when. Who still needed to see people, who could briefly go to the office or not.
Figuring out how that all gets tracked and documented without having our usual tools.

The only thing that I ended up noting that did not make sense was the appearance of adding a new “initiative/task” as an “emergency” thing to do this same week. I still am questioning WHY? Why right then in the midst of a pandemic crisis did something become emergent? When staff were already uneasy, confused, and stressed. To me this was poor timing and a poor choice to inflict such unnecessary and undue added stress on a workforce that is NEEDED so desperately to remain healthy!

We all know these days that added stress lowers ones immune system and thus increases risk for illnesses. THIS is NOT the time to add stress! Even if there is something that is immediately needed (as was the case for many first responding agencies) there are different ways to approach that with an already stressed staff.

These are unprecedented times and we NEED people in leadership positions that will start thinking, behaving, and then acting compassionately. Not dictating or power mongering keeping people stuck in their fear, anxiety and worry.

This can easily hold true for any of us in any roll. Parents toward their kids, friends to other friends, bosses to employees, spouse to spouse..ect. if we ourselves don’t recognize where we are functioning from, we can all easily slip into this place of fear, anger, resentment etc – and then it can tend to lead to actions of over controlling.

Or course there are also some not so nice people out there who have no desire or interest in noting anything about themselves and will take this type of opportunity to run over as many people as they can – and to those people WE may need to open our mouths and have a voice to say that it is NOT OK when it crosses our personal boundaries.

Not because we are “better” but because in our hearts we recognize that it does not meet with our own integrity. This is our point of choice. Say something, yet we may still have to realize that if there is no change, WE then choose to stay or go.

I realize this can be a tough one to sort through. I struggle here frequently. So I try to remember- that it is the WISDOM to know the difference in what our true essentials are, after all… 😉

Peace, love, and blessings
❤ Shiela

March Message of the Month: Common Sense

March Message of the Month: Common Sense

by Shiela Reed

Having so called “common sense” is not something we are born with. It is learned as we are taught the fundamentals of life. We learn from our parents, family members, friends, schools, religious affiliations, and basically society as a whole. Sure some have a propensity to learning, but most can still grasp basic reasoning when done early and simply- BUT with a specific focus.
Whether anyone wants to believe it or not, like it or not, we do NOT LIVE ALONE on this planet. Sure there are varying degrees of freedoms which makes it appear that “free will” might even be questioned. But at the core, there is always a choice. When we checked in to this lifetime, we checked in for the “ride” and what there is to learn. About ourselves, the families we ended up in, the cultures we are in, the communities and even the country.

There is always good, bad, ugly, beautiful and every other description of human nature. We see it every day if we choose to. There are wonderful acts of kindness and compassion, there are horrible activities that are full of hate, and there is every degree in between which is where many struggle to decide “where they want to be today”.

This message came in this morning as many contemplate the behaviors of others lately. It sure has been an array of bizarre, kind, helpful, scared, panicked, angry and compassionate. The words “Common sense” came in and it seemed interesting to observe and contemplate my own reaction to that.

As I realized we probably all have a slight degree of difference in what that may be, it does seem that most of us act as if we are on the same page about it a lot of the time. Yet in reality, I notice that people seem to assume that everyone “gets it”. Even that kids should “just get it”.

What becomes apparent is that the reality is that most people DON’T get it because we have been “off” as a collective for so long that we no longer can even communicate about the basics. So we either march along to our own drum or follow the crowd without much given thought. Most folks are so incredibly focused on their own agendas that they do not realize or care that there still is a communal component to our existence. And with this comes “agreements” that we will behave together in certain ways.

Now I am not saying that all of these are necessarily good or bad, I am just pointing out that they exist and this may be where disagreements and division sets in. Over time, living like this with no discussion about the effects on each other, and only thinking individually, takes a toll on a group. THIS is the hard part! My individual wants and needs plus yours… what if they don’t fit together? Who determines that one is more important than the other?

I’m sure I don’t have to point out that rabbit hole.. 😉 But what popped in here was the connection to common sense. When there are no discussions and learning early in life about choices – natural consequences along with personal and group balanced living – we struggle. Both individually and as a whole. Again, I am not implying that everyone should just “march in line” and follow the status quo. That is missing the deeper point. It ALWAYS boils down to our individual choices and WHERE those are truly coming from. THEN our behaviors.

None of us can “save humanity”. But it does not mean we cannot do compassionate things out of love to help a neighbor. If our level of “common sense” is based off of selfishness or entitlement- our view of the world and what we do will be different than those that base it off of expansiveness and inclusion.

Think about how our children are learning today. Do they learn to include and think of others? Are they being taught to solve age appropriate problems of their own? Or are they being taught that they are the only ones that matter. That they can get things for “free”. Or that they are not capable of working something out with their peers…

There are so many examples and we all have been struggling to find our way. It’s been going on a LONG time! And it is summarizing right now in front of our eyes throughout the world.

What kind of society DO we want to live in? What does common sense look like? One where we are in a “free for all” all the time to survive? One where we work through hard stuff together? One where we have individual choices and freedoms yet still group rules and norms for basic order?

This is how big this is… it WILL create change. There are things that WILL be different.
Where it goes from here is up to US.

So, what is common sense to you today? Carry on like nothing is happening? Take it as it is and roll with it? Take precautions for the greater good, even though you don’t think you personally need them?

Personally I’m glad we have the freedoms to work through this “hard stuff”. Even if I wish everyone saw “common sense” the way I do. 😉 Still, I do hope and pray for more opening in all of our hearts to be able to communicate and work together- even if they/we disagree.

The life we are given is ours to do what we CHOOSE with… we don’t have to all be trailblazers – but we all do count and what we do with our life choices DOES matter to those around us.

May there be much love, peace, and blessings shared from your presence. 💓

Shiela Reed

DON’T PANIC–BREATHE by Bryan Moss

Fellow Souls, as of this writing, we are currently experiencing global panic. The circumstances surrounding the coronavirus are in the news, the latest topic of conversations and in our minds. People are stockpiling various supplies. Anything from canned goods to household items are leaving the shelves of stores. Many are conjuring in their minds end of the world scenarios.

My advice to you?

STOP IT!!!

Instead of buying into the manipulative, government-induced fears slow down, think clearly, use common sense and give yourself credit. Remember that bird flu virus? Remember SARS? All of the media-induced panic years ago back then? What became of them? Eventually, they all fizzled out. Stop looking for every shred of evidence that we’ll all die from the coronavirus. Use the same common sense you would use for any other flu virus. Stop looking at the news all the time to get “the latest” “up to date” whatever. It’s all designed to make everyone paranoid. Paranoia breeds fear.

Let me make something clear. I’m not suggesting we put our heads in the ground and ignore world events. It is our job to BE AWARE, not to be afraid. To keep ourselves informed is one thing. But to buy into the fear put out by the media will not serve anyone. Hysteria promotes powerlessness.

The worst thing any of us can do is start isolating ourselves from each other. We need to do the opposite. Come together and support one another. This is what our physical bodies, not to mention our souls, are meant to do. Educate one another. Keep our diets clean. Get exercise. And more importantly, harness our own powers by looking within. Connect with our essence. Meditate. Get outside in nature. Listen to our real brains, OUR HEARTS. Rely on our self-guidance. Maintaining our health physically, mentally and spiritually/energetically is of vital importance. Having peace within isn’t about isolating ourselves from a panicky world, sitting in the lotus position and humming a mantra. Self-mastery is about being amidst times like these and connecting/supporting one another while experiencing peace within.

I care about all of you.

It’s going to get whackier out there before it gets better. Don’t buy into the fear. That’s worst than the coronavirus. Give yourselves some credit and think with your Heart.

Consider this the public service announcement we should be receiving if the powers to be really did care about our well being.

The Grace I’ve been Given for my AA “birthday”

The Grace I’ve been Given for my AA “birthday”
By Shiela Reed
The grace I’ve been given started with a choice I made. Each and every time it’s been about me relinquishing my pride just enough to allow for a change that has healed me a little more than the day before.
Sometimes these have been very obvious pivotal moments that created a very different path. Other times it’s been very subtle.
During times of deep reflection and contemplation I become very aware of the blessing of Grace and am reminded that I am to be grateful for these opportunities to grow, even when they have tested me to what I think are my limits and I wonder why…This is my truth from when I turned to AA 14 years ago. As one of the pivotal BIG moments that changed the trajectory of my life. That choice was a stepping stone to multiple others and the things I’ve been open to learn about myself simply wouldn’t have been able to take hold without that one decision.
There’s no doubt I was a “hot mess”. Even if most people didn’t even see it that way. It wasn’t as “obvious” on the outside. There were binges enough but not exactly what many people would “add up” to being “a problem”. Sure, later, it may have made sense as an “oh yeah, I could see that” – but a small few really could see…

I was broken inside – but not unmendable. My “link” to my soul self had big gaps and while I saw and knew it was there, the distance between that and what my mind was seeing as “reality” – felt like the Grand Cannon. So I suffered silently and alone. Bouncing back and forth across this “canyon”. Touching base with my true self quietly yet not being able to fully connect it with a “true” living life. This kept me “unwell” and separate. Separate from Source and struggling to have a true connection with myself and others. When I was able to admit the damage and totality of what was being affected INSIDE ME… THAT was when it changed.I barely remember or recognize that life anymore. I think fondly of the times and “fun” and less of the pain since working through all that years ago, but I stay forever aware of the underlying components that create room for backsliding and relapses – of spirit and intention- that could negatively affect my inner integrity and ultimately have the potential to lead me to detrimental choices and behaviors.

My journey of self reflection and personal growth is a real matter of true “life or death” for me. No it isn’t always perfect, nor will it ever be. I have as many rough days as great ones, but I try my best to be thankful for them all.

While I find some interest and satisfaction and even elements of importance in reflection… I know it cannot become stuck lamenting over “should haves” or “could haves”. Each day is new and I have something new to learn. I am no longer that person, yet that person is very much a part of me. Just as our childhoods or pasts are no longer “us” and doesn’t need to “define”/confine us.. they are still very much a PART of us.I may run back into people from my past, I am sure I remember things “differently”.. it is interesting to reflect- but know that I am a new person with new things about me to get to know. That’s the relationship I have with myself today because I’ve been blessed to have it… one choice at a time.

It truly is a “one day at a time” focus that helps maintain neutrality and keeps us from getting stuck in the past or becoming too afraid of the future.

Today I am even more aware of the importance of not going back into the darkness of silence. I do not need to boast or brag or have an egotistical type of pride. (One that is based on thinking it is ALL my doing.) I know this is not the full truth. YES, it is MY choice, and for that I AM proud. Yet I realize to have the opportunity, to be open, and be shown those windows to my soul, is a divine blessing from somewhere greater than me.

For this sharing and oneness of sacred space, I am forever humbled and grateful as my soul/true self connects with my creator and the Divine.

Thank you for another year, another moment in time…

Much love and blessings and thanks for sharing this special time with me. ❤

Shiela

February Message of the Month: Decisions and True Connection – The Effect on Communication and Contribution

February Message of the Month:
Decisions and True Connection – The Effect on Communication and Contribution

by Shiela Reed


The energies of this month have already proven to be interesting. Things “feel different”. No matter if you are an “awakened” person, “awakening”, still “asleep” – it really doesn’t matter – it just feels like things have “changed”.

While most of us use “labels” to try and define or explain something from our perspective (from where we are right now) – it seems the communication gap is as wide as ever! We are ALL finding ourselves in differing levels of communication struggles and it is very connected to the recent large change associated with the universal energy shifting that has been taking place for years.

There is much talk “out there” about this “concept”/phenomenon/ “reality ” and more and more people are finding their way to information about it. My energy always feels compelled to remind folks of the importance of having that strong inner connection to your own heart, to navigate any and all information- ESPECIALLY in the times we are moving into. But there are many past blogs about that, and this month I am led to share some thoughts that I hope will spark something within you to dig a little deeper.

With the constant barrage of information and opinions flying around today, especially in areas such as social media and media in general, people seem to not be fully assessing for the “accuracy” and truth in information before jumping onto a “bandwagon”. I have caught myself doing this as well and it is impossible to stop ourselves from doing it if we do not SLOW DOWN and give something more thought and from a deeper perspective than our own “opinion” based programming. There is one majorly important thing to remember at these moments and that is that there is for sure more than just this one perspective/opinion and as soon as a person clamps down on a need to be “right” and start “convincing” others about it, true open communication is doomed. These are the triggers for the ego to have a hay-day with us all and keep us separated. And media, advertising, etc. – all know this…

So why is it that we continue to make decisions based on exterior information? Are we truly assessing from a deeper level? Seeing the multiple possibilities… or are we or do we get “stuck” in/on certain “road blocks”/”blind spots”? How, for example is it that we can say we don’t like someone but yet we can’t really give good reasons why? What is our assessment based on? Have we even looked at it from a heart based truth or is it there based on an ego illusion of “trying to protect us” from some unknown force or thing that may not even be true or accurate? What part are we playing in this?

Individual biases are deeper than most people realize. They grow from our own “programming”. Programs that come from family, ancestors, social networks, and society (the collective) as a whole. Sexism, racism, etc. – all these are ways that we are manipulated to be divided. Some we actually choose, some less so…

Regardless, if we don’t connect within our inner spirit and the divine love of and for all …we will continue to be led and manipulated. Those particular “forces” are growing stronger all the time.
Especially if we don’t wake up and start making this connection. There is great fear in change and “letting go” of trying to “control”. When we continue misinterpreting what we can and cannot control, this fear gains a deeper foothold. There is so much information out there and so many ways to access it immediately, that we have got to learn how to disseminate what it’s “true” and accurate for ourselves versus what is just leading us down a different rabbit hole of untruth.

Remember that doesn’t mean that the information that sounds terrible isn’t actually terrible, it may or may not be, depending on who is intercepting it. It’s not that obvious. Sometimes it raises strong emotions and those are times that we should really check ourselves. For example, it has rained for days, it is gloomy and our energy goes low, people complain and want sunshine. But the farmer or an area hit with heat and drought are thankful for the rain. All in due “right timing”…. if we let go of a need to “control”.

What is being triggered for us that would make us want to push our will upon others? Or “request something” for others when we do not really know the full magnitude of the divine will for someone else? Because that’s what it is.
We truly can only know this for ourselves when we are connected within. We do not know the will of our creator or God, whichever name you feel comfortable using. But yet as individuals we also realize we are part of a whole and we need to remember that the combination and culmination of what everyone is “contributing” will give us exactly that which everyone is feeding.

Our results will of course be a “mixture” of us all. Like one big cake. The days and moments when the “majority” are responding in fear or anger or other lower energetic vibrations – our “cake” will taste differently and “feed us” differently and “stick to us” differently than when the “majority” are awake and expressing love, acceptance, gratitude, and willingness for collaboration. Think about and FEEL how differently THIS cake tastes, feeds, and sticks to/with us…

The take away messages that came in for the month have been –

Release.. let go.. receive peace

We are individuals but we are not alone – we each are a part of and contribute to a whole.

It is not about OUR individual ego based “will”. It is our individual heart based “will” that is connected to “the ALL” – that feeds the “will” of the Divine.

Blessings to all-
Contemplate, meditate, and choose from the heart space of your inner you and divine light.

Much love
Shiela

The Only TRUE Currency by Bryan Moss

When looking into one’s future we’re brought up to look at any currency as a commodity for survival. Our focus is the immediate cash we use to accumulate things such as the basics like groceries, shelter, and clothing. Then there are the more intangible things like investments for our future or acquiring knowledge. More than likely, during these times of uncertainty for the world’s future, a currency usually equals paper bills, copper, silver, and gold.

When learning energy work for yourself you learn these are all basic needs of our ego. The ego being hot-wired to our survival mechanism. I can’t blame the ego. If it weren’t for my ego I wouldn’t know the basics of safety. Moving out of the way of an oncoming vehicle, thinking twice before approaching a bear, and literally keeping my head above water when swimming so I can breathe are all advantages to experiencing my ego. However, going beyond the basic currency of survival I suggest there is one currency that is often overlooked by the majority of the collective. The wisest investors, bankers, entrepreneurs, and families rarely use this one currency. It is often mistaken as an inconvenient form of currency with no real value and nothing to gain although it has tremendous investment opportunities and has been known to give back thousands in returns. Guaranteed to alleviate stress and bring an abundance of happiness and fulfillment into your life.

Ready to read about an excellent investment opportunity? FORGIVENESS.

“Uh”, you say? “WTF?”

Advances in science and psychology have shown that holding grudges and experiencing anger towards others and self contributes to less creativity, less problem-solving, increased stress, and major anxiety.

I know from my personal life this is true. I’m currently experiencing a situation with a close family member that wreaks of forgiveness opportunities yet I’m finding it difficult to get there……yet. But I’m proud to say, like Michaelangelo chiseling away at his David statue, I’m chipping away at the grudges and feelings of injustice I have towards this family member. And I’m feeling lighter day by day. Now I’m not dancing on my coffee table, doing cartwheels and feeling nothing but blissful love about the whole dynamics of our situation. But once I stopped thinking of me only and came from trying to really understand the family member’s way of thinking I find myself having a little more understanding and compassion from where this member is coming from. Do I agree with their demeanor? No. However, another little “nugget of truth” revealed itself during this process.

I’ve had layers and layers of buried anger and grudges towards this family member from years and years of perceived injustices. Experiences that I wasn’t willing to acknowledge for a variety of reasons. Talk about doing some homework! I’ll be the first to admit it’s not pain-free homework. Reflecting back then the reason I buried those memories is that I didn’t want to experience the full pain and anger while being afraid to express those feelings. Or I should say, my ego (mind) didn’t want to experience and express those feelings. In order for my ego to thrive and survive it broke out the snow shovel and buried those feelings deep within thinking it could forget everything and move on.

Being an energy worker I know the first person I have to forgive for burying those unexpressed feelings is myself. How do I do that? By understanding that my ego didn’t know any better, survival being its sole purpose of existence. Then I was able to cut myself some slack and forgive myself for being hard on myself for burying the gunk, to begin with. If I knew better I would have done better. This also applies to this member of my family, if they knew better they would have done better. I spend at least five minutes a day closing my eyes and talking to my “inside self” and see what comes up. In my case, about this family member. Then I ALLOW it to come up in whatever shape or form. Anger, frustration, tears, are all welcomed. From doing energy work I’ve learned to fully re-experience those emotions. I’m able to let go of the past. In allowing those buried feelings to surface I’m freeing up tons of energy. Energy that I can put towards more creative endeavors and experiences.

Another perk from working on forgiveness? I find myself giving more, in the most unexpected ways. Holding the store’s door open for another customer to enter before I do, giving my spare change to the soul holding the cardboard sign on the street corner, or giving a simple smile to the clerk are quickly becoming automatic gestures of kindness without my ego’s interference. I find myself grinning inside and out.

I’m still working on total forgiveness for this family member. Unlike what my ego wants me to think I know I’m not perfect and know I have to be patient with myself and stop projecting any negative feelings towards this person. I know the more I let go, the more I grow.

The truth is the more I let go……..my forgiveness account grows. The best currency there is!

“Check, please.”

January 2020 Message of the Month – Balance of Past, Present, and Future

Balance of Past, Present, and Future

by Shiela Reed

Welcome to 2020! A new year and new decade!

What an amazing time to be alive! There is so much going on and I find myself embracing this life as I know it now. This is quite a bit different than how I have known things. It’s nice to actually finally feel that things are coming together.

I had been mostly aware and connected to my physical beingness as far as an outward expression, up to around 2010 and had always felt and had a very “separateness” to my inner self and awareness. I always knew it was there, and I actually always knew what it was saying, but I found myself often “ignoring it”. I kept choosing to be connected to one or the other at different points and finally realized I actually wasn’t “balanced” at all! Instead I needed to “blend” so it was one, the other, both, the same, and neither all at once.

My journey up to that point was a lot of reconciling the past, so as I went deeper into my inner soul journey and what I “thought” that needed to be, I found I really started to separate from my physical and didn’t exactly realize it. So over these years of inner work and “leaving out the physical” – I really just perpetuated a different version of the same duality. As that came more into my awareness the last couple of years I have found myself kind of naturally working on melding/blending/balancing them and naturally finding the inclusion of all my aspects. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual/soul, energetic/etheric.
Interestingly enough, it is not until now, at this point in time, have I really felt such a cool “clearness” to this awareness and what it feels like to kind of be “together” in ONE.

So as I meditate and contemplate this season of my life and feel the awareness of my previous work and especially how the first half of this last decade began to pull together the acknowledgment that my past experiences were learning opportunities, was I able to start to be able to truly embrace and forgive myself for not “knowing everything”. I learned to allow healing of much of my “past”. And as the mid to later parts of the last decade began to show me how to begin looking at the importance of becoming more in-tune with my present self, I found myself naturally ending the last year of this decade also becoming more aware that my future self has something to contribute as well. I find a deep self healing resonance in this space as my true self shows me the creation of my own trinity of “full self”.

THIS has been the most recent work I have been doing and it is very humbling how this has shown itself to me and how the next decade of the journey for me is to be about further combining, melding, and balancing all three to feel true PEACE in my present moments.

So I feel compelled to share the message of this month, the first month of a new year and new decade- as it is time to feel balance in our past, present, and future.

As I draw from my own journey and works and the message that has come forward for this month and year, my hope is that there is something that resonates to move you one step closer to your own true purpose in your own journey.

While we all have different places we are at, there is a need for understanding and remembering that it’s all important, but just in different ways than our mind tries to understand it. I believe this is why it is difficult to write and share it sometimes.

We may know mentally that the “past is the past”, but we don’t understand why we cannot seem to “let go” of something in particular. This is the example of an energetic tie which is usually related to an element of our ego needs being met somehow. We either found safety, solace, acceptance, justification or any other number of “pay off’s” that we thought were meant to “make us feel better” or “support” us in some way.

For me, a very important turning point was being able to truly see that we do the best we can with what we have at the time and I feel that with true heartfelt compassion. While I’ve always said that and known it, I strangely realized, I had seemed to always do this much more freely with others than I could for myself. This is likely why I was drawn to being part of the helping field professions. Once I noticed this began to shift for me, it helped me see there was so much more to my “aliveness”.

I began to see the effects on my “nowness”. So this understanding that truly being PRESENT then expanded to include learning how to reconcile my own past within myself. We can see that occur for people when there is a deeper level of forgiveness that truly has “no strings attached” and it’s expression radiates with a feeling of unconditional love. When I started to feel that for myself, it was amazing the warmth and expansion I felt within.

The present became something that was “more” than it had been. It now included a healed part of me.

Today, there is a recognition that my newest understanding of “being present” also has inclusion of the future. Not as in controlling it and/or being afraid of it, which is what I found to be blocking my ability to truly to connect to it. But a similar kind of lovingness I learned to have by embracing my past.  The ability gain the balance of having a connection to my future self is equally important and necessary for me to truly be PRESENT in my current moments.

As this has also been expanding for me, I feel the beginnings of a similar shift. A space of new awareness and growth. It shows me new information about myself and the world I’m a part of. This change and paradigm shift in our present world seems to be reflecting similarly in many others. It says “balance the past and future to create the truest form of the present”.

Clearly we each have our own role/part in this process. It does not mean the present becomes “perfect”. Every “part” still contributes to the “whole”. So they won’t be the same.  So we will need to pay attention to being drawn to judgement, of self or others.  We will learn to be “ok” with different because deep down we know WE are ok too.

I am truly hopeful that as this year unfolds and the exciting new things emerge- we can all begin to see how we can each choose our parts to contribute to that “newness” and begin to do that more and more together. By combining the cool differences to create something new.  A new invention, a new theory, a new thought, a new way of life….  Even if we are different from one another.

So may your reflections on your past show you your life lessons and your true inner self show you how to be easy with yourself and others, as you learn to allow those lessons to unfold into new experiences in the present. And in these new experiences may we all be able to see the excitement of a new lesson and the opportunities it brings while not being fearful of our future.  Thus we may fully embrace being a soul with a body in this world.  And so it is…

Many blessings and hopes for a new year and decade full of building blocks that will be the solid base we each need for the bigger future.

Shiela

A REMINDER: THE SELF HEALING PRAYER CIRCLE

On the LAST MONDAY OF EVERY MONTH we offer a FREE service to the public we call The Self Healing Prayer Circle. The next session will be Monday, July 29th, 7 PM Pacific Standard Time (USA). To register please contact Bryan at:

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Take the first step to take of yourself and your challenges.

To see if this is a service that feels right for you, please click on the Services page and read the description and intention of The Self Healing Prayer Circle. Again, this a FREE service.

Please have a safe and healthy New Year!

 

SAY YES TO YOURSELF by Bryan Moss

I’ve noticed many people on the spiritual path don’t have an issue when it comes to helping others in need, it’s when asked if they’ve accepted and love themselves they tend to give some interesting reactions.
The most common reaction is one of being slightly annoyed, responding with an empty, “Of course I accept and love myself.”
Some people are caught off guard with that question because they never even thought about the subject.
Then some people look at you with, “What do you mean?

THE TRUTH IS many on the spiritual journey aren’t used to accepting and giving themselves love. Don’t get me wrong, most have noble intentions and mean well. However, they’re always projecting love out to others first. Like being on auto-pilot. They believe that their sole duty is to serve others, putting themselves on the back burner.

I know I’m going to catch a lot of flack for what I’m going to say next, but these are my true feelings and I wouldn’t be true to my soul if I sugar-coated what I believe just to make readers happy.

In my opinion “sacrifice” is a dirty nine-letter word. I think sacrificing oneself is the ego’s way of making someone feel like they’re special. On a “special mission” to save mankind. To be a “holy hero” among fellow souls. I’ve touched on this in different ways in my previous writings. Putting yourself on the back burner shows you don’t really care about your own well being. Think about it. What difference can you make for others when you don’t care enough to tend to your own needs? What good are you? If you don’t care of your own business first how are you going to be able to give the full, proper attention to anyone else? And I mean taking care of yourself on all levels. Emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually. Getting enough rest, enough water intake, proper nutrition, exercising on a regular basis, having a regular meditation routine, the list goes on.

Self -Love is NOT about loving yourself, it’s about learning the truth about yourself. Read that line again and let it really sink in. Self-Love is NOT about loving yourself, it’s about LEARNING THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF. And ONLY then, when you begin to learn the truth about yourself, can you begin to accept, forgive, and then love yourself FIRST. Only then can you move on and compassionately give that acceptance, forgiveness, and love to others.

It’s no big secret that you can’t accept another person’s faults until you’ve accepted similar faults within your own self. The energetic rule of thumb is, if someone is doing something that makes you angry, or hurt, or even slightly irritated, then you most likely have those same qualities in you that are unresolved. We’re all mirrors of one another. Our egos don’t want us to acknowledge this but it’s true.

The same applies to forgiveness. Have you ever been told by someone they forgive you and it seems ‘robot-like’? It’s just because ‘they’re spiritual’ and this makes them bigger than you because, after all, that’s what spiritual people do is forgive? Start taking an honest look at yourself. Notice any shame or guilt you kept stored inside you for months or most likely YEARS. The stuff you can’t seem to look at again. But do it with a soft eye and remember at that time you handled the experience the best you could. Even if you knew at the time it was a stupid mistake, then acknowledge you made a stupid choice. This is when you begin to take true responsibility for yourself. Forgive yourself for any harm you did at the time, whether it was to yourself or others. Only then can you unconditionally start forgiving others and grow during your journey.
Accepting the truth about yourself is the only way you can even begin to accept the truth about others. It’s not even about two sides of the coin, coming from Yourself vs. Them. The truth is people life is a one-sided coin. We all deal with the same experiences in different shapes and forms. The sooner you wake up to that fact the sooner you’ll begin to eliminate frustration and victimhood from your path.

Here’s another line I’ll probably get grief over: You’re wasting your time giving to others until you unconditionally give to yourself. Everything I’ve previously said applies to this fact. Be vigilant in rediscovering all of the corners in your shadow’s closet. But do it without judging yourself. Acknowledge it and move on. You don’t need permission from anyone to liberate those hidden emotions within. Let me put it this way…..you’re eventually going to do it anyway. Whether it’s now from your own honest efforts or on your death bed. Most people, out of fear, wait until circumstances appear that have them contemplating all of this for months, weeks, days, and at times..moments before they know they’re going to die. It’s only then they realize all of those ‘hidden truths’ were not that important to keep hidden. It’s only then they realize all of the wasted effort and energy it took for them NOT to be truthful with themselves. All of that effort and energy….which could’ve been utilized in more supportive and productive ways, for themselves, and then for others.

DON’T WAIT. Don’t procrastinate in taking a look at the truth of yourself. The number one dreaded enemy of procrastination is “the sooner the easier”.
Say “YES” to discovering all of the truth about yourself.
Why wait?

December message of the month:  Endings, Beginnings, and Powerful Energy

December message of the month:  Endings, Beginnings, and Powerful Energy

By Shiela Reed

There has been so much going on the last few months it seems that as I ebbed and flowed through my own world and life, I realized no solid “message of the month” came to me in November.  I was very tuned in to my own Golden Jubilee birth month and the afterglow from an incredible journey to Europe – specifically United Kingdom and Ireland the previous month, that well….  I just accepted that nothing lengthy came of it.  Yet a few inspirational things I jotted down may be of significance –

November 1st – Don’t get caught up in comparisons:  whether with others or your own thoughts of an ideal past or future life.  It will only bring you down and you will suffer ego illusions.  Tricking you into thinking you have a “bad life”.

Our life is our own, we have the things to learn, we have things to see, and we are here in an effort to become aware and pay attention to it all at our own pace.

November 26th – “Feel more Blessed than Stressed – by having a heart full with gratitude”

So it seemed that with a sense of very clear “ending” in many aspects for November – there was an equal and balanced feeling of “new beginnings” right around the corner coming into December.  I was also reminded of a past reflection regarding the “power of intention” and the importance of remembering the true level of power that is actually behind them, even if we are not fully aware of them.  It can take us far into any direction – and although there is no “judgement” about it, we tend to say that there is a positive or negative associated with it, depending on what we see as the outcome.

The energies behind our intentions are very powerful… even if we don’t consciously notice or see them.  This also plays a part in what pulls us to our Future or ties us to our Past and thus can “make or break” our current moments in life.

So use it wisely, be aware, consider it thoroughly and make the choices that are true to you, helping you to be the best version of YOU and thus supports the higher good.  This is a strong support for both the ending and beginning.

November and December bring endings and beginnings

In the midst of endings often it is hard to remember that there is always an opening for new beginnings.  We just need to sometimes remember to trust in that.  It is interesting that November was already showing this “ending” and December was showing new beginnings since we are so usually focused on this at the actual end of the year.  But this shift has been significant for a reason.  The type of energy field that is transitioning is doing so as a kind of “final hurrah” as the new year will be bringing very different forms of thinking, processing, and “doing” in general.  There is still a huge learning curve to contend with, but the way I am understanding this to play out from November to December is specifically to give us a really clear “heads up” and kind of “last chance” to get some stuff in order and be more clear.  (revisit the above about the power of our intentions for example 😉)

Lots going on December 2019

While the feeling of change from November to December has been big and it has felt like the change of a year… with THAT still yet coming our way!

My research and promptings tell me to pay extra attention around the full moon (see link below), new moon, and year end change this year.  While there are always elements of significance with annual year shifts, this one feels as if it is meant to be a year of “new beginnings” creating a “new base” from which we will each build our new future.  So paying closer attention to where and how we spend our time and who with is important, because they all will have a lasting impact on our futures.

This is also true of where and how we spend our money.  Supporting places and/or things that do not fit with our own inner truths- will result in more of a noticeable sense of “pain” in some way because it violates our inner integrity and that is going to be more and more impossible to “ignore”.

I personally am making note of the need to pay attention to my own promptings even more than usual and trust them without question.  I have started that this month and while it would seem to usually be uncomfortable, there is a level assuredness- that helps me just “know” it is necessary, it is true, it will be well.  Even though I can feel elements of chaos floating all around me, I feel a strong sense of “due north” for myself right now.

Specifically- I’m tuning in to some additional training’s, speaking up, and looking at how setting my boundaries in all areas in the next few weeks is very necessary.  I feel the importance of connecting to astrological information,  and furthering my use of my crystals, oils, and natural elements.  This seems to be a good “training time” for us all.

So far, by already doing this, I have felt and seen movement in terms of what is coming into view for the next year and how that is and will be part of my expanding energy guidance and healing practice.

It continues to amaze me at the state of awareness I find myself blessed to be a witness to and how my heart knows already there is a benefit of this all, that it will be a greater help and support to others than I can even see or imagine.  It is there… in the future.. waiting for me.  I will arrive… see you soon. ❤

Here are a couple cool resources I found and have utilized that is interesting and speaks to much of this in greater detail if you are interested in deeper information.

FULL MOON energies https://www.moonomens.com/12-12-gateway-last-full-moon/

December energies https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-7vdBI0kaU

Many blessings and much love –

Shiela